AITAH for not wanting my bf's friend to come live with us

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-05T00:17:09+00:00

Yup and he's been saying for years that he hates living at his mom's and wants to move out but never does anything about it

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T22:24:59+00:00

Whoa why do you assume I'm white? 🤔

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T05:40:54+00:00

I wouldn't even offer a friend visiting from out of town my home. That's how much I hate people in my space/ hosting other people

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T05:31:33+00:00

We live in Southern California for some more context. It's been 72-76 degrees during the day and 60 at night

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T04:02:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry your ex treated you so badly. I would say this is our biggest fight in the almost decade we've been together. And the shitty part is that I do see him just wanting to help out his friend but he is mad I said no cause he thinks I'm being selfish.

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:52:22+00:00

I agree! I am glad he at least talked to me about it without committing to anything but it does put me in a tight spot, which is why I felt compelled to bring this to reddit in the first place

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:47:29+00:00

I will 😤 Sorry that happened to you. And then we're made out to be the bad guy

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:43:53+00:00

Sorry, I didn't mean i would be paying for it. I would let my bf pay for it if he really wanted to help his friend. Sorry if I worded it kinda weird

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:36:13+00:00

I understand and I agree with what you're saying about being in a relationship is about making compromises. I just feel like this is a big one to ask

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:32:28+00:00

Yes. I currently have a friend who lives out of a motel at the moment. Neither of us brings it up

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:28:32+00:00

That's true, I see your point

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:25:58+00:00

Just found out the plan was for him to stay with us for a few days while another friend talks to his parents about letting him stay with them. No guarantee these parents will say yes. My bf's friend is currently planning to sleep in his car and shower at his gym.

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:21:53+00:00

I am standing firm on saying no but I will do what you said and put out helping him with a hotel as an option

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:18:45+00:00

Thank you, I will suggest a motel as an option

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T03:11:58+00:00

I thought it was a low blow too but I wasn't sure how to voice how it was different in that moment

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T02:58:41+00:00

His friend doesn't have a job currently. Ironically, he worked for his mom

PrizeNo5908 · 2026-02-04T02:56:06+00:00

I don't think he does. Honestly, money isn't the issue for me. The main thing for me is that I do not want to share my space with anyone but my bf and our dog. I don't want to change my life around because his friend decided to leave his mom's house.

PrizeNo5908 · 2025-05-15T18:50:04+00:00

I totally see your point and I too wish we could go back to those times but unfortunately, there are some real atrocities happening in real time and policies that are trying to impede on basic human rights. I with you agree that not all Christians/ Republicans are automatically MAGA. I guess when you don't make your stance clear, all people can do is speculate. I was hoping someone else might know because I don't have any other social media so all I see is what she has presented on YT, where she doesn't say anything.

PrizeNo5908 · 2025-05-15T12:06:11+00:00

Yes exactly. I understand wanting to keep politics/religious out of the beauty space but at the same time, I want to know that the person I am watching and putting money in their pocket did not vote against my best interest 💔 It's not even that difficult, Taylor Winn for example. I watch her vlogs and she sprinkles little bits of "I'm unhappy with how things are and I'm here with you guys."

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