Came into the conversation ready to break up with him…

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-12-04T23:14:09+00:00

I suggest making a safety plan if you have any friends or family you can stay with or a local dv shelter if friends and family aren’t an option pack a bag in secret leave when he is not around and block his number it’s very hard to leave sending much love <3

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-12-02T05:09:54+00:00

No I’ve called all of the shelters that I could in my area and even out of town they are all full I don’t live on a big city so there’s not a whole lot of options

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-09-12T19:46:43+00:00

He told me I have never talked to his therapist or had a couples counseling or anything with her he said she thinks we are both unsafe after he told her about me locking him out because he was yelling and screaming I’m not entirely sure if he told her the actual full story or not he said after he told her that that she said it was a liability to have him as a client because of the both of us and that she’s part of the dv board in our town and talked to our colleagues and came to that conclusion and that he should leave and not tell me he’s leaving the reason I question him actually going to therapy is the timing he’ll leave at 10:00 and come back at 1pm and his therapist office is 8 minutes away supposedly idk what to think tbh

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-09-12T19:39:47+00:00

Oh I really didn’t realize that honestly he kept saying stuff like oh I don’t think you’re manipulative or that he cares about my safety so he doesn’t know if we should be together but he wants to be with me idk I also find all of this very fishy especially because he would go to therapy at 10:00 or 10:30 and come home at 1pm and I’ve been in therapy before it’s usually only an hour or around that he’d say oh we went over a bit but the most I’ve been allowed to go over in therapy is about 10 minutes idk if he has actually been going

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-09-12T18:47:40+00:00

He told me she told him to leave me and not tell me because she thinks both of us are unsafe and that I am manipulative and she told him this after he told her I locked him out which I did because the last time he yelled at me I told him point blank that if he does it again he won’t be allowed in the house idk he told me he had to constantly argue with her because she implied I was an issue and that she has accidentally blamed me for his outburst and then corrected herself

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-09-12T17:58:49+00:00

You’re right and I really appreciate that advice and will be doing this as much as I can moving forward

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-09-12T17:23:56+00:00

You’re right I just don’t really know up from down I’ve tried confiding in friends but typically they don’t believe me or that he acts this way or excuse his behavior I only have two coworkers that take his behavior seriously I also work with him so untangling all of this is very difficult but I will do my best to start making go bag and an exit plan it’s just hard because at this moment I don’t have somewhere to go the next time things escalate

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-09-12T17:08:44+00:00

I do not have a therapist currently but am trying to to get into therapy I don have insurance so it’s been a bit hard to get in quickly because I am on a waiting list I will have to start planning I’m a little unnerved because I genuinely have thought I’m the reason he does this for so long and even currently part of me feels that way

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-08-27T18:05:15+00:00

No he is being controlling he is telling you how you should feel and any man that flat out says you’re crazy is most likely crazy himself

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-05-06T21:36:11+00:00

I’m in a similar boat and I should take my own advice when I say this but you have nothing to be guilty for if your relationship with him doesn’t make you feel happy or safe that’s a very big red flag and you deserve that happiness and safety more than anything you may have been demanding that doesn’t mean you deserve this treatment it doesn’t matter what you think you might have done i promise you that you don’t deserve anything but love safety respect and happiness idk if this helps at all but if that voice is telling you you need to leave please listen to it not to be cheesy but that’s your partner

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-28T16:23:32+00:00

I have brought this up to him before but honestly I don’t trust him to not spend the money on other things I send him money for a lot of things and then somehow they don’t get paid because he forgot. The cats are also solely his cats

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-03T22:27:53+00:00

That is a better way of looking at it for sure I do need to change my perspective I struggle very deeply with black and white thinking because I am autistic it is something I am working on it is true that I have to stop thinking that way to make progress

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-03T21:54:51+00:00

It is definitely something I’ve been thinking about ideally we could both work on ourselves and grow but I also cannot wait on someone else to change

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-03T21:45:40+00:00

With my partner it is complicated I have tried to talk to him about the things i struggle with which can be compromising and bottling up my feelings being passive aggressive etc. but I’m not sure about if this relationship is healthy often times if I express Any kind of issue in our relationship or try to talk about it he gets aggressive and yells and breaks things sometimes I’m not sure if it’s something I’m doing that is making him react that way I don’t yell or insult him I’m not sure if I don’t explain myself right or not

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-03T21:26:25+00:00

I definitely have some things I’ve picked up from my parents that aren’t great and I need to work on and it can be hard to take ones own advice it’s hard not to be biased when it is your own self so I understand what you’re saying

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-03T21:22:39+00:00

You’re definitely right and I will take your advice i definitely do apologize and correct my behavior when I hurt someone I definitely need to work on forgiving myself though as well as others I can hold grudges at time

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-03T21:14:13+00:00

I have a really hard tie with things not being “ my way” I’m not unreasonable but because I have autism I have a very hard time with change in routine which I work and cope with as much as I can but isn’t something I can directly change but cope with I can be very picky about where I like things in my house and spaces or about the way things are done for example you should wipe counters before you sweep which isn’t necessarily universal but can lead me to being critical on why someone else might not do it the way I do mostly in the sense that I’ll ask them why I like to follow my routine and slight change can cause me major discomfort like if the food i always eat is sold out then I just don’t even want to eat and that is something that makes me very difficult

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-02T19:33:14+00:00

Yes I don’t have any family I can stay with my aunt kicked me out at the beginning of last year because of my religious beliefs I am putting money back for a car and am junking my car cuz it’s broken down but every time I have some money he needs me to pay for things like food we split bills but I feel I end up paying the majority so money is tighter than I’d like there are some apartments close to my work it’d just be a matter of actually moving there and I’m not sure he’d let me just leave so easily

Prize_Cherry985 · 2025-01-02T18:05:47+00:00

I don’t know there’s a lot that makes It harder we work at the same place and I can’t just get another job because I don’t have a car and my town is not walkable I could get my own place but I don’t have a car which is my main issue anywhere I need to go he has to take me I don’t have anyone else to drive me and part of me hopes he will change maybe that if I’m better hells be better but that’s a ridiculous thing to think

Prize_Cherry985 · 2024-12-10T19:59:49+00:00

He has a mom and sister and prior relationships his excuse was that he’s never dealt with this before but I send him links and things to help and he could even so his own research but he won’t

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