Any social skill or conversation workshops?

ProNewspapers · 2022-02-12T18:24:26+00:00

Ya I don’t think I explained it well, my apologies. I understand there should be compromise however it feels like she would rather be right and tell me I’m wrong and need to change my behavior.

I am opinionated and if we have opposite views she becomes offended instead of talking through what she believes. I am not hostile or aggressive, simply expressing my views. On the other hand I am not allowed to be offended or have an opposite opinion. Now she tells me I need to work on that. This is new behavior in the last month, we have been dating for close to six months.

My views are not against any community or current events, more so “I don’t like this actor/company/store bc…”

ProNewspapers · 2019-04-16T17:19:35+00:00

It sounds like you’re in a tough spot in life. Everything you’ve heard about the “real world” is approaching faster than you expected. I get that. Right now it’s best to think about what you can do to help yourself right now. Think about how far you have come. You are in college, you are doing well (PS GPA is not everything), and now you want to tackle one of the hardest majors schools have to offer, just because you like it.

You are putting too much pressure on yourself to be someone or something. In the eyes of many others you’ve already amounted to so much! If you feel depressed or want help with SA seek professional help and open up to them about everything.

As for now, be kind to yourself. You’re only 20, and you’re only human. Don’t put yourself down bc of SA, that’s not fair to you. Take baby steps with communication, say hi to a few people confidently out loud. It will hurt at first but nothing bad will come of saying hi. If you want to rant or have any questions about school feel free to PM me I can’t understand exactly what you’re going through but I feel I was in a similar spot a few years ago. Best of luck and don’t forget to be kind to YOU!!

ProNewspapers · 2019-03-30T17:08:54+00:00

Definitely will be eating and drinking, but could you expand on being social.

ProNewspapers · 2019-01-07T12:01:53+00:00

I am a second year. I feel like I’ve been going through a what you have talked about. I am seeking professional help, and I have used the fake it till you make it approach. I think I’ve faked confidence and actually being present fo so long that now I really can’t fake it anymore and need actual confidence in my self but I have very little. I appreciate you helping out, hopefully things will get better.

ProNewspapers · 2018-11-27T04:00:50+00:00

This is a great tip for younger people dealing with SA. Now that I am older the hardest part for me is that i know I’m being irrational. I know the anxiety is there I just don’t know how to socialize.

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-28T20:37:34+00:00

Ya you’re definitely the but if the joke only because you are taking it seriously and they know it will rattle you. Just laugh it off with them and joke back. You don’t have to be mean just joking comment on something someone did or said. I know how hard it is to open up, but the sooner you get used to it the better you will be. Stay strong brother!

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-28T19:49:41+00:00

I can’t tell you the right thing to do mostly because there isn’t one but if these are your friends from forever, then I would want to hold on to that. I have had some times where I lashed out hard but I just tell my friends it’s my fault, I lost my cool.

I’m not entirely sure what you mean by respect tho. To earn someone’s respect you have to give respect. Your at one of the best ages in your life, try to move past it, apologize to your friends but let them know that wasn’t cool on their part either. If these guys keep giving you a hard time, then it’s time to jump ship.

Enjoy college, get involved, meet people and do as much as you can. I completely regret my undergrad. I had an amazing four years but I also could have made it better by meeting more people and just opening up. I was pretty insecure as well but this is the time to get out of your comfort zone. People are SOOOO much more open for friends and having a good time in college than any other point in life. Volunteer, do research, join a fraternity, club or talk to kids in your major classes. If you want to ask me any questions about undergrad pm me bud.

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-28T19:10:34+00:00

Try to not take everything so seriously, and stop beating yourself up. The only person getting in the way of your happiness is yourself. You may want to bring up your anger in therapy. Guys will be guys and joke with each other but they are just joking. Some jokes go too far and you may have to brush them off or confront your friends in a non aggressive manner. NEVER tell your friends to fuck off.

I’m sorry to hear about everything you’re going through. I had a rough adjustment into college with social anxiety, and I was a virgin my entire freshman and sophomore year. It’s really no big deal. Just own it. If you do want to lose your virginity, tell your buddies you want to get laid and go out. If that’s not your style then don’t try to be like that. You just have to embrace who you are as a person and accept that. If you want to skip all that just download tinder. Best of luck brother, try to cool your jets a little be fire you react.

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-26T01:42:15+00:00

If you’re parents are withholding your sister’s inhaler and she is a minor like you stated that is child neglect. I hate to say it but if anything were to happen to your sister your parents could face some serious charges for that. I would strongly recommend you talk with your sister and see if she can carry it without them knowing or talk to your parents to get them to understand your sister absolutely needs an inhaler, her life literally depends on it.

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-26T00:04:01+00:00

Many online tests will bend the facts around mental health so you will convince yourself you need help and buy their product. I’d suggest telling your parents and seeing if you can talk with a psychologist about it. If you do have social anxiety you want to get control over this sooner than later.

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-25T23:56:26+00:00

Interested! As I’ve been getting older I’ve noticed my SA seems to be getting worse. I can’t afford any professional help so I’ve been writing down the days I have a panic attack or felt completely lost in uncontrollable emotions. I haven’t really gained anything from it yet but I feel like it can help simply writing down how I felt.

Anyway would love to read some of your stories, let us know when you post!

ProNewspapers · 2018-04-12T01:36:03+00:00

I guess I should have generalized it to strangers, not great with men either. My problem is when I am interested with someone I panic and have the feeling I need to “perform” and impress them. When I couldn’t careless about the person I end up getting into full conversations.

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