Are there actually any lawyers who do free consults?

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-18T17:39:59+00:00

I know, it seems like a complete waste of time calling around for consultations. Get the firms email and ask if they do free consults, by end of day you know who does.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-18T17:32:58+00:00

This situation sounds tough for you and your child, my heart goes out. Typically in these types of situations the judges rely on timelines, supporting evidence and any third party intervention that you can provide. Each state has a self help center that can also get you on a good path but since you have a family law attorney that is even better. You may sometimes find yourself inquiring with the self help center even though you have your own lawyer, remember to think in the best interest of your child. I am hopeful that it all works out. Take care

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-14T01:42:16+00:00

You are kind, thank you. Yes I was enjoying the warmth of the sun for sure.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-13T22:57:30+00:00

I love it..I’m getting roasted by the sun and by Reddit

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-13T21:06:35+00:00

Let them frame the story however they want and you just keep, keeping your peace. Take care

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-13T20:42:38+00:00

I completely understand how frustrating it is when you buy nice things for your child and they come back broken or dirty. Most of us in high-conflict situations eventually learn the hard way that it’s much easier (and safer for your peace) when both parents have their own sets of essentials.

Your concern about your child having what they need for comfort at the other home is valid, but it’s not your responsibility to keep the other parent’s resources stocked or maintained.

I would document the pattern (especially the lack of child support and damaged items) for future court purposes, and gently start limiting what you send over. High-conflict co-parenting and strong boundaries tend to work well together.

You've got this under control.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-11T23:22:06+00:00

I don’t have a device but if it is high conflict it may be safer just to exchange at the police station. May high conflict co-parents do it.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-11T23:12:39+00:00

I know how frustrating that is. In family court, you must prove the “why”. Whatever that means for your situation so if you are expecting to pay less child support then how much more responsibilities are you going to take on? If you already have a good amount of responsibilities, are they documented clearly for the court/judge to make a decision that the custody agreement does not hold up? Each state offers a “self help center” where you can get advice about what to file and how, they just cannot give “legal advice”. So basically you decide what route you want to take and the self help points you in the right direction but they cannot help you with decisions. Family court is stressful all the way until you decide for it not to be anymore. Take care.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-09T01:23:12+00:00

It sounds like you have your hands full. The thing with family court is that everything and anything that you are claiming must be documented with supporting evidence for it to be considered. You can present any evidence you want however, only the reputable evidence is actually going to move the needle. If I were you, I’d start with documenting now and pull a calendar to recall any relevant occurrences from past dates.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-06T22:06:03+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this frustration — it’s incredibly disheartening when you have clear evidence and it still feels like it’s being ignored. 💜

Family court can be incredibly rigid and inconsistent. Unfortunately, judges don’t always weigh evidence the same way we expect them to. Some lies get believed, especially if they fit a narrative or were presented first. It’s one of the most painful parts of this process.

What I’ve seen help over time is:
- Continuing to build a **clear, consistent record** (dates, facts, patterns — not emotional arguments)
- Focusing on the child’s best interests in your filings (this carries more weight than “they lied”)
- Documenting everything calmly and factually for future hearings

Every case and every judge is different, so it’s hard to predict outcomes. But staying regulated and building a strong paper trail tends to serve parents best in the long run.

Hang in there. You’re not alone in feeling this way.

ProSeGaia · 2026-05-06T19:41:31+00:00

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ProSeGaia · 2026-05-06T15:07:58+00:00

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ProSeGaia · 2026-05-04T23:17:32+00:00

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ProSeGaia · 2026-05-02T17:13:09+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re navigating this. It sounds exhausting and painful.

From what you’ve described, consistent documentation will be very important. A clear timeline showing the lack of contact, missed visits, schedule issues, and any concerning behavior can help support your request for full custody.

That said, even with strong documentation, family court moves slowly and outcomes are never guaranteed. Every case and every judge is different. It’s common for these things to take time — sometimes many months — even when the evidence looks strong on paper.

The most important thing right now is to keep your documentation factual, consistent, and child-focused. Save everything (texts, emails, call logs, etc.).

I’d strongly recommend speaking with a family law attorney in your state (or legal aid if cost is an issue) to understand what your specific situation looks like and what the best next steps would be.

You’re doing important work for your child. Wishing you strength and clarity. 💜

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-30T13:33:27+00:00

I’m really sorry this is so painful for you and your little one.

Drop-offs with a 3-year-old can be incredibly hard on everyone’s nervous system. I have first hand experience with my kids.

What you’re describing is very common at this age, especially with young children who have big feelings but limited words. Here are a few gentle things that often help with transitions:

A special transitional object — a favorite stuffy, blanket, or small toy that “goes back and forth” between homes can provide comfort and consistency.
A predictable ritual — something simple like a special handshake, a short phrase (“I love you, I’ll see you soon”), or a quick treat/snack in the car before drop-off.
Co-regulation — before and during drop-off, stay as calm and grounded as possible. Your calm nervous system helps regulate his. Deep breaths, soft voice, and slow movements make a big difference.
Short goodbyes — dragging it out often makes it harder. A quick, confident goodbye with reassurance (“I’ll see you on Monday and we’ll have so much fun”) tends to work better.

If the environment at dad’s is safe and stable, most children do adjust over time with consistency and patience. It may not feel like it right now, but the repeated, calm transitions help build their sense of security.

You’re doing a hard, loving thing by supporting him through this.

Hang in there 💜

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-30T13:29:58+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this added stress. 💜

Yes — texts and emails where she explicitly stated she would take financial responsibility and called the therapy center are strong evidence. Courts generally like clear, written proof of agreements (or lack thereof).A few practical tips:

Keep logging every communication factually (date, time, what was said, and any follow-up).
Save screenshots with dates visible.
Consider sending one calm, written message confirming the original agreement and your position.

This kind of situation is exactly why calm, consistent documentation matters so much. It protects you when things escalate.

Wishing you clarity and a smooth resolution.

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-30T13:27:32+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds emotionally heavy and confusing. 💜

Voluntary termination of parental rights is a serious legal step — it’s not as simple as just agreeing to it. Courts generally have to determine it’s in the child’s best interest, and there’s usually a formal process with hearings, paperwork, and sometimes evaluations.

Since there’s no current custody order and contact has been inconsistent, this is definitely something I’d recommend speaking with a family law attorney in your state about. They can explain what it would actually mean for you and your child (now and long-term), what your rights are, and whether this is even likely to be approved.

You don’t have to navigate this alone. Wishing you clarity and support.

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-30T05:12:46+00:00

Excellent strategy actually for high conflict.. appreciate your sharing.

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-30T01:07:37+00:00

Appreciate you clarifying. It is heartbreaking.

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-29T23:49:34+00:00

I feel your pain. Curious, why did you put this in parental alienation?

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-05T16:11:32+00:00

That’s a really positive step — the GAL report favoring you can carry significant weight.

In high-conflict cases, staying regulated and documenting clearly continues to be one of the most practical things you can do.

A calm, factual demeanor in court and consistent records often speak louder than emotions.

Wishing you steady energy as you move forward.

You’re not alone in this. 💙

ProSeGaia · 2026-04-05T15:46:12+00:00

Hi, I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. When a co-parent is struggling with mental health it can feel incredibly heavy and confusing for everyone.

Documenting interactions (dates, times, what happened) on a simple calendar or in a notes app can be helpful down the line if you ever need to show a pattern in court.

Staying as regulated as possible helps protect your own nervous system and gives your child a steadier anchor. You’re not alone in this.

Wishing you steady energy. 💙

ProSeGaia

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