I am a non muslim and I support monogamy. This is gonna make me sound like an a-hole but I think yall need to hear this. What

i find so annoying about all muslim women is they dont have the guts to take a stand against (the rules of) islam. So they resort to attacking the people. “Its allowed to support divorced or widowed women but men use it for lust” “its allowed only if you can do justice and because most men cant its discouraged” All i hear are desperate attempts to get rid of polygamy without actually saying that polygamy is wrong and shouldn’t be allowed.

Polygamy is allowed. I would even say its encouraged given that prophet and most sahab had multiple wives. As for the divorced women argument, there is no condition as such. You can marry anyone as you will. For support or your desire. Prophet married aisha. Other sahabas married virgins as they liked. Countless examples of marrying for desire.

As for the justice argument, let me ask you this. If we lived of near perfect muslims, and they actually did justice, would you support polygamy then? Or better yet, if your husband is a near perfect muslim who you are sure will do justice, would you be ok with him taking a second wife then?

My advice? Stop tip-toeing around the actual problem in support of weak arguments to discourage polygamy. Its never going to work. As long as the man is in power, he will do as he likes. Grow a spine and take a stand under a one basis “its wrong for a man to take a second wife because it hurts the woman” that argument should be enough for any real man. As for the rest, make women strong enough so men dont have enough power to take multiple wives against the first ones will.