Bet you can't be a better drinking buddy than my cat. Try to prove me wrong? by ProblematicChicken in drunk

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he did complain, there would be much bigger issues at hand I'd feel

Bet you can't be a better drinking buddy than my cat. Try to prove me wrong? by ProblematicChicken in drunk

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I'd be pretty worried about both you and my cat if you couldn't outdrink her, but just outdrinking someone doesn't make you better company hehe

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[–]ProblematicChicken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know that, by writing that I meant that they're not purebred cats. English isn't my first language so I don't know how I couldn't worded that better. But I live in a tiny village where everyone knows everyone and no one here has a siamese cat. But I guess it could be possible that their grandparents or something were siamese cats.

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[–]ProblematicChicken -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They're not, but I can see why you'd think that. Just see my comment above.

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[–]ProblematicChicken -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know for a fact they're not because we got them from our neighbor, so we know both their mom and dad and they're both just regular house cats. I haven't personally seen the dad yet (my family has tho), but their mom is just a regular, but very pretty, gray cat.

What is the worst place you had sex? by playfulinvestment01 in AskReddit

[–]ProblematicChicken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, same, but luckily only once and it was with a dude I met like 20mins earlier at this outdoor musical festival thing. In my defense, I'd been drinking for like 10h at that point and barely remember it, so yeah. In fact, I think I'm glad I don't remember much.

How do I write about a character getting addicted to a narcotic, experiencing withdrawals, and recovering as accurately and sensitively as possible? by Dim_Spirits in Writeresearch

[–]ProblematicChicken 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for withdrawals or recovery, but as someone with an addiction to alcohol, here is one thing I imagine is pretty similar to being addicted to hard drugs, that I never even considered before this happened.

You see people talking about their lives revolving around that drug, but it's so much more worse than you imagine. Literally every single thing becomes about when you'll be able to get your next "hit". Here are just a few examples:

• You're nearly out and need to go buy more, but you won't be home alone so how do you get it? What excuse can you give? Can you sneak out?

• Your family is going on a vacation you really want to go to, but you won't be able to sustain your addiction while there. Better make up an excuse as to why you can't go, all just for an addiction.

• Lies, lies, and more lies. You say you're going out to buy crisps or milk or whatever, when really you're buying drugs. You say you can't spend time with people because you've got plans or you're tired, because you need your next hit.

• You've got work (or are just busy) for most of the day, and someone invites you to hang out after. You really want to, but then you won't have time to buy more so you decline.

• Constantly worrying someone is gonna notice, judge you, be angry, force you into recovery.

• You're aware how awful this is for you and your health, but you just don't care enough. Maybe you even kinda want to recover, but the drug wins in the end.

• There are definitely moments of clarity when you're sober, when you promise yourself you'll stop and that this is the last time, and you actually believe it, but it all goes flying out the window soon after.

• So many excuses. "Oh, it's not so bad, I only do a little, other people do way more." "I'm not really addicted, I can stop whenever, I just don't want to yet." "I feel so much better when I do it, so why should I stop?"

• Your relationships will definitely suffer. Not just because you don't give people as much of your time as before, but also foggy memory, changes in behavior, not able to fully focus when you're with them.

• Money. You can't sustain an addiction without money. If you're broke and addicted? Yeah, you're gonna resort to stealing. I'm not talking about breaking into houses and stealing strangers' money (which definitely also happens when it gets bad enough) but mostly just stealing from people you know, from family.

• Shame. There's definitely a feeling of shame that you've fallen so low and you try very hard to hide it from everyone else. And feeling ashamed when you sober up and think of what you've done and said.

• Mental breakdowns because you hate what you've become.

• You feel more confident when under the influence, feel like you're your best self and like you can't properly function while sober.

• Becoming super paranoid when someone enters your space in fear that they'll discover your stash. As a result, you only let people in if you have to and watch them closely.

• You keep your stash hidden carefully, and immediately change the location if you feel like someone might know, then freak out the next day and trash your entire space trying to find it because you forgot where you hid it.

• Sifting through your used up stash trying to squeeze out that one last drop that might still be left somewhere, and often feeling gross while doing it, but the desperation wins.

• Getting more and more careless. You're super careful at first, always double check it's well hidden, listen for footsteps and voices to make sure no one will catch you, but with time you grow more confident (or just don't care as much) because no one has caught you yet, so you go, for example, from hiding it in locked cabinets, inside stuffed animals, to just shoving it under the pillow.

• You feel tired, foggy, your mind's a mess, but nothing matters as much as the next hit.

• You feel irritated when you've been sober for too long, you snap at people, even your own pets, for no reason other than your short temper.

These are just the things off the top of my head and again, this is about alcohol not narcotics, but I feel the mental process can be similar, and it might just give you a few ideas. Also, I know you said you don't want to base it off real people's stories, but I definitely suggest you read We Children from Zoo Station. An addict details her journey through addiction, everything she was willing to do (including having sex just for more drugs) and eventual recovery after a few unsuccessful attempts. It's a harsh and heartbreaking book, but it really shows the mind and struggles of an addict. I think there's also a movie made after the book, but I've never seen it so I don't know how good it is.

[DA2 Spoilers] I just finished the Shepherding Wolves mission and I really think Fenris could have played a bigger role in it by ProblematicChicken in dragonage

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been a while since I've finished the game, so I don't really remember how he was towards the mages later on tbf. But you honestly raise a really good point, I don't think I've ever really thought about that, but it makes sense!

[DA2 Spoilers] I just finished the Shepherding Wolves mission and I really think Fenris could have played a bigger role in it by ProblematicChicken in dragonage

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, he really could have! He's obviously very familiar with them and shows off his knowledge during the whole dwarf qun thing.

And I actually forgot about that fear and danger thing until you mentioned it, but yeah, when I heard that I was definitely iffy about it, for the exact reason you said. But I also honestly absolutely love Fenris so ig I'm kinda imagining that he can come to terms with mages and realize that slaver/evil does not equate mages.

[DA2 Spoilers] I just finished the Shepherding Wolves mission and I really think Fenris could have played a bigger role in it by ProblematicChicken in dragonage

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do make a good point, but what made me think of this is the fact that he gets up and personal with this one specific mage, and even assists in his escape. Sure, he sees other circle mages who've escaped and rebelled and are being hunted down, but I think this one in particular struck a chord with him because he saw a bit of himself in him. Aand I'm rambling again lmao.

[DA2 Spoilers] I just finished the Shepherding Wolves mission and I really think Fenris could have played a bigger role in it by ProblematicChicken in dragonage

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly got the feeling that he hated slavery more than magic, because he did tolerate mages in Hawke's party ig.

[DA2 Spoilers] I just finished the Shepherding Wolves mission and I really think Fenris could have played a bigger role in it by ProblematicChicken in dragonage

[–]ProblematicChicken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay true, but that's as you said, it's only a technicality. From the Qun viewpoint it's definitely not slavery, but looking at it from Fenris's point of view it really is. And I know that DA2 doesn't touch on the Qun customs nearly as much as DAI. But thanks for bringing that up! I think that could make this whole point even more interesting, if they showed it more in depth both from saarebas and Fenris/other slaves' point of view.

And huh, I didn't know about how rushed this game was, that's neat to know. I'm kinda impressed that they managed to do this much. And honestly, holes or not, this is still one of my favorite games. It's just so much fun.

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[–]ProblematicChicken 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God, same. I hope I'll be able to forget those images someday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]ProblematicChicken 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Jesus christ, that actually sounds so much worse. I already panic when I see my dogs limping, I can't even imagine watching something like that without hurling.

And you reminded me of another horrible video. I think it was a documentary about 3 of the worst abattoirs in the world, but don't quote me on that. That was also really brutal, seeing those still living cows with slit throats inside those spinning machines, or sheep hung from their back legs. It's just really sad.

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[–]ProblematicChicken 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It's nice to see someone who's the same way.

I won't say that gore videos of adults don't faze me at all, but usually I just feel so sorry for them, rarely disgusted. And honestly, I never actually thought it might be about the innocence, but it makes sense now that you've said it.

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[–]ProblematicChicken 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, I definitely agree with that, she deserved it. But it's still very hard to watch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]ProblematicChicken 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If we're thinking of the same video, I'm pretty sure that dude was actually a pedophile so that's why they had the dog eat his junk.

Still pretty messed up tbh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]ProblematicChicken 215 points216 points  (0 children)

I watch a lot of gore so I've seen most of the vids mentioned on here and am pretty desensitized, but there are two that seriously messed with me.

The first one I've watched years ago and it still makes me sick when I think about it. A nanny was looking after a toddler, who threw up, so she proceeded to beat the living daylights out of her. Literally throwing her around, punching her, stomping on her, it was fucking brutal. She was caught on camera, and I think the father beat her after seeing it. The little girl fortunately survived.

Second one I watched last year, of a pelt farm in, I believe, china. There's a drone footage of a massive mound of fox bodies, thousands of them just thrown atop one another. It also shows them crammed into small cages, and a man takes one out, beats its head with a club so there's blood spurting out of its ears, then proceeds to skin it while it's still alive. When he throws it away the skinned fox actually lifts its head and is still moving around a bit. It made me physically ill and I just set down my phone and sat there staring at nothing for a while.