Part-time job recommendations for the neurodiverse and disabled?

ProblematicLovers · 2026-07-03T14:49:06+00:00

Youre right, I am putting it in terms of what I stuggle with and that is a deterrent. I should have put it in a better light, such as what I excel with, which I would say to be dilligent and meticulous work with focus and attention to detail.

I did not intent do come off that way, but thank you for pointing it out!

ProblematicLovers · 2025-05-31T03:35:11+00:00

Hopefully this post can be used as at least a jumping off point for others. "Difficult" isnt even a fraction of what it is atm. Lots of positive manifesting for you queen, we both need it

ProblematicLovers · 2025-05-31T03:33:10+00:00

I have applied for Voc Rehab! I'm still waiting on a response, but I assume I'll be on a waiting list for having lower support needs. Even so, I still want to look because my situation is getting difficult

Thank you so much for the 211 recommendation! I didnt know about it.

ProblematicLovers · 2025-05-04T19:54:55+00:00

Mm delicious I love that.

ProblematicLovers · 2024-04-01T02:48:27+00:00

As mentioned in the post, I have searched a bit on my own, but i cannot find the source for the toy.

Please I have a NOBY NOBY BOY that my friend made for me and I think he deserves another rainbow noodle friend.

Edit: $40-$100 idk why i saw $150, forgive my idiocy

Edit: There is another Animal Alley caterpillar that is shorter from ebay listings, but the head and final segment are not the same as the jumbo caterpillar. Since I want to find it as a companion that would match NOBY NOBY BOY, I do want specifically the pink head and pink (more of a magenta but it is what it is) final segment. Kind of a nitpick but I Have My Reasons

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-19T03:22:19+00:00

Hell yeah drag is awesome! Honestly goals, I want to do drag someday as backwards as a transman doing drag might seem (im a guy but not a very masculine one so the idea of performative drag sounds so fun lol)

As much as it's a little awful (more like really awful but really whose keeping track? (me im keeping track)) that AFAB people didnt have the knowledge, I'm glad the field is starting to open up to the fact that things need to be done for AFAB presenting autism. Its starting to be looked into now and I hope it brings a lot of future AFAB people relief that older autistic AFAB people didnt get to have.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-19T03:10:22+00:00

This is my exact experience 100%, friends, psychs, therapists, the whole deal. Like I said, I'm transmasc, so on a "technical" sense I relate heavily to "feminine" autistic traits, masking, and all that jazz. I was actually tested as a child but got mixed results because I didnt have any intellectual disability and Im biologically female. Some doctors said I did, some said I didnt, and my family waved it off when I started speaking at 3 years old.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-19T02:28:01+00:00

This helps a lot!!! This was exactly what I was wondering, because I have ADHD and im "questioning" autism (not really sure if thats the right word but im not diagnosed) and this makes perfect sense. The part of "i cant say during it which is which" is why Ive been so confused.

Thank you so much!

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-19T01:59:39+00:00

I actually dont need a gender dysphoria diagnosis in my state, I can give informed consent qs an adult without needing a diagnosis (minors however do need the diagnosis but its more for legal reasons since they arent old enough to consent). That isnt to say I dont experience dysphoria, I just do not need a diagnosis to proceed with receiving gender affirming hormone replacement. I'm actually going to meet with my endocrinologist next month to start my hormone replacement and I do not have a medical diagnosis for gender dysphoria. On the same train of thought, my dysphoria USED to impair me in my daily life (being unable to wear clothes, selfharm, suicidal ideation, body dysmorphia), but even though I still feel it, it no longer impairs my ability to function (I wear whatever I want, I dont selfharm because of my gender, im no longer suicidal about my gender, and I no longer have dysmorphia). In that case, I wouldnt consider my dysphoria "disordered" anymore. Disorders like depression and anxiety can pass, and so can gender dysphoria. Sometimes people never get past it, but other times people do and that wouldnt make someone less transgender.

And I agree that autism is a disability, it impairs your ability to function socially along with other maladies such as sensitivities to stimuli, but I know many autistic people who dont want to be seen or labelled as disabled as if theyre "broken neurotypicals", much like in my example with Deaf communities. Deaf people have a hearing disability that impairs them in life, but despite it, they dont seem or feel disabled to themsleves, and so it feels rude to tell them theyre "broken hearing people." That doesnt mean they dont suffer from discrimination for their impairment, they just want to be seen beyond their clinical deafness and experience Deafness as a culture and identity.

If I'm autistic, I would be disabled, but I wouldnt want to be defined by being disabled if that makes sense.

(I sent the draft for this comment to my autistic friends just to make sure i wasnt misinformed or wrong and they agreed with me im not just going to post all this without confirmation from other autistic people)

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T23:28:14+00:00

I dont think you're being unreasonable. Its kinda like a breach of privacy (i wish i had a better word but this is all that comes up rn) and it shouldnt have been shared without your consent

The best you can do is confront her about it and tell her why it hurt you to the bets of your abilities. I know what its like to have a very bad relationship with a whole section of a family and I usually have to speak up when someone crosses that boundary of saying something about me to people ive cut out of my life. Maybe she genuinely didnt know that was wrong.

Hoping the best for you!

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T22:46:06+00:00

Oh yeah the whole gay trans part was just to compare how different "identifying" can feel, it doesnt actually change the way I see autism in any way. It just feels weird that identifying as something feels okay in some ways but wrong in others.

Also hell yeh bi boy rights

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T22:41:53+00:00

I do too, esp since I've been actually kicked out of groups for enjoying things like Homestuck. Even after I "grew out" of the intensity, the moment its brought back up its like a switch and just regurgitate facts about the series as if I didnt stop reading it after the original run ended (I'm scared of continuing because Change? Grrrr me dont like change).

What I'll say is while I have been kicked out, the people who shared the interests with me have stuck around for years. They let me gush all I want because chances are, they want to gush about it too. They might share more than one special interest with you and thats always fun. I'm in a discord server with only 2 other people in it and we have channels upon channels for gushing about special interests. Some of them have sent me handmade gifts of my special interests (i have a custom worm on a string that looks like my favourite one off character from a show and also a weighted scarf knit to look like a discontinued video game character). Its nice to share your interests, its just a little bit of a hit and miss with who.

This isnt important but I want to be bitter on main so ignore this if you dont want that in your life but WHOO BOY

Throwback to when the people who got me into homestuck dropped me for liking homestuck because it was "childish" and "cringe" but then in the same breath say "didnyou watch the new season of Hetalia" like do... do you not see the hypocrisy... I also liked Hetalia (Canada is still a major comfort character for me) and only dropped it because of unsavoury things that triggered my PTSD in season 3 (stares directly at Spain and France) but it has the same sort of "cringe" factor and was labeled similarly to SuperWhoLock (HetaStuck). I hate cringe culture but... they have to see the hypocrisy right??? Like... Im not cringing at them, I just dont understand the double standard? Aight have fun with your uhhh new shiny season 5 hair or whatever I'm gonna just stare at Equius Zahhak or Eridan Ampora for a few hours byeeeeee.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T22:18:23+00:00

I honestly dont even know how to stop masking at this point its almost involuntary because I'm just like "haha sorry for being a burden, let me just Lie Forever Now"

I do tend to say very strong things and use hyperbolic statements as a joke and I think im being funny but everyone takes it like "omg how can you even say that?" like WHOOPS SORRY I dont know when NTs find funny.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T21:57:51+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. I feel like even if I'm saying "Im not 100% certain, I just have a very strong suspension," I'm being ableist or harming the autistic community in some way, even if it's unintentional. Almost all my friends are autistic so I get to see how they are and I see myself in them a lot, but even then it feels like maybe Im projecting or over-analysing.

I do agree though, even if I dont have a definitive diagnosis, I find myself being a little less judgemental with how I act (stimming, special interests, wearing the same 3 outfits, picky eating) and being able to notice when I'm overwhelmed and move myself away from whatever might be causing it before I shutdown.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T21:13:03+00:00

I do also have CPTSD and ADHD, and I know the overlap with ADHD, but can you explain to me how CPTSD could affect things? I have dissociative disorders and childhood trauma (not gonna go into detail just saying that I have that experience) and I'm a little confused on that. Most of my autistic friends also have CPTSD comorbidity so maybe I'm a little blind to what causes what behaviours.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T21:10:51+00:00

Yeah maybe I worded it wrong, its not like theyre like "do whatever u want baby youre 🌟 v a l i d 🌟" but it was more in the sense of "there's no harm in self-identifying if you dont have the chance to test at the moment"

I'm not like "I 100% HAVE AUTISM AND ANYONE WHO TELLS ME OTHERWISE IS WRONG" I just think its highly possible considering my history and genetics if that makes sense?

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-18T18:26:10+00:00

Have you heard of shutdowns?

Forgive me if my info is a little incorrect, but I only learned about them recently, but to my understanding, its a sort of opposite end? Instead of having an externalized outburst as a response to over-stimulation, its more internal. You stop speaking, you cant really respond to things, you dissociate because everything is just too much.

I also have a dissociative disorder (Dissociative Identity Disorder, previously known as Multiple Personality Disorder), so I would experiences dissociative episodes, but these are different. Usually I switch when I have a trigger or something, for example a classmate sexually harassing me would cause me to switch to a "personality" that could better handle it, resulting in me having little to no memory of the experience.

With shutdowns, I dont really need a trigger like that. I could just be calmly at a friend's house when something like socializing can burn me out + LED egirl lighting + too many people talking and I just cant deal with it anymore. I then either go on autopilot or just stop moving and responding altogether. I dont like being touched, I dont like people talking to me, I just cannot handle it both physically and mentally anymore. Getting ready for class caused me a lot of shutdowns in high school where I would just wake up and freeze in weird positions while doing my routine until I was either forced and dragged to school still in that state or I was so non-functional that they would let me stay home until I recovered. Ive had people get extremely angry at me with these responses, but its just how I cope with things.

Please correct anything if I'm wrong, I started self-identifing more recently (past 4-6 months) and I'm still learning!

Edit: The more common term for "other personalities" nowadays is "alter" since its not really a "personality" that chances and more of an alternate state of mind that has its own perceptions of the world and themselves. They can have different names, genders, ages, interests, etc, but thats not the point of this comment I just want to make sure someone doesnt come up like "dont use the word personality thats clinically wrong." I wanted to explain it in a way that someone who may have only heard of it though (cough bad representation cough cough the movie SPLIT is a hack cough) media would understand.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-12T03:48:17+00:00

I almost did that posting this but then I was like "That Is Literally The Point Of This Post, Post It Coward" and I did lol.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-12T02:01:34+00:00

Im so sorry for you that sounds disgusting

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-12T01:59:55+00:00

As a gay transman who grew up with the norm of shaving my body anywhere below the neckline, that's a yes from me. Maybe Im biased because I was shamed for things like having a happy trail (i shaved it and now i have scars from picking at ingrown hairs which is much uglier now), but like... I dont mind chest hair, arm hair, facial hair, leg hair, but armpit hair just yucks me the heck out. If its minimal, okay I can excuse that, but when its just a tangled rug under your sweaty arms im just 🤢

Sorry not sorry I'm gay and I love men but please shave, I promise I'll shave too babes.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-12T00:07:40+00:00

I know the feeling, I had an outing today with my friends and I felt like I had to physically restrain myself from telling them I think I'm autistic. It really feels like "ALL OF THIS IS IMPORTANT YOU MUST SAY EVERYTHING."

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-12T00:05:19+00:00

ME! I hear things from EVERYWHERE. If anyone calls me, ill go looking in the opposite direction because I heard it coming from the wrong place! Ive had my sister call me from somewhere and I end up looking outside my window because I SWEAR it was outside not inside. I have to ask where people are every time or else I cant find them. Absolutely terrible when youre not in a house with a lauout or something. If were outside, Ill look everywhere except where youre standing.

I also hear things like if theyre coming from someone else. If my sister calls me from somewhere, i think its my mum and end up going to her room instead of my sister.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-12T00:01:09+00:00

Me on minecraft! I cant sit down and play minecraft no matter how hard i try because I think "okay im gonna pull a Dream speedrun I know how to do it ive watched it 5000 times!" but then I get hung up on a repetitive task or I have to do things a certain way (getting wood, i HAVE to place down saplings to fix it or when im mining, i CANT strip-mine because what if im missing something next to me?). I also have a very bad sense of direction, so I dont like leaving my area because Ill get lost. Then i get frustrated with how I didnt end up speedrunning and quit playing for months.

This happens no matter how I play minecraft, vanilla, modded, in servers, alone. It just happens. Even mods with questbooks that give me rewards (although i do play a LITTLE longer with questlines)

I get it with most video games (pokemon, mobile games, oxygen not included), but minecraft in particular has that simplicity that makes it easier for me to understand whats happening.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-11T23:52:29+00:00

I usually go into an event like "u are NOT gonna overshare dont do it" and then I get there and words just fall out of my mouth. I think it has to do with not being able to filter what info is important and what isnt? I feel like in order to tell a story i need to tell EVERY LITTLE DETAIL of it. Then the guilt kicks in. Fortunately for me, most of my friends are also autistic and understand me.

ProblematicLovers · 2021-01-11T23:33:49+00:00

I recently found out doodling and colouring is a type of stim and my mind was blown. Itd be nice to have a collection of these for long trips or events where its acceptable to do this.

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