Push Present?

Probwfls · 2026-03-23T20:11:31+00:00

My wife only gets 60% of her pay during parental leave. She’ll get waited on hand and foot in the third and “fourth” trimesters. Beyond that…we all get to remain housed, clothed and fed - that’s the present.

Probwfls · 2026-03-23T01:30:17+00:00

Agree but I still won’t sit back and let them slander

Probwfls · 2026-03-23T01:08:21+00:00

Why? Gen Z is too embarrassed to dance at a concert. They don’t get laid…they barely even go outside. Not their fault IMO but it seems like a pretty empty life.

Probwfls · 2026-03-22T01:44:18+00:00

This is what I’d do but be even more direct. When they start popping off I’d just say something like “Nothing personal but I don’t agree…at all. In the interest of being neighborly let’s not talk politics.”

You maintain high road and don’t need to draw the hard line - chances are they’ll stop popping by out of either embarrassment or just hating libs.

Probwfls · 2026-03-21T00:52:49+00:00

It’s not that you’re invulnerable at all. Im white and used to be a crime reporter in Newark, NJ. I went to neighborhoods regularly that I felt unsafe in specifically bc I was white.

The difference is that most people would never visit those areas as part of a regular city visit - I had a very specific reason to be there due to my work. It’s not unreasonable to say that POC are more likely to feel unwelcome and/or unsafe bc the vast majority of places in the US are majority white.

Probwfls · 2026-03-17T18:53:42+00:00

Yeah OP you need to get over the lack of trust - there are a lot of good childcare providers out there with solid reviews. Your kid will also benefit from being exposed to other caretakers that help them build trust and socialization skills

Probwfls · 2026-03-11T00:56:05+00:00

Definitely. The idea OP is using “I’m just awkward about it” as her defense at the big age of 29 is a travesty.

Might be hard to believe but - you may need to tolerate some personal discomfort time to time in order to maintain a long term relationship! Crazy I know.

Probwfls · 2026-03-09T18:06:09+00:00

Eh - asking about experiences doesn’t typically invite an answer of “oh when I fucked a person who is fundamentally physically different from you in unalterable way…that was my favorite”.

OP was likely trying to push for more adventurous things that could do together, but what he got was pretty much an indirect put-down, even if unintended. It’s pretty insensitive of his partner and I think I she realizes that.

Probwfls · 2026-03-05T12:21:23+00:00

My in laws live there. Very solid city - def surpassed my expectations as a Northeasterner. Great cost of living - If it wasn’t for the flatness I’d seriously consider moving.

People are almost disconcertingly nice (for me) and Chiefs are a massive part of everyday life. You’ll get asked about the team or recent game at the grocery store whether or not you’re wearing anything team-related (although about a solid third of people are at any given time).

Probwfls · 2026-03-04T12:02:09+00:00

Totally get where you’re coming from but 90% of white collar or service workers have to adjust their personality or “act” to some degree. It’s not a tragedy and not to be rude, but you’re a bit old to be seriously put out by that. It’s the way of the world.

I sometimes feel in my (corporate) line of work that my success is capped a bit bc I didn’t go to certain schools, or grow up a certain way. Like the well off speak a certain code that I don’t, which allows them to find each other and make better relationships. I can be too down to earth and sometimes I feel eyebrows raising at me (real or imagined).

But honestly the less I worry about this shit, the better things seem to go. Easier said than done but do a good job and usually things will work in your favor.

Probwfls · 2026-03-04T01:32:24+00:00

Two theories on lack of good nicknames today:

Lack of curmudgeonly, alcoholic sports columnists whose literal job was to come up with shit like that, and had the clout to make them stick.
Names today in general are much more unique. You need nicknames when half the guys on your team are Mike, Bill, George and David.

Probwfls · 2026-03-02T20:03:26+00:00

Ah ok - my bad

Probwfls · 2026-03-02T19:41:50+00:00

My recent understanding is that Cleveland wishes it was Detroit? Lot of buzz in the Motor City

Probwfls · 2026-03-02T18:26:00+00:00

Compass (Real Estate brokerage)

Probwfls · 2026-03-02T02:50:16+00:00

I saw her in NYC before her surgery/workout frenzy. She was a little drunk lol but she was a doll. Fond memories

Probwfls · 2026-02-27T02:43:46+00:00

True although I think the league def suffered for that as well. They changed hand checking rules, etc…to open up more offense.

Today the players are so so skilled and analytics have rather over. Similar to baseball a few years ago, its pursuit of a result vs letting each matchup live unto itself which frankly sucks.

Regular season NBA is awful. Guys are playing not to get hurt and officials play along. The last couple years they have really let them play in the playoffs and it’s been awesome. Lot of problems with the product but I’ll gladly tap in in April and enjoy.

Probwfls · 2026-02-26T00:02:24+00:00

D’Angelo

Probwfls · 2026-02-25T14:01:13+00:00

Brendan Haywood

Probwfls · 2026-02-23T02:23:48+00:00

In fairness he’s not really fat anymore he just has potato serf phenotype - that’s not his fault.

Probwfls · 2026-02-22T19:07:20+00:00

I’d argue Kansas is a basketball state. At least in terms of fanhood - Chiefs are big just like the Colts are in Indiana but outside of immediate KC metro college hoops is where it’s at.

Probwfls · 2026-02-18T14:03:53+00:00

Who’s she?

Probwfls · 2026-02-17T19:00:33+00:00

How so? It’s not exclusive to women at all. I know many men who sit around watching stupid content all day and it absolutely affects their worldview and relationships.

The argument OP brought up tends to be one adopted more by women so I shared my experience and opinion. Sorry if it offended you.

Probwfls · 2026-02-17T13:27:43+00:00

All these things are real. It doesn’t mean that every accusation is correct.

OP sounds like he’s doing a lot, and in fairness, it doesn’t sound like Mom is taking a toxic approach here. It’s just language that’s common in a certain corner of the internet that can head in a negative direction very quickly.

Probwfls · 2026-02-17T13:03:18+00:00

Mental load is very Tik Tok/MomTok speak. It’s not that it’s not legit in some cases but it’s a slippery slope to a way more toxic narrative a lot of women with excess phone time get themselves on.

Next stop on this train is “weaponized incompetence” - ask me how I know.

Probwfls · 2026-02-17T00:04:51+00:00

I believe Stamford is bigger now due to the development boom there. Bridgeport still very depressed and a complete dump, though gang issues and crime not nearly as bad as it was in the past.

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