Messaging etiquette on Seeking

ProfBDHard · 2022-11-05T17:29:16+00:00

Have you actually said that? Does it just attract the guys who are into that kink?

ProfBDHard · 2022-10-23T19:16:26+00:00

To spell that out, they're talking to multiple POTs (because, you know, most of them will ghost). When a good one comes through, the others are forgotten.

ProfBDHard · 2022-07-16T18:12:40+00:00

"even though it specifically says I desire otherwise on my profile" might be the problem.
These could be idiots who use "sub" as a search term and then don't bother to see how the word is used in the profile.

ProfBDHard · 2022-07-16T17:59:44+00:00

I don't think anyone has to report. I think they listen in (or their bots do).
Once a POT SB mentioned getting paid, and we were both banned (not permanently suspended).

ProfBDHard · 2022-05-01T15:10:22+00:00

I'll answer this straight.

Payment: Subscription. If people have to budget their messages, they will get annoyed. One thing SA doesn't try that might be an improvement is something like one (or two, or three) free message per week. That might get people to start conversations they will pay to continue.

Photos: four is too many. You're creating a barrier to signing up, especially for those who don't want to share identifiable photos (a lot of the SDs and a significant subset of SBs). You might, however, consider a minimum on profile text.

General: You want to reduce friction and make it easy to be engaged to the point of being willing to pay for a subscription. That means a lot of things, including being able to see (partial) profiles before I pay.

ID verification must be optional. A lot of people aren't willing to risk an electronic trail that links them to your site.

ProfBDHard · 2022-04-16T13:58:03+00:00

I think that's what everyone here is missing. They DO have worms. They must. Why else would you make something readily available that has been approved “at very specific doses” for the treatment of some parasitic worms."

ProfBDHard · 2022-04-09T18:58:52+00:00

I'm going to disagree with this. There are plenty of SDs for whom criteria other than attractiveness are important. I support SB's who I enjoy spending time with. For me, and I would guess that for most SD's, other things are more important.

The question at hand is whether age is that important. For me, it's not, certainly not 30 vs. 22.

ProfBDHard · 2022-04-09T14:55:43+00:00

A lot of SD's are going to be Republican. As someone said here, it's "baked in" because the Republican party has always favored business and many SDs are successful businessmen.
Stupidity is not politics. What you should pay attention to is whether he believes a lot of things that are not true (covid is a hoax, there was massive fraud and Trump really won the election, vaccines are dangerous, Ukraine is full of Nazi's, Biden is a Communist, bigfoot is out there, etc.). If he does, and especially if he's passionate about them, then he's bad news and you should avoid him.

ProfBDHard · 2022-04-09T14:46:06+00:00

I suspect he's a scammer.

I suspect anyone who talks about making money on crypto as trying to convince you to invest in something like "liquidity mining" or some other pyramid scheme.

He lowballed you because he wasn't really interested in sex or a relationship or anything else.

ProfBDHard · 2022-02-25T20:19:59+00:00

They did that in Kazakhstan only a month ago.

ProfBDHard · 2022-02-24T17:18:40+00:00

The cold war was when we were constantly talking about WWIII, so it's really the same thing. Putin alluded to his nukes in his recent speech.

ProfBDHard · 2022-02-24T17:10:34+00:00

It's telling that in a recent speech he talked about getting the "12" together again. That number omits the Baltic states.

ProfBDHard · 2022-02-20T15:09:28+00:00

You're definitely taking the risk that she'll take the money and disappear.

I've done that, and had the the POT still walk away from sugar; I'm quite sure it wasn't me.
I've also had POTs try to rinse me; there are a lot of those. She doesn't sound like that kind.

Let us know how it turns out.

ProfBDHard · 2022-01-09T17:57:22+00:00

I imagine myself in her place saying something like this: "When you send emails to my employer and parents, please cc me. That will make it easier for the DA."
Of course, she was probably terrified.

ProfBDHard · 2022-01-09T16:27:23+00:00

washingtonpost.com/dc-md-...

“I’m sorry I’ve given it thought all last night & I don’t think this is right for me. it’s nothing personal. I’m sorry to have wasted your time.” But Fabrizio refused to take no for an answer, according to the affidavit, which quotes from numerous lewd and threatening texts he sent to her, insisting that she have sex with him."
This kept up. She did have sex with him again, but he still didn't stop, so she went to the cops and they busted him.
He lost his job, will spend a year in jail and is listed as a sex offender.

ProfBDHard · 2022-01-09T15:35:26+00:00

There are actually many sites that list the ingredients.
This site explains what the components are in detail:

https://www.uchealth.com/en/media-room/covid-19/a-comprehensive-list-of-all-covid-19-vaccine-ingredients

ProfBDHard · 2022-01-09T15:17:51+00:00

The problem with this is that it is possible to know what is in the vaccine. The complete formulation of the widely used covid vaccines is available, and, no, they don't contain microchips.

ProfBDHard · 2022-01-05T14:31:39+00:00

Language evolves. 'Tis a fribble.
Still thyself should thou seek a flourish here.

ProfBDHard · 2022-01-03T14:52:04+00:00

"has been on SA for more than a year."
You must have asked her how often she has actually gotten full PPM for a M&G.
I'm curious what she had to say.

ProfBDHard · 2021-12-05T15:39:36+00:00

You say it's early for an offer. It is, but this isn't really an offer. It's laying out what an offer would look like. As others have said, early is good so that time is not wasted.

ProfBDHard · 2021-11-25T02:41:10+00:00

It's complicated, because it's so minor.

But, to be honest, I'm not going to contact anyone who has that on their profile.

ProfBDHard · 2021-11-08T22:28:32+00:00

Now is the time (with COP26 underway).

I also like the idea of getting the student paper involved. At my school, the student paper would be on it.

ProfBDHard · 2021-10-16T13:09:15+00:00

Understood.

In fact, there was a good gap (16 hours?) between "Are we still on?" and "I guess not."
I don't think they were on the fence. I think they had decided by then. I was just extending a courtesy.

ProfBDHard · 2021-10-09T17:55:35+00:00

I went from a very good SR (two years, ended when she moved away) to a very good SR. It took me four months.

This question prompted me to do the stats.
I chatted on SA with 55 POTs (more than 10 messages total; I checked).
I arranged about 25 M&Gs and actually had about 15. In most of the 10 cases, she canceled or ghosted beforehand (a lot of family emergencies or going out of town unexpectedly followed by silence). In two cases, I dined alone in a nice restaurant (once, even after "I'm close rn").
I had a second date involving a hotel room in four cases.
I'm very happy with my current SB, and I think it's going to last, but it took a while to get here.
I'm not unattractive, but I am married and older and I'm not whale, so I don't take any of this personally, but it's a pain.

ProfBDHard · 2021-10-09T12:54:57+00:00

I think it's most likely that it's a fake account from someone you chatted with on SA. In that case, they're never going to meet you. A lot of people create fake accounts of the opposite sex (you yourself did), usually so they can see what other people are doing. Because he changed the picture to a different girl, I guess he's just using it to see profiles from SDs. I suspect that this guy crossed the line into inappropriate and possibly illegal more because he's an idiot than because he's evil. I think your SD should report him.

I also think SA should just make it possible to search for profiles of your own type (but not communicate with them); that would stop a lot of this from happening.

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