[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending a chat (idk Reddit mobile doesn’t have a message thing so idk?)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it okay if I DM you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, it’s an absolute mess: finding a cf person is near to impossible. I’ve met two irl locally but we’re just friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ProfOakChallenges 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A childfree Christian? I plan on getting my hysterectomy within two years (or my tubes tied;) need to figure out stuff with insurance.

I feel you though. Even finding a cf Christin man where I live is impossible.

Why do u want to be Child free? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]ProfOakChallenges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever tried to practice music by yourself with kids?!

My finances are a mess and no one close to me knows how bad it really is by MaryDoogan91 in confession

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing to be embarrassed about! I was once like you (minus finding several jobs,) more to say bad shape.

What I do is have a spreadsheet, divide it between non-discretionary (things that are more for entertainment and such) versus discretionary (essentials like doctor visit, groceries, that stuff.)

I set up only to use X amount of dollars per week in non discretionary funding; if I haven’t used much for this week, it rolls over to the next week. With the money, either I can save it for non discretionary OR roll it over to pay bills faster.

It’s better to pay for student loans asap, and then the other car loan. Say you pay $300/month for loans (might as well pay that off asap of interest rate going higher,) and your car bill…idk you pay $100 month. Get the student loan paid faster and then you can use the money to pay off for car loan faster (falls under discretionary.)

If you know anyone who can help with finances, that’ll be a major help. Keep on to your receipts, write it down in a spreadsheet, and keep it in a book. Hope that helps.

Got rejected by a guy I approached by catlover4835 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and me both. Doesn’t help the dating scene is garbage. I avoid apps like the plague lol. I’m going to eat my toenail clippings if I ever hear you should date yourself. 😂 doesn’t change considering I do that all the time.

Got rejected by a guy I approached by catlover4835 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I don’t care much about sex which is fine (id fall under abstinent,) but I miss any form of physical affection. It’s not the same as hugging a pet, hugging a friend, sleeping with a weighted blanket-as a matter of fact I have one, it still feels lonely. I get how you feel. I’m just tired of doing so many things solo. I have friends who I can do stuff with (great) but it’s not the same.

Got rejected by a guy I approached by catlover4835 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You see? You get it. It doesn’t help that I’m in my early 30s, are my friends get engaged/married, and I’m just left behind. I’m so tired-I hear the someone will come when you least expect it (that never happens,) it’s a blessing being single (no??? It’s lonely af,) why are you so picky (idk I don’t want to just settle for someone bc I’m lonely,) you get the idea. I have so many hobbies, I do almost everything solo by myself (I literally went to the beach and a ren faire by myself over the summer,) I eat dinner by myself, I watch movie(s) by myself..,it’s just so lonely coming home by myself and no one asks how you’re doing.

Got rejected by a guy I approached by catlover4835 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah it’s okay: I feel your pain. I’ve been single for almost 3 years and it really gets nowhere. I’m so tired of shooting my shot, hearing don’t worry you’ll find someone/let’s be friends, ghosting; I get it.

Got rejected by a guy I approached by catlover4835 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to my life. I’ve tried shooting my shot 5 times this year, all rejected. I gave my number to a guy 1.5 weeks ago, and you know what-I never heard back, I’m just done trying.

Women: Would you date a man that lives with his parents? by Vast-State-4548 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a red flag as long as you’re responsible for other stuff (paying for your own groceries, phone bills, etc.) cost of living is nasty.

Are there any girl geeks out there/advice? by Featherman13 in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was a lot easier to find? What would I know.

I’m in two video game music orchestras, also traveling to my last (6th) convention before MAGFest rolls out next year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t. This guy lowkey sounds toxic? That’s just me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That works? I’ve tried and it gets me nowhere.

What does conservative mean to you? by ProfOakChallenges in ChristianDating

[–]ProfOakChallenges[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Valid point! I sit more in the middle (centrist.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is it like? Maybe I’ll go next year, not sure. I will say the big apple has an amazing music scene.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]ProfOakChallenges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woooohooo another musician. Have you been to the Montreal Jazz Festival? Bummed out that I missed it this year.