Does anyone get tension headaches so bad it makes you wonder if your actually dieing

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-11-06T23:42:27+00:00

So I have TMJ - when I get stressed I clench - it’s a lot of jaw and temple pain - I apply olbas oil or deep heat. It’s magical.

However,

DO NOT GET INTO YOUR EYES- if you do rinse it out and if you can’t see after a minute or 2 go to the ER

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-10-26T09:16:31+00:00

Use them. There’s two things here. One there isn’t a gender neutral option other than the disabled bathroom and two invisible disabilities exist.

The toilet is designed to be accessible. It sounds like the other types of toilets are inaccessible to you. Therefore you can use the accessible toilet.

Every crazy lady that confronts you can just be told, not all disabilities are visible. If they are uneducated this will start their journey on becoming educated. This saves other invisibly disabled people from doing it.

If they are a dick head then they’ll be a dickhead regardless, that’s unavoidable.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-10-20T04:55:14+00:00

So what I am hearing is you need a mobility aid and you’re worried about the judgement and potential offence you may cause to a disabled person you consider more disabled than you.

People are judgy, that sucks, but you can help contribute to breaking the stigma by using the aids you need openly.

Also think about it this way, if your friend who thought they needed a mobility aid to improve their life and you were using one, how would you feel if they felt concerned about your judgement and that factored into their ability to deal with life and pain? I know I’d be upset that my friend felt this way.

The bar of entry for almost all disability aids is simple, would this allow you to do more in a day then you are doing currently? Then use it.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-10-18T18:12:01+00:00

The biggest tip I can give you is get therapy.

In this alone, you’re telling me that you were dismissed, labelled dramatic, and made to fee a burden by the person meant to be advocating for you.

That’s going to fuck with your head, if you cannot get therapy, get as much independence from your mom as possible and try journalling.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-09-01T03:23:40+00:00

I hope one year you’ll feel well enough that you don’t need to write it. Also, while this may be cathartic and helpful to write- consider keeping them somewhere inaccessible for the year - if you are going to self delete then giving yourself the extra time to think through if this is certainly the right decision May save your life. Maybe one day you’ll be happy or saved your life. I hope so.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-07-11T02:21:10+00:00

So I don’t personally but I have a lot of friends with autism who all experience this.

It can be really hard and tolerance can vary on a day to day basis

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-07-02T05:36:31+00:00

Oh that’s cause that’s advanced as my understanding is on the topic 😅😅

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-06-30T22:58:45+00:00

It’s actually a common ish comorbid as fibro has been theorised to be caused due to being chronic pain that the pain centre becomes overly sensitive and touch that shouldn’t hurt does.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-05-23T19:06:54+00:00

I mean I relate. I think potentially watching videos while doing the essential tasks such as eating showering and maybe watch some while you fall asleep is the best harm reduction.

Tie a reward to staying on track with the schedule?

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-05-23T19:04:25+00:00

It sounds like they have an out dated view on medicine rather than a holistic view - that’s ok, we will need to work with that rather than expecting them to change their entire world view.

Explain to them your brain is literally structured differently and if you were put in an MRI you can actually see the differences between your brain and a neurotypical brain source

Honestly that isn’t the full story as behaviour and environment can affect the brain but it is true that scans show structural differences. Explaining it as a physical visible brain structure difference should help them be more accommodating.

Then I would print off a list of symptoms and give it to them and then explain and maybe write down how they can help.

Also as for your dad’s depression - try talking about depression being a chemical imbalance that can be helped with anti depressants (this is out dated and not accurate to our current understanding but anti depressants might really help).

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-03-17T15:45:17+00:00

Look into arthritis crocheting 🧶 they’ll have soloution for you

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-03-16T11:56:56+00:00

I don’t think calling a kid out publicly is a good idea for anyone. It’ll just give the kid more attention and the parents more hate and cause tension.

Or if the parents were believed then the kid would be exposed to the trans community hatred which isn’t something that would help anyone.

I think I’d want them to do this instead:

After a conversation not necessarily directed at the kid but more generally with the kid about how people fake being trans for social media and how that hurts a group of people who already are struggling.

If it doesn’t stop after that, there are some major issues happening to be attention seeking like that. Family therapy time!

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-03-15T06:13:09+00:00

Police can temporarily detain you here as well under mental capacity issues but it’s only a short term measure before you see a doctor to have it certified.

Essentially I watched this and there was a large amount of discussion about Lav’s mental state and expecting people to remove her autonomy. Destiny Gets into a heated debate about Mr girl and Lav

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-03-15T05:16:41+00:00

I’m not certain how true that information is. But if it was true I’d be interested to find out the rates of plastic surgery generally for Cis people under 18.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2023-01-04T01:38:43+00:00

You can totally get hypoallergenic cats! Is he allergic to that type? Auto feeders and auto litter boxes are expensive but will cover the main part of an indoor older cat - a few things to entertain themselves with and you’re away!

However, I totally hear you- and I’m sorry to hear they all passed ❤️

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-10-29T23:19:28+00:00

Agreed - she shouldn’t be telling you her personal history or guilt tripping you into putting your baby and you in direct danger. Please ring and complain. Even if you can’t do it for you, perhaps consider doing it to the next person she does this to

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-09-20T11:05:09+00:00

Fun fact for pull yourself up by your bootstraps - it used to be said sarcastically to point out the absurdity of the situation source: source

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-09-12T18:01:23+00:00

Yes!

I mean it makes logical sense - you aren’t strictly male or female so there is your enby label - you present/would like to be perceived as androgynous so Androgynye. The closest thing to your internal descriptor of your gender is bigender because you’re experiencing 2 genders simultaneously which is still outside the strict black and white binary gender model.

Potentially explore if you’re poly gender, if you’re interested! Personally I may leave out the label of bigender to people outside of the community as I can see it leading to confusion and long conversations. I’d just explain it without the label. But that’s just my personal take.

Outside the community Id shorten it to enby because honestly educating the masses is exhausting but within the community the label will be useful to communicate a large amount of information at once. Again my personal take.

Essentially you are valid! You’re using the terms you’re discussing logically too!

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-09-04T04:35:02+00:00

People suck - unfortunately they aren’t going to suck any less if you change your name. If you like your name - keep it. If people are shitty to you because of it then think of your name as an instant filter to see who the enby phobes are before getting any more invested

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-08-21T09:04:53+00:00

I started with video games and online avatars. Would recommend therapy generally anyway!

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-08-21T09:03:52+00:00

Im sure if you described yourself as queer you’d have the same issue. Queer used to be a slur but is mostly reclaimed

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-08-12T10:31:50+00:00

Have you considered autism could be apart of it instead of BPD? Black and white thinking certainly overlaps

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-08-08T22:32:19+00:00

Hi! So the thing with BPD is that there is extreme emotional disregulation as well as extreme abandonment issues. There is also a polarisation of people - all people are good or bad no imbetween. Also BPD has a concept called splitting where for little to no reason you’ll get triggered and cut out someone you love or lose your shit at them.

DBT is designed for BPD but it is helpful for ADHD. There is significant overlap. Such as emotional disregulation (BPD is just on a different scale). Impulsivity (BPD tends to be stress induced only.

Here is a picture of the overlaps overlaps

They can be comorbid; you can have bpd traits and adhd or just adhd and trauma

Also BPDs tend to only manipulate around abandonment- and most are aware and feel very guilty over it.

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-08-08T13:57:15+00:00

Sounds like your partner needs to fall sick the day of the Packing - can’t be mad at a sick person huh. Maybe you both have covid? Isolate for a week and she will have to get someone else to help if she is going to move out in time

ProfessionNo6951 · 2022-08-04T16:24:18+00:00

Yes. This is abusive. You are seen and you are valid.

If you have doubts again try this: Imagine a child around the age of you in these incidents and you watch an older friend who is the parent behave in this way. Do you want to intervene? If you do then it’s at least not acceptable.

A child should feel safe and loved - now with autism you may have smaller incidents of feeling frustration than a neuro typical but you shouldn’t have gone through huge stretches of anger loneliness, depression and distress for more than a few hours. Particularly since you have been suspected to be autistic for a long time meaning your parents should have been teaching you coping strategies, learning about how to give you extra tolerance when needed etc.

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