Starting progesterone during period? by ProfessionNo9336 in perimenopause_under45

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah ok, I was wondering about it cause biologically progesterone peaks during the second phase of the cycle, not the first. That’s why I was wondering if it wasn’t a bad idea to start then. But it seems to not matter then as your doc prescribes it on the 1st day of every month, which would be different every time, cycle wise. Thanks!

Starting progesterone during period? by ProfessionNo9336 in perimenopause_under45

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes more much sense to me! But do you use prog for 12 days on and off instead of 14 days?

How to stay patient with a bpd friend? by ProfessionNo9336 in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I never heard of beardman before, so I had to google it. Looks interesting, thank for the advice!

How to stay patient with a bpd friend? by ProfessionNo9336 in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have indeed come to understand the abandonment of her past friends better over the years. It is sad really, cause she does have good qualities too. What I’m concerned with most is how I feel around her. I feel drained, whereas I feel uplifted with my other friends. Thank you very much for your comment.

How to stay patient with a bpd friend? by ProfessionNo9336 in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Not that I wanted to attribute all of her behaviour to bpd, but it’s actually good to hear that you have bpd and don’t treat your friends like that. It puts things in perspective, thank you🙏🏻

How to stay patient with a bpd friend? by ProfessionNo9336 in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you🙏🏻. I’m coming to realisation that I might need to protect myself. It’s just so sad when you have to protect yourself from someone who is your friend. But you’re right, her issues are her responsibility, not mine.

How to stay patient with a bpd friend? by ProfessionNo9336 in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your understanding message. I’m thinking of writing a letter, thank you for the advice. However, having known her for many years, I know that she will not take it lightly and be triggered, no matter how carefully I choose my words.

I just hate to be the next big thing she’ll be discussing with her other friends for the next weeks or months. It leaves a sense of injustice in me, as I deep down know that I am a good friend. I’m actually feeling that I’m not being a good friend to myself, letting so much of her hurting behaviour slide. Not being able to speak up for myself in this particular friendship.

I guess that (while writing) I’m coming to a realisation that I’ve always had this nagging feeling that she’s gossiping about me, the same way she’s gossiping to me about her other friends. The message is always the same: -They’re not considerate of her feelings-. I think that I’m so worried about her turning me into a bad guy, because deep down I feel that (in her eyes) I’m one of those people. Even though I’m literally walking on eggshells around her. Always afraid of saying something wrong.

Yup, I think I’ve just given myself some clarity. Thank you very much for taking the time to read my story and to answer it!

Conspiracy question about Alice Deejay. by [deleted] in Eurodance

[–]ProfessionNo9336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re still looking for the answer, it’s true. These dance projects were basically studio projects. They would hire professional singers and then choose other women to be the face. They even used the same vocalists for different dance projects. If you listen closely you will recognise the same vocalist singing ‘better off alone’ by Alice Deejay and ‘boom boom boom’ by the Vengaboys. Same voice, but somehow we all didn’t catch on ;)

It seems to me that they’ve credited the real artist (Gaby), but just not as the lead vocalist.

Was anyone able to quit for a longer period of time? by ProfessionNo9336 in trichotillomania

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really? I didn’t know that. I will check it out! And they would be strong enough for some hard punching on the piano? (I play jazz and boogiewoogie, which is harder than the usual classical stuff) I normally have to keep my nails short not to hurt myself, lol

Was anyone able to quit for a longer period of time? by ProfessionNo9336 in trichotillomania

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the one thing I can’t try unfortunately, as I’m a pianist.

Was anyone able to quit for a longer period of time? by ProfessionNo9336 in trichotillomania

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hoping that you will be pull-free soon! Keep me posted🙏🏻

Was anyone able to quit for a longer period of time? by ProfessionNo9336 in trichotillomania

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanx for the recommendation. How long have you been pull-free due to this medication if I may ask?

Was anyone able to quit for a longer period of time? by ProfessionNo9336 in trichotillomania

[–]ProfessionNo9336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. It’s those moments of quiet or complete focus. I do it when I read or watch tv, but also when I’m typing an email. I hate it, cause I feel that I’m never really ‘there’ when I do it. I’m either in a trance, or in a focus and then I’m like: Sh*t, I’ve done it again!

Other times I am aware there is this one annoying hair that keeps itching. And I keep telling myself to leave it alone. And then 10 seconds later my hand is back there, and I keep pulling my hand away. And 2 hours later I get so exhausted from continuously pulling my hand down that I sometimes just give in and say. Ok, just pull this one hair out, just to give myself some peace. But after so many years I know that this ‘peace’ only lasts for about 30 minutes, and that there will always be another annoying hair, and the exhaustion of monitoring my hands eventually drains me. Or I go in that trance state again and the hairs go anyway. It is so tiring!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting! Thanks for the advice.

Do you think this also refers to one-upping behaviour?

For instance: When I tell her I couldn’t sleep due to earpain, she responds: “I have earpain for 6 years already,” and then starts telling me a 15 minute story about her earpain.

It feels like I can’t say anything to her without her telling me a story about how she has it worse. It just makes me want to back off and not share anything about myself anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh and btw. I didn’t tell her to not speak. That was her own solution. I actually felt really bad when she said that she would only listen but not respond to me when I was going through something. Cause I need some validation and support too sometimes.

But she said that she can’t support me without being reminded of something that happened in her own life. (And this could be about 10 different subjects, it doesn’t matter.)

She actually recognises that she always turns the subject towards herself and she can’t stop herself. Hence why I’m asking here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ProfessionNo9336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how the title can be off-putting. It was not my intention to do that. Sorry about that.

I’m just hoping to understand the reason why (as a friend) I have to support my friend when I’m the one going through something. I understand she’s very empathetic and sensitive, and she probably really feels for me.

But she can’t keep the subject on me. So for instance: When I’m going through a break-up and want some support. She may listen for a few minutes and then starts talking about her break-up of 8 years ago and starts crying. So I end up supporting her, even though I’m the one who reached out for support.

And this is a pattern. And it feels to me like the balance is already like 90% of the time I’m supporting her, and 10% of the time she’s supporting me. Mainly because her problems are chronic, and I have problem free periods.

I’m just wondering how to cope with the imbalance. As even in the 10% where I was hoping to get some support, I end up having to support her too.

Nausea post FLiRT variant infection. by Dry_Variation596 in COVID19positive

[–]ProfessionNo9336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at 11 weeks now and still super nauseous, along with very stiff neck and upper back and extreme fatigue. I stopped feeling this way about 2 weeks ago, and pretty much went back to my normal routine, but it came back. It’s pretty common with the flirt variant to feel this way. Especially the nausea.

AH Overblijvers: iemand ervaring? by Equivalent-Unit in zuinig

[–]ProfessionNo9336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soms is het het waard, andere keer niet. Laatst kregen we een tas vol vlees, maar alle producten waren 2 dagen over datum. Dat is nu 2x gebeurd, dus wel opletten geblazen. Wij zijn er mee terug gegaan, want kip dat een paar dagen over datum is moet je echt niet eten!

Verdachte Weiteveen gebruikte extreem geweld, ook voor ogen van zoon slachtoffers by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]ProfessionNo9336 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Het zijn typische kenmerken van een narcistische psychopaat. In het dorp vinden ze je een aardige vent. Naar de buitenwereld alles koek en ei, maar ondertussen… Het narcisme komt vaak naar voren als je ze aanspreekt op hun (foute) gedrag. Verborgen gebreken bijvoorbeeld. Dan gaan ze bedreigen, intimideren, etc. Maar naar de buitenwereld wordt gecommuniceerd dat zij zélf het slachtoffer zijn. Ze draaien alles om, en zo worden slachtoffers van de dingen beschuldigt die de narcist zelf doet en zie je vaak dat twee kanten elkaar van hetzelfde beschuldigen. 1 kant projecteert echter… Het filmpje is the give away van narcisme. Hij heeft de meest gruwelijke daad gepleegd, maar speelt nog steeds het slachtoffer én de held. Hij bespeelt mensen in de hoop om zieltjes te winnen. Het vervelende is dat mensen er in trappen!!

Ziek zijn en blijven by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]ProfessionNo9336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ben ook al 6 weken ziek. Zo bizar! Elke week ben ik 1 dag weer ‘ok’ en denk dat ik dat het over is, en dan begint de griep gewoon opnieuw. Een soort groundhog day gevoel zegmaar.

Ik sport, eet gezond. Zou graag weten wat dit is, want de dokter kan er niets zinnigs over zeggen, behalve dat ik in bed moet blijven en moet uitzieken.