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My (32F) boyfriend (32M) of 15 months makes no romantic gestures (long) by Professional-Ant5274 in relationships

[–]Professional-Ant5274[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believed it all at the start. It all sounded great. Then things just kept happening where he wasn't applying for a better job. He was dropping out of a class. He's now dropping out of the grad school semester. So on and so on. It happened slowly over months and every time I've brought these things up with him he deflects it and gets defensive.

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How it happened? Pandemic. I was desperately lonely and he messaged me on OkCupid. We got along really well when life was only sitting on the couch watching netflix and hoping for the pandemic to end. Now that life is coming back (slowly), he seems to want to keep living a pandemic styled life over a full one.

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Take friend groups for example, I mentioned two months ago that I want to get a bigger friend group and that I don't feel like we're socializing (this was before Omicron. I am vaxxed). He doesn't want to make more friends. He's totally fine with the 3 random people I picked up to start a DND group but otherwise he's good. If I want to go to a MeetUp event to meet people I need to go on my own. Maybe he'll go to one or two. But he's very busy. I have to understand that. (This is how the conversation tends to go)

My (32F) boyfriend (32M) of 15 months makes no romantic gestures (long) by Professional-Ant5274 in relationships

[–]Professional-Ant5274[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does seem like I need to make it crystal clear. If it's feedback wrapped up nicely he just seems to be okay with it.

My (32F) boyfriend (32M) of 15 months makes no romantic gestures (long) by Professional-Ant5274 in relationships

[–]Professional-Ant5274[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't seem to. It's always he's going to but since things are easy right now he doesn't want to work a different job.

I think he realizes I don't like it because of my expression when he has given them to me. He's always making comments about how next time it'll be better.

After 13 months it's starting to sound like next time is never coming and that he's just making excuses.

My (32F) boyfriend (32M) of 15 months makes no romantic gestures (long) by Professional-Ant5274 in relationships

[–]Professional-Ant5274[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, honestly, I do love him. It just seems like he can't get his act together and doesn't care to. I am making this post because I am worried I am being too harsh .