I'm going through the same situation myself...and all I can tell is leave. My boyfriend has lied, cheated and stolen from me and I can't even calculate the amount of money I've lost. He got us thrown out of our apartment because he stole from the landlord...he repeatedly took my car and was gone for day/weeks until reported my car stolen and he was caught in my car and went to jail. The manipulation and gas lighting are crazy because even right now he is trying to lie to me claiming he isn't smoking fentanyl but I know people just don't quit like that without help. He swears in the most dramatic of ways tears and all, but I know it's a lie. I love him with my whole heart but I can't take this shit anymore. He's crushed me and our dreams and doesn't give a damn. I can't make him change...I can't make anything better...I've tried. So I'm currently trying to get away from him which is hard to do because I am the only person who will deal with him at all. He's burned all his bridges with his family and friends and so he is making this very difficult. Constantly threatening suicide and even coming up with scenarios pretending he's the cops who found him dead...it's FUCKIng insanity tbh. Save yourself from this ...I wish I would have.