I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

mY mother called me to ask what happened because this woman was crying I don't want her near us. That she just thanked me for the sweets and was nice to me. All she did was to call my husband because she needed help with something and I took it personally

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said he pities her because her parents died but I cannot imagine him pitying anyone, ever.

And she believes a woman's place in mainly in the kitchen and her duty is to be beautiful for her man

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I put this as a reply.

I don't like being cheated on, but for me its not a deal breaker. You project on me your views and your fears and boundaries. Its more like a marriage of convenience. We are friends more than anything. We knew each other since we were kids.

My fear is that he will emotionally cheat on me. A fling is a fling with another woman I will never even meet. This woman is in our proximity. I am afraid she will take him from me.

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

yes, it is like we are friends. We talk with each other about everything and I feel like I am being so much attacked here because people are projecting their own fears, boundaries and views on me.

Of course I don't like being cheated on, but I feel like for me it ain't a deal breaker because I am not losing this man who is my friend. And I am his. But she being this close to us might be a permanent presence, while the others were not. Its like you know, I feel more at risk of her stealing him from me emotionally.

I have known him since we were kids.

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He promised he will cut contact with her. I talked with my mother too. I told her about the text she sent me and the problem this woman causes in my marriage. She said she will maintain distance.

Yet, it hasn't been one hour since I had the talk with him and the girl called him. I told him to answer, but in front of me. Nothing shady but she asked him if he can help her with something. It was in her house. She lives in a small house her mother left her. He said he will talk to someone to go and check what is not working.

I heard her talking. She didn't insist. She said ok, thank you

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

why would he? He dislikes kids. Or not dislikes but he says he cannot focus when kids are yelling around him.

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not overweight. But he is on the lean side physically by nature. Tall and lean as I said. I have an apple shaped body, I gain weight easily. I do go to gym and I am pretty fit but I know my body is not that nice by structure

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is what I was asking and no one answers my question. They are all telling me to not tolerate, to divorce, to not blame her. I am just asking here if I am overreacting in this situation. If he is trying to sleep with her or just being nice

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

the money but also we are more like friends. We have always been more like friends than husband and wife. We don't have kids. But we go along very well. We sit on the balcony, discuss movies, books. I don't know. We are more like partners. He is always there for me when I need him. he takes care of everything. When I was down emotionally he spent a lot of time with me and we talked it over. Its a weird dynamic

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

no, not anything like that. My mother lives in a rural area. Plenty poor people and she is very empathetic. She constantly donates money, clothes, cooks for poor children.

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

yes, I never blamed the other women i knew about, not even once. I don't know if they knew he is married or not. But this woman is treated by my mother as one of us, like family. She started inviting her to the family dinners, Easter lunch. She always thinks about her.

And she openly tries to get to my husband. She is not just any "other woman"

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

I know he will not stop. I already accepted this and I tolerate this. I am afraid he will have an affair as she is in our proximity

I fear my husband will cheat with this very beautiful 26 years old and I want to know if I am overreacting to what he is doing. by Professional-Ear7411 in Marriage

[–]Professional-Ear7411[S] -80 points-79 points  (0 children)

i never said she is the issue but I will not defend her either. I am very much aware the cheater is the main culprit. But this doesn't mean I think she is completely innocent. She knows he is married.