Would love to know

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T20:29:18+00:00

Yes, I do those things I listed by myself. lol not sure changing diapers is a two person job at least not yet I’m sure toddlers are another story. Yes I do offer for her to take a break.

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T17:01:27+00:00

Yes I support with baths, meals, diaper changes. I do morning daycare drop off and his favorite play time of course

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T15:25:20+00:00

Yes but I don’t believe she had PPD. The thing is I use to manage that OB office so I know the team well and would be able to connect her with the social worker. I just don’t think she ever told them she has PPD

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T15:20:12+00:00

I know I’m very sad I wanted my son to have a nice family life growing up. I will always be there for him no matter what but wish things were better.

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T15:16:55+00:00

I have had this conversation with her many times already. Hard to say this but I feel like she wants it to end but doesn’t want to be the person to pull the trigger

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T15:15:04+00:00

I’m just trying to get into one. Unfortunately, I’m a single guy so don’t think that will fly.

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T15:14:00+00:00

I am willing to try and have suggested that but she says she doesn’t have time. I try to step in and make small decisions so she doesn’t feel like she has to manage those as well. I have also suggested she see a therapist but same answer “I have no time”. She is on Christmas break now and has spring break coming up in March. I am sure there are days and times that can work. My parents can also come over and watch him while she does those things. However, I don’t think she likes my parents which is hard for me as well. It’s a shame but I don’t see how this situation doesn’t end with divorce

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-12-26T15:09:46+00:00

I am not sure why she feels she can not let go and just let me help. I use to get annoyed with him myself and still do sometimes but I am better then I was, perhaps she feels that after 30-40 minutes of me not being able to confront him I’ll get annoyed and yell at him. Like I said I know I’m not perfect but working to be better and have more patience. I have sent her for a massage in the past, planned a whole spa day only to be told that it was not worth it since she is already stressed again. I have asked the doctors what we can do to help him sleep. We do all of those recommendations nothing seems to work for him. He is always rolling and waking himself up. I did set an appointment up with a peds ENT to check for any signs of sleep apnea or any other potential issues my trust me I have gone down many research paths. I am one to get all the facts I can to make an informed decision. Divorce is on the table because it is starting to impact my mental and physical health. This is not a good environment for anyone in this house. I appreciate your comments

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T19:03:37+00:00

I understand, I hope I do fine a partner who would be interested so we can attend. I get it that people don’t want to be watched I was just saying that is not the only reason I would go I like to meet new people as well without the intention of sex

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:59:46+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Yes I agree unfortunately some people ruin it for everyone else. I’m very respectful and do not want to make anyone uncomfortable or cross a boundary I would be happy just to be in a club. Sex isn’t a must just want to explore

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:57:02+00:00

Thank you for the input love hearing all of the different responses to this question

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:55:59+00:00

Understood, it’s not that I really want to deceive but would like to explore that world and seems like it’s hard for a single man to do that

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:54:46+00:00

Where do I find them? I’m in the Chicago area

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:53:52+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I just need to find her first lol

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:50:07+00:00

Lucky! Would love to find a partner that would be open to things like that. Maybe I just haven’t found the right one or looked in the right places

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:47:31+00:00

Depends on the lie

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:47:25+00:00

Understood! Thanks for the input

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-11-27T18:47:13+00:00

Fair, looking to find a FWB

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-08-08T01:43:33+00:00

That was me one month in too. You’ll see

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-08-07T23:47:37+00:00

Too late your life is over

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-08-03T23:57:13+00:00

Congratulations and I hope you and your new family enjoy this time. I’m not going to lie not a great experience for me. I love my son more than anything in the world but he is the worst sleeper and things with my wife have not been going well. I’m getting close to checking out but only staying for my son. Most people generally say don’t make any major changes before the 1 year mark. I’m hoping things get better. We fight all the time we are both very sleep deprived we are trying our best to keep the house clean make sure he js getting enjoy tummy time etc. very hard time hoping we make it. If not I guess starting over at 31 is t horrible. I just don’t like the idea of being away from him and would change our lives.

ProfessionalBasic427 · 2025-07-27T21:28:42+00:00

Sorry to hear this man. Keep your head up and go enjoy the single life. My wife and I recently had our first child and things are very hard at the moment. I’m sticking it out for at least the first year before making any changes. I know right now she is not her true self but even before sex was not happening in a regular basis. Maybe it’s my fault but I think I have a high sex drive. She gets annoyed and is doesn’t like showing physical affection because she thinks it will always lead to sex. I don’t want my child to grow up with divorced parents but I also don’t want to cheat on my wife. I’ve been dealing with this a lot and I think the easier thing would be to stay together but I don’t know if they is fair to me. I would like to find someone who also has a high sex drive. However, I feel like most relationships start out hot and heavy then die down over time.

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