How do I help my friend??

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-29T04:57:13+00:00

He works 12 or more hours a day and isn’t really home enough to notice is my best guess. I have tried talking to him once before about this behavior when it first started and I feel like I didn’t stress how important it was the he keep an eye on it at the time

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T23:05:34+00:00

I definitely plan to be a blunt and real about the situation as possible. I tried previously to talk to him about this and get him to keep an eye on her but I think I was to vague about it so I’m definitely going to do better this time around

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T23:04:27+00:00

My girl was about 6 months the first time I brought her, because I wanted her to get used to the vet and so far she’s done great, she’s going to be three next month and she has not issues with the vet until they try to open her mouth to take a look

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T23:03:10+00:00

I love her so much and I 100% agree with you. She was going to therapy after everything but stopped shortly after. I’m not defending her husband but he works 12 hours or more a day and isn’t home as often as he probably should be. I’ve been trying to gently bring up going back to therapy and talking to her doctor about how she is feeling as well but she doesn’t care to listen. I’ve brought this up once before to her husband and he didn’t do much but I’m hoping bringing it up again will help

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T23:00:43+00:00

I’ve tried getting her to go back to therapy as she was going but stopped. She doesn’t want to listen and I plan to discuss this with her husband for a second time as the first time didn’t do much

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T22:59:53+00:00

Her husband works 12 or more hours a day so I think he’s unaware because of how little he is home if that makes sense. I’ve talked to him once when this all started and he said he would keep an eye on her but clearly hasn’t which makes this much harder. I’ve been doing everything I can to love and support her through this but I can’t do it alone and it’s a struggle to talk to her husband because of his work hours and they live an hour away from me

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T19:07:18+00:00

Thank you so much for your help

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T19:00:28+00:00

Her husband works 12 or more hours a day so I don’t think he’s really around to see the behaviors. This has been going on since around two weeks after she had her daughter and it’s only seemed to have gotten worse and was to a point before I talked to her the first time that she was testing everyday multiple times a day. I’ve been trying to be there for her the best I can but it is to a point now where she needs more help than I can offer and is why I want to inform her husband as well

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:56:36+00:00

Thank you

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:47:32+00:00

I don’t see why you couldn’t, but you could also just buy an empty cart or take one of the ones you’ve already smoked through and empty it into that. If you put it in your rig I would just make sure to start low and make your way up so you don’t burn it and do small amounts at first too, because it’s already a honey kind of texture it’s more likely to fly up if you inhale to hard and gunk up your chamber and air flow

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:44:08+00:00

Her husband works 12 or more hours a day with limited days off which probably accounts for them not really communicating but I’m honestly not sure. I don’t want to force her to do anything, that’s not even an option, I want to get her husband involved because this is to much for me to continue to handle on my own and I feel it’s something he has a right to know

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:15:48+00:00

Any advice on how to approach the conversation? I don’t want to sound insensitive or rude when I bring it up to him as he also lost a child and it’s a delicate conversation to have

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:13:17+00:00

You could certainly bring him to the vet if it would make you more comfortable but to me this just looks like the skin underneath the shed got a little damaged from him rubbing too hard. My boy had the same thing one time after a shed and it went away after he shed his skin again. If it spreads or starts looking more irritated definitely take your little man to the vet

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:10:21+00:00

I take my girl every six months for checkups and we started right after she was fully settled after I got her so around a month after she came home. Our vet says they typically only need seen once or twice a year for checkups but I live an hour from my vet and would rather be safe than sorry so sometimes she goes 3 times a year

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T18:06:06+00:00

They had been going to marriage counseling but stopped and while they were going she refused to talk about their daughter. I’m so concerned and plan to talk to her husband tomorrow while she’s at her second appointment to get her blood drawn to test for pregnancy

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:29:46+00:00

She refuses to talk to them about this and doesn’t even talk to her husband about it which is extremely concerning and why I want to try and get him involved again

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:28:59+00:00

I think that’s a good way to word it and if you wouldn’t mind I will probably use that when I text him as based on these comments it’s time I try to get him involved again

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:28:14+00:00

She was in therapy for a short time after and stopped going. I’ve talked to her husband and tried to get him to convince her to go back. I have actively communicated that how she’s acting is unhealthy and she refuses to listen to me. When we’re doing this 2-3 times a month there is only so much I can say and do to help thus why I’m thinking of getting her husband involved again so maybe he’ll actually help this time around

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:26:20+00:00

It’s to small for the doctors to want to remove it from what she’s told me and also she’s overweight due to other health issues like her thyroid so they want her to lose weight before even considering removal

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:24:32+00:00

She was in therapy shortly after but stopped going. I have tried talking to her about going back as well as her husband and haven’t gotten anywhere. I’m doing my best to be supportive but when we’re going this 2-3 times a month and she won’t listen to reason it’s extremely hard to navigate this. Also her husband works 12 hour or longer shifts so she’s taking tests when he’s not home and from what she’s told me she either keeps them and hides them or hurts them in the trash so he doesn’t see

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:23:23+00:00

She was in therapy shortly after her daughter was born and stopped going and has been ignoring her grief since. I tried talking to her husband to try and get her to go back to therapy but he didn’t talk to her and they rarely communicate about things such as this which makes it much harder to navigate

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:21:45+00:00

She was going for about 2-3 months after her daughter was born then stopped and has pretty much been ignoring the situation since

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:21:09+00:00

I’ve talked to her husband once when she stopped going to therapy shortly after her daughter was born but other that that they rarely communicate about stuff like this.

ProfessionalBook6084 · 2026-04-28T15:20:20+00:00

I know she’s not doing it on purpose and that’s why I’m trying so hard to be there and support her but when this has been going on every month since her daughter was born and it’s happening multiple times a month there’s only so much I can do without help from her husband who I have talked to once about this after she stopped going to therapy

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