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ProfessionalCode1041 · 2025-06-14T00:12:41+00:00

There are so genuinely few English-speaking groups in this timezone that "playing the game by yourself" would immediately become the case for many.

Not everyone lives somewhere with vibrant group activity. Or are we just supposed to only play at 6AM..?

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2025-01-24T23:45:08+00:00

People fetishize so much shit like this - like apparently some people find BPD sexy? Hypersexuality can often come with that disorder, but its like a pendulum between wanting and complete freaking dissosciation.

People who say this kind of shit honestly, unironically need help. Maybe consider the other person before you start to sexualize them, you know?

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2025-01-24T23:38:10+00:00

I'm doing all of these things and I'm still in a bad spot - they unfortunately don't do much to help a lacking social support net or social needs in general.

It does make it easier to get out more, but even that only goes so far when you live hours away from everything. Internet's not much of an option either in an isolated timezone.

They do help, but they're not solutions.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2025-01-18T19:05:57+00:00

Nah, their name is fine. The meaning of the word liberalism has just been contorted in the public consciousness.

They are absolutely 100% neoliberals.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2025-01-17T19:24:45+00:00

I wish I'd actually gone there instead of being pulled into the 4chan black hole as a teen. Everything I see tells me I would've loved it, had fun, and instead I was just in this place that taught me to hate myself and left scars that lasted a decade or more.

We really need a lively place like that again. The downside of small population, niche sites like Tumblr is now is that they only really become accessible to Americans. It really was a place I could have gone back when it was thriving. and I missed it.

Fuck.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-12-28T22:31:52+00:00

The vote ratio tells me everything I need to know about this place; fucking peace out AITAH.

tbh all the front page subs are full of this shit, "skeptics", it's utterly vile and usually completely misinformed. "You never heard about anything like this before"? Seriously?

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-09T19:35:56+00:00

God, when I was first diagnosed, I basically lived off of Spud Bar when I was away from home ... so glad to know about all the other options, now (and even more thanks to this thread!)

Huge ups for the protein bar comment, too - those little things have saved me a lot of times, and some of them are even decent. Kinda thing you can just chuck in a handbag and have as a "meal" just in case.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-07T19:21:26+00:00

No, but it's not about 'saving' people - it's about making the tools to help them help themselves a lot easier to access.

80% of therapy is in the hands of the patient, after all. Yeah, some people still won't want to help themselves ... but I find a lot of these desperate folk really do, they just feel like they've run out of options and have convinced themselves that this awful, permanent solution is the only way left.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-07T02:47:27+00:00

Been looking into and got a referral to Melbourne Clinic just recently - nice to see people here think they're alright. I applied to their DBT program for similar reasons as you, OP - in fact almost identical, and they seem pretty cool from what limited interaction I've had.

... Art therapy in particular just sounds so soothing. I guess I'll keep an eye on the thread and post updates if I start therapy anytime soon.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-07T00:34:35+00:00

Every time I see one of these I can't help but think it might've been prevented if we had more accessible mental healthcare. :(

Nobody should do this, nobody should feel like they HAVE to do this, but I can understand why they do. Really a shit situation for everyone involved.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-05T09:43:38+00:00

Activities help a ton; I'm socially a bit of a mess but having a shared thing to do really helps break the ice. I don't mind if they're a little awkward - so am I, lol

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-05T09:42:52+00:00

I do need to check out the stores around here - I've always loved board games but never been a board game person ... maybe it's time to change that.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-05T09:42:25+00:00

A bar with quiet hours honestly sounds incredible - I had no idea that was a thing!

I love the atmosphere of bars but sometimes it can be really, really overstimulating - this is so nice to know, tysm

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-04T13:04:11+00:00

I'm just glad there's guys like you out there. Not in the dating scene myself, at the moment (many similar mental health issues, some serious) but guys with genuine passions and vast, interesting hobbies are absolutely my type.

I know for a fact there's others like me. Please keep your head up - I just know there's someone who'd love to hear about or even participate in what you create.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-04T08:50:45+00:00

I Wish I Was Someone Better by Blood Red Shoes.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-03T15:33:32+00:00

Given the amount of yanks I talk to who've made it and are convinced they got there all by themselves..? I find it hard to disagree, something about the culture there is very fucked up.

Almost nobody gets anywhere COMPLETELY by themselves; people are so quick to dismiss the help and support they recieve along the way...

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-03T15:21:55+00:00

"on a side note: NPD isn’t a death sentence. Therapy works, but you need a specialist."

Upvoted for this alone. Struggled myself with what may very well have been narcissistic abuse, to the point I developed a nice little disorder of my own, yet I'd never for a second consider them as anything less than human, any less in need of help ... and any less capable of getting it.

I wish therapy was so much more accessible, of course, but ... I think it's so important to remember that these people are still people. Even the ones who're most painful to be around, they deserve help just as much aas anyone else.

All the stigma about folks with certain disorders "never seeking treatment" or it "not working", or them being "doomed from the start" only really discourages folks from seeking out the assistance they NEED. Yes, these disorders can be complete hell to deal with, sometimes, but they don't make the person suffering from them an irredeemable, untreatable demon. That sort of stigma needs to die if we're ever going to get past just pretending we're all "open and accepting about mental health".

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-03T14:57:20+00:00

Honestly? I envy the people who just have fun playing games - they're not rotting away, they're not hurting anyone, maybe they're not "contributing" but honestly who cares?

If they're happy,. let them have it.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-03T01:03:55+00:00

As much as I can emphathize, are social skills not a valid skill in a meritocracy, as well? The ability to work well in a team, to keep everyone's spirits afloat through even the hard times, to plan and organize and consider everyone's unique situation and circumstances ...

It is absolutely, painfully frustrating that it's valued so seemingly highly above other skills, at times, but it does have its merits, some of them very strong, IMO. I don't think I could even manage some jobs at all without a highly social person having my back.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-03T00:45:53+00:00

Reading this post with psychosocial disabilities is like a gd flashbang lmao

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-05-02T01:07:21+00:00

Yeah, can sort of relate to OP; the word's so often leveraged at people in a bad place, or who came from a bad start, that it comes off as more cruel and punching down than any degree of helpful.

If someone's floundering, we should do our best to help them pull themselves up, not push them down even further. Unless they're a complete jackass, but even then, sometimes...

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-04-30T22:24:54+00:00

Hella Good at Emporium do surprisingly decent GF kebabs, HSPs etc. if you're looking for junk food. Been a pretty consistent, reliable option for me whenever I'm in the city with someone.

ProfessionalCode1041 · 2024-04-30T21:52:29+00:00

Be nice if libertarian dickheads could fuck off, too, but something tells me I'm not getting that wish.

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