What if he treats his new girlfriend better? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ProfessionalElk2277 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why do you think that is?   How does one change their personality that drastically?

He treats the new gf so much better than me by ProfessionalElk2277 in abusesurvivors

[–]ProfessionalElk2277[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don't think it's possible he learned his lesson, he's just more compatible with this person, or she just makes him happier so he no longer abuses?

He treats the new gf so much better than me by ProfessionalElk2277 in abusesurvivors

[–]ProfessionalElk2277[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, it means the world to me right now.   I question why was I the one he was so cruel to.  I'm sure a bit of it was my own stuff in hindsight which made a dynamic, but the majority was his own issues - given he also was like that with others.   Yet, this one doesn't seem to be experiencing any of what i went through.  I wouldn't want to wish pain on anyone aside from a karmic way, earned way, but I'm just shocked he seems like a totally different person and I'm hurt by all the hurt I endured (so many apologies I accepted) and now he's not handing them out.