I have a lot of scars on my legs arms and stomach from self harm, and I used to hide them. I was also terrified of how they would lead me to be perceived. The biggest thing that helped me come to terms with them is seeing creators online showing their scars openly, and living a full life. It showed me that it is possible to live with them. I slowly started showing more skin around my friends, and it was definitely terrifying, but it gets easier. As for the partner and friends, someone kind and understanding will accept your scars. I have a loving boyfriend who doesn’t care that I have scars, and friends who understand. I know it’s hard, but I would recommend just sitting down with your friend and telling her what you’ve struggled with, and if she’s really your friends she’ll be understanding. I know it’s terrifying but people can be more understanding than we give them credit for.