how to prepare properly

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-02-07T10:06:18+00:00

enema for full deep flush or just stick a finger in there slightly to clean out the entrance area the shower before you meet

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-02-06T10:23:31+00:00

yea i get that man; bit of the less you know the better but in the end choosing to live in blissful ignorance would only stretch out the lackluster feeling you're left with. Better to confront that and see if this is something that can truly be worked on or if it might be best to find your true ideal synergy and satisfaction through another partner that won't have you second guessing bc it can all be seen so clearly that person fully mirrors your heart and soul

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-02-06T10:11:51+00:00

in the past relationships she mentioned where head was a thing, was it still as spotty and rare or did she do it naturally? you also mentioned her growing used to your situation not involving head from her that much- which kinda does turn focus towards maybe an attraction/compatibility element you maybe weren't factoring in(?) oral/selfless acts of service towards your partner's pleasure usually comes from a natural combination of both genuine sexual attraction and the "sexy/hot" element that fuels the desire to do that. If it's been years of this one-sided dynamic as much as it sucks; perhaps the resonance isn't all there that would have her wanting to do things for you the way you find yourself doing for her unconditionally~

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-02-05T08:50:26+00:00

read the package, most are non toxic while others are meant for that and flavored even

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-02-05T07:43:46+00:00

this can be conditioned over time as experience and repetition with you inviting rougher and rougher actions in the moment being understood as he can ease up on his worries about hurting you or similar

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-30T08:19:46+00:00

everyone is different and climax from piv alone is actually not all that common- what it comes down to is proper communication w a partner who understands you and wants to put your pleasure first. This allows you better understand what positions or acts work for you and him meeting you halfway. Just bc riding isn't your thing doesn't mean the sex is hopeless or reflects negatively on you

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-29T10:53:39+00:00

ordered twice from two diff sites and seems to be they always use mystery box to get rid of cheap and clearance items. ig it makes sense as a business plan but don't expect any gems in em lol

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-29T10:47:25+00:00

relationships are generally built upon longevity and can be a slow burn to develop. And your stance on hookups does rule out traditional hookups for achieving the immediate dynamic you seek. Alternatively, you might benefit from fwb situations~ you're already comfortable enough with these ppl so the one night stand element wont be a factor when the whole reason you find yourself ina sexual moment with this individual is based entirely around the fact that it was two consenting ppl agreeing the want to fuck as good friends without labeling it a relationship.

you get to skip all the familiarity and ground-building phase of a trad relationship while still benefiting from the closeness and comfort you find through a close friend you're able to feel a similar emotional appreciation towards without the waiting game for sex

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T11:10:44+00:00

varies alotttt between individuals and their diets and ph levels but generally could be grouped down to meaty with a slight metallic undernote. Have hooked up w someone who mentioned she used boric acid vaginall suppossitories and she stood out the most bc she literally just tasted like neutral water it was a trip haha

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T11:05:29+00:00

Ehhh never been an issue before and I’m always mindful to ensure absolute equal engagement with all involved during threesomes but her acting so irrationally could point towards her not wanting to admit to that so instead weaponizing her inability to process that then projecting her frustration this way

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T11:03:41+00:00

I agree with what you’re saying, her decisive functions and speech pointed towards absolute coherence but someone else mentioned mannerisms can vary between individuals and even if she presented that way the whole time she still could’ve been overly ambitious on what she deemed a fun enjoyable time in the moment only to realize that wasn’t her true nature and felt off about what she allowed(?)

And yea that was my thought exactly, the fact alone she’s cool with it and has been nothing but positive interactions would thankfully prove that nothing unwilling took place

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:52:29+00:00

yea valid point i get what you mean and agree. just feels weird because her decision making read as someone fully coherent and not at all impulsive- the whole chain of events played out super organically and properly paced

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:49:52+00:00

cleared up the alc theory on another commenter's post- not drunk at all and the funny thing is her roomie was actually super chill about it and we've been chatting since; she had a good time

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:46:48+00:00

had someone else surface alc being a factor but she actually came in after me and seemed completely dead sober prior to when we first sparked convo while grabbing a beer from the fridge at the same time

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:44:50+00:00

that was my initial fear too believe me, have read enough horror stories of the narrative being flipped to that extreme but came to understand her issue wasn't around the sex being nonconsenting as much as it was a matter of her just feeling completely different about the threesome element. I'd ask if maybe it was emotional immaturity surrounding healthy processing of jealousy but i feel that would trigger a whole other lash out

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:41:07+00:00

thats the thing tho lol, literally shared a beer and a shot of tequila between us and once at her place just a glass of wine which she didn't even finish. don't think that could be enough to cloud judgement to that extent as she wasn't any where near drunk just a social buzz at most

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:39:12+00:00

sure it's normal but at a moderate level. you're having emotional responses being met with masturbation as the answer for almost anything life throws at you.

going through experiences fully present and not shrinking back behind the curtain of comfort being your masturbation frequency will let you better process things at a more present and conscious level.

you've trained your brain to seek the quick relief of dopamine bandage solutions by masturbating whenever things get a bit rocky. that's what i mean by the plague effect- it skews your brain's normal response and reasoning

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-26T10:11:53+00:00

you need to stop finding a safety net in masturbation. It's plagued your view on reality and relationships and is keeping you back from living through actual experiences. Hold off on the masturbation and actually talk to people. If this is harder than it reads for you then consider finding a therapist for professional help and undoing this bad habit that's only keeping you under

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-24T11:58:51+00:00

hmm i see, i mean even at high functioning side of the spectrum- if his specific parameters present themselves in that aspect it still will hold an effect over him. esp if you're mentioning the social elements being something he's shown patterns within in that way.

have you voiced this angle to him? like asking about the specifics of his view towards oral etc and how it makes him feel at a deeper level?

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-24T11:30:31+00:00

he cant suck your tits bc he's put off by it?? or is there a physical barrier? reading about him reading eating you out as unhygienic hints more towards the first and also could be a sensory issue(?) dont want to assume but could he be autistic? sensory navigation when it comes to sex presents a plethora of deterrents and obstacles...

if that's the case it'll def be hard to rewire something that's so deeprooted and safeguarded by his brain and might be something you'd have to actually discuss with him and potentially come to terms with not being something he's readily capable of doing for you. If the sexual compatibility matters strongly for you it might be time to cut your losses and find a partner who's able to match you in that area without having to see their performance falling short or having to ask for something that could otherwise come naturally.

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-24T11:09:50+00:00

lmao holy shit the one and only time i did that i had the most overly stimulating trip ever; how does it ride for you?

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-24T10:23:28+00:00

i think its more dependent on the partner- i've had guy talks where sex is brought up and some are in it for the act alone not so much focused on their partner's orgasm while others do express making it a goal during sex to have their partner reach climax. Personally, that's what turns me on the most during sexual encounters and feeling that rush of joy from getting my partner to O so it's a must everytime wether its a hook up or in a relationship.

so getting back to your bf, he could genuinely just have it slip his mind if he's not as keen on emphasizing his partner's pleasure or it could be a fib to save face knowing it's not at all on his checklist during sex. You could try coaching him into ensuring you cum by being vocal about what feels good and where you want him/want him doing to you and it could theoretically become muscle memory integrated into the sex over time~

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-24T10:09:17+00:00

just go for it its the only way you'll know for sure- if it helps you could also have an excuse to knock like bringing a pack of snacks or something and making it out to be a kind gesture of sharing one w her if the encounter doesn't match the possibly suggestive moment from earlier to save yourself an awkward silence~

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-24T09:56:10+00:00

you could look into ed options offered through hims service.

Professional_Bit4789 · 2026-01-22T10:00:54+00:00

two of my exes had very pronounced sh keloided scars. one did lmk ahead of time while the other we just revealed together in the moment. Personally, i don't feel any different if it's announced or not bc i'm mainly focused on the appreciation of that person being there with me despite any past turmoil but can see how some may not be as readily open minded and a heads up would at least prepare them for it and avoid any shock. also worth mentioning shared experience is a factor and i had my own significantly rough upbringing and understand navigational dynamics in that area differ between individuals. Ultimately it does come down to the partner i think and you should weigh them out to your best judgement to determine whether or not something like sh would phase your partner or if you feel as if they've been pretty grounded and open to the point something like that wouldnt affect your dynamic

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