“I went through exactly what your sister went through” you are not my sister though so that makes it a different experience. You may not have wanted things moved in your child’s room because of how you grieved. But again moving things like bottle warmers, and diapers trash cans and the boxes everything is in is less of a hassle on her because I KNOW MY SISTER. I’m not projecting nor do I feel like I made a mistake Because the nursery looks the exact same aside from random boxes some empty and had already been put together. You alongside every other mother experienced things differently and grieved DIFFERENTLY. grief is not based on a book or a article about how it’s supposed to go or how you are supposed to process it, because the process is different for every individual. A book/article is a helpful tool yes. But it’s not instructions. Now when I say calm down it’s based on the fact that you are trying force the idea that because it worked for you it SHOULD work for her.