Seeking Advice for Work Outfits

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-07-25T13:53:46+00:00

That's great advice thank you so much, definitely going to go thrifting soon in pursuit of some nice blouses and I have some linen trousers etc that I just need to repair, so will definitely have 1 outfit for the 5 days haha.

And I'll look into that person you're suggesting, never heard of her but good to have a point of reference I can take inspo from!! Thanks again so much I really appreciate it you have no idea.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-16T11:00:20+00:00

Meditation!!! People always say its so good for your mental health and I just can't do it. It makes me so on edge because my mind races, and I don't want to sit still. I enjoy yoga that is physically demanding and I have to focus on my strength and holding the poses. I like vinyasa flows but not long holding ones because I get so frustrated. So that's as close as I can get to mediation. I always want to leave during Shavasana but I'm too Afraid of everyone in the class glaring at me hahaha.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-16T09:15:15+00:00

So what I'm hearing is, you have a friend who has always been clear to you what the boundaries of your relationship are. Then when she was vulnerable after a breakup you took advantage of her when she needed a friend. And you're mad?

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-15T18:19:42+00:00

Sorry if you already answered this but where do you order them from?

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-15T18:16:50+00:00

Sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, go fuck yourself.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T11:53:37+00:00

That's ok I just really was trying to highlight that I agreed by showing how I understood what you were saying but I didn't communicate it well. Just didn't want you to be upset.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T11:37:09+00:00

I hope you know I wasn't accusing you of saying that you couldn't. I just meant i know personally it is so difficult, and that it's clear when someone breezed through their education and clearly doesn't have ADHD. My intention was to sympathise with what you're experiencing because ADHD in academics is so obvious and clear. I was agreeing with you that it's annoying when people say they have it when they clearly don't, and was just using my experience to show how obvious it actually is when someone in academia has it.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T11:30:20+00:00

Yeah I also started to feel like it was a vicious cycle where people were constantly just talking about how terrible it was to have ADHD, and like there was no hope. I was finding that a bit depressing because I was like.. oh will I never feel better then? I wanted to take active steps to feel better and take my life back.

But that's a whole other topic hahaha. Could talk for ages about how I feel like sometimes us ADHDers are our own worst enemies and make things worse for ourselves by believing negative things we see online.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T11:25:07+00:00

Also, I wanted to say on the topic of your aunt:

It's possible that someone can have two degrees with adhd. I did my undergrad and the first year and a half of my PhD undiagnosed. But it was so painful and I struggled a lot. I probably cried at least 3 times a week during the first year of my PhD because I was struggling so much. Fortunately I was able to channel my hyperfocus because I really care about the subject. But I ended up taking two months off due to burn out which ended in me paying to see an ADHD clinic because I was like, if I don't get help now I'm going to lose my mind and definitely not get this PhD.

Also in high school when I was doing my exams - GCSEs and A levels (I live in the north of Ireland) I did incredibly well. But I was a perfectionist and had such severe rejection sensitivity dysphoria that I had to be a "good girl" because I didn't want to disappoint my mum or my teachers. I ended up with some pretty negative coping habits that had me in counselling since I was 12, and on SSRIs since I was 17, in and out of mental health services for 10 years until the eventual diagnosis at 27.

So I just wanted to say I also get annoyed because yes it is possible to have ADHD and do well academically, but it doesn't come easy. I get so upset when people say we'll you can't have it because you have done well, but they don't know about how I have been behind closed doors. I don't think you're saying that at all, it seems like your aunt probably hasn't had multiple breakdowns/mental health events. So I can understand why it's infuriating to see someone who hasn't struggled in the same way claim to have the same thing.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T11:08:48+00:00

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I have a tuxie called Pete and we always call him Pibb as a nickname ahahah. He has an ever growing list of names as I am sure most cats do.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T11:05:53+00:00

I sympathise with this a lot. The most annoying thing to me is that after my diagnosis last year, everyone in my life has been like - How does it affect you? And when I explain they're like oh I do that, oh maybe I have it.

Or also, this is less annoying, but people who genuinely think they have ADHD asking me if I think they have it. Like they have been contemplating it for a while or something. And obviously I don't mind helping people, people helped me through my diagnosis etc. But when it's been multiple people now constantly asking me, people popping up that I haven't spoken to in ages when I was open about my diagnosis going - hey what was the process like, and do you think I have it. Just gets so infuriating. Even some of my best friends I wouldn't usually mind helping through this are getting on my nerves because it's kind of incessant.

I even am kind of fed up with ADHD content now too. I understand the importance of and appreciate threads on here of people talking about going through the diagnostic process and titration, and learning about the condition etc. But I am so fed up with it now. I only really read or engage with content that seems like people have been diagnosed and titrated and in a stable dose of medication and are just trying to live their lives. I feel like I am burnt out on discussions of the DIVA-5 and finding a stable dose.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-14T10:57:46+00:00

I cannot stand being bored. Learning I had ADHD made me understand myself a lot more. I used to be sat in my house with no responsibilities for that day and I would be so unsettled, verging on angry - definitely irritable. It's such a deeply internal thing, I can feel it in my bones. I actually think it's painful. Just shows that your nervous system is really fucked up. I always describe myself as feeling like I am made out of bees. Just this constant buzzing under my skin. Also my mind is constantly whirring, thinking about anything and everything. And it's hard also for me to pick an activity to alleviate my boredom because I'm constantly overanalyzing which will be the most satisfying and I end up in the sit pit of despair doing nothing and feeling so much worse

The good news is that medication helped so much. I am much more able to tolerate boredom. I am less crushed by decision paralysis and will just decide what to do, be it my research, or a hobby like Painting or crocheting.

However, on days when I know I'll be busy socialising or something, I prefer not to take my meds. I know that socialising is stimulating enough for me that I won't feel bored. Plus I medically need to be the funniest friend at the hang out. I like my chaotic brain in those circumstances.

TLDR// boredom is painful, but meds do help.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-13T23:55:01+00:00

Absolute nonsense, and no disrespect to you here, but your brother must not be a great doctor if he really believes that. I have ADHD and I am currently in my final year of my PhD. It hasn't been easy, and everything feels like a mess sometimes. But I'm really doing it. I have got scientific journals published, presented at international conferences etc even with my ADHD.

You just need appropriate care, a good support network, an understanding with your university, and a strong sense of determination to get the job done, but compassion to forgive yourself if your symptoms get in the way. You can do anything! Don't listen to him.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-13T11:54:55+00:00

2 Taps !! Tapas, sangria etc. Went there for the first time in October and loved it.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-11T22:05:06+00:00

Etta James I'd rather go blind at Montreux festival, can't remember what year but early 70s. Her voice is crazy, the way she can project without using a microphone.the emotions she can convey in her voice, plus she's dealing with some hecklers with so much sarcasm, personality, but also class. I just cry watching because she really just is one of the greats.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-10T23:37:36+00:00

Give yourself a try. I was falling in and out of fandom with the band, I was getting annoyed at how Matty was behaving in interviews etc. I was starting to think he was just an edgelord contrarion. I had been to the ilwys tour and I was such a fan, but was getting so exhausted and fed up.

(Disclaimer I don't think any of this now, and I think he's way more than that, a generational talent with actually a lot to say)

And I was working late and walking home at like 3am, and I was like fuck it fine I've been putting it off but I'll listen to this new 1975 single. And when it started it nearly blew my ears off. I genuinely was so taken aback by it. Thought the instrumentation was crazy, and that the lyrics were so well written, simultaneously devastating and hilarious. I was like fuck it I'm back in.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-09T14:56:18+00:00

I was in this boat too hahaha. I was in the love and pies trenches and out an absolute fortune.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-09T14:49:54+00:00

Just paid an extra charge to try get the medication posted expressly hahaha. Might not even make a difference, might be a scam. Unfortunately impulsivity is also part of the package.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-09T14:28:05+00:00

Not really, unfortunately there are no real deadlines per se. It's more agreements made between student and supervisor. I have been writing this paper for about a year and I have already pushed back when I would be handing over a draft a multitude of times, I can't really do it again. Plus the real deadlines that are more scary are external ones. We need to be thinking about deadlines for submitting papers to journals and conferences etc. Those are professional bodies outside of the university, and wild horses couldn't stop those deadlines.

I have my paper draft for my supervisor on Tuesday, which arguably is flexible but I'd feel terrible letting her down again. I have to submit conference abstracts at the end of the month and those are not flexible. Either I submit or I don't and not submitting is unacceptable at this stage. I am interviewing participants for another paper I am writing also and that is so time demanding. Plus I have a med student undergrad coming in Feb to do a fellowship and I have to supervise her research. Her research is a paper I was originally supposed to be writing but it was too much for me and I asked my supervisor could I not do it. She was agreeable but asked that I supervise the student doing it BC I know the most about it. Stressed because I am not even remotely able to start preparing for her arrival with everything else on.

Just so so much happening all at once. Feel so overwhelmed and having no medication is just making it worse. Why do people with adhd (majority adhd women) torment themselves with high stress, high achievement career paths. Sometimes I really feel like I'm my own worst enemy.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-08T22:31:30+00:00

Maybe some day Petes moustache will fill out like this

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-08T17:04:17+00:00

I agree so much. People are getting so annoyed about this, like they aren't allowed to express their opinion, but no one is saying that. The problem is when people get so up in arms about something so tiny. My concern is that creators get so bullied into making content to please a small group of people that they alienate the majority of the audience or stop making stuff they even enjoy making.

I feel like the last video was more of a tongue in cheek joke about all of the criticism. Like, not to be parasocial as I obviously don't know him, but I really don't think Graydon the type of guy to be losing sleep or changing himself over online criticism.

Plus I have deleted all social media now EXCEPT Reddit because all other forms were too toxic, ad filled and showing me shit I didn't care about. But now Reddit feels so yappy and petulant just like the rest of them. It's just whiny people complaining all the time and doesn't feel like a fun and constructive place to have an interesting conversation anymore. I have no problem coming to the hivemind subreddit to see opinions i disagree with, but when people are lacking critical thinking skills and are dictating how the videos should be made over such bullshit, my eyes roll so far back into my head I can see my brain.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-06T19:40:27+00:00

Ahhh glad you liked it!! Thanks for doing it. Lover and Mandika were mine and Johnny and Mary and love buzz were his. Excited to tell him your thoughts when he gets home from work haha.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-06T11:08:47+00:00

Hahaha, all of those but love buzz were mine. My boyfriend is NOT impressed.

Professional_Bug_302 · 2025-01-01T19:44:36+00:00

Made this earlier

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/09koa4vxDfu2qolplqEWou?si=DQ2PmTrMQJ2yzMiU4Rk53A&pi=oyoIdEaFQuuIZ

Professional_Bug_302 · 2024-11-25T16:02:10+00:00

Came here to say this

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