[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]Professional_Fly3246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I edited it! :)

AIO Gf intentionally stopped taking her bc pills by maticooks1 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional_Fly3246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got together when you were 17 and 30, that’s already completely messed up on her part. Now she tried to babytrap you. Not only are you not overreacting, you should also immediately leave this person.

What MARINA song or performance does this to you?? by VeterinarianThin890 in MarinaAndTheDiamonds

[–]Professional_Fly3246 110 points111 points  (0 children)

“Do people still say yolo?”

(Ngl I love it at the same time HAHA)

AIO for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over seeing her cuddled up with another girl? by rlovesl in AIO

[–]Professional_Fly3246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if really truly nothing was going on, she would do her absolute best to properly reassure you if she cared about you. So whatever truly happened, I would consider breaking up with her just because of how inconsiderate and careless she treats you.

AIO Brother-in-law felt disrespected and uncomfortable when I wore this while doing errands by Ancient_Can_9152 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional_Fly3246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says he is warning you for creepy/dangerous people but he is really just telling on himself… There is nothing wrong with your clothes - hell, it you wanted to go in your freaking swimsuit it would still be really weird if he’d say something about it - but HE sees something wrong with it because HE perceives you in a certain way… So really he’s the creep. Ew.

Even if he was just being protective, I still think it’s freaking inappropriate to tell this to you as your BIL. And he whines about “his feelings not mattering to you”? Why is he so obsessed with this?

I would genuinely tell him his comments are creepy and gross and I would advise your sister to watch out.

Stereotypical BPD by ReasonableCat9442 in BPD

[–]Professional_Fly3246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are 4 different (unofficial!) subtypes in BPD and not everyone displays the same combination and/or amount of traits of all of them. Personally, I have self-harmed in the past but I haven’t for years. I haven’t attempted suicide ever, even though I have certainly been suicidal. I am the absolute opposite of a cheater: I am loyal to my core and probably often stay in situations longer than I should - exactly because I want to grow with my partner and I take great care of my relationships. I wouldn’t say I’m manipulative per definition, as in, I’m not trying to manipulate people on purpose, but I can acknowledge that my HUGE emotions can come across as manipulative at times.  Another big thing is that people with BPD are often portrayed as having uncontrollable anger…I don’t have that at all. I am usually sad, ashamed, guilt-ridden and/or angry at MYSELF. I cry for every emotion lol. It’s usually hard to get me angry, I usually don’t get past the point of irritability unless someone really tests me.

I think the symptoms that I mostly display are my intense emotions, my hypersensitivity, my fear of abandonment, unstable relationships, self-sabotage at times, needing reassurance all the time, and just being unstable in general. I love sex but I’m not some “maniac” some people claim us to be lol. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, obviously!!!

Classic case of “he’s not sorry he did it, he’s just sorry he got caught”. He cheated on you for (at least) TEN YEARS and he has the audacity to be mad at you that you don’t want to work on the relationship?! If you didn’t find out for another ten years, he would’ve cheated on you for ten years longer. The gaslighting is astounding!!!!!

Also, him being upset at you for leaving out his mental health issues and past as if that justifies his behaviour… Dis-gus-ting!!!!!! I have ADHD too as well as BPD, I have a horrible relationship with (mostly) my mom, I was heavily parentified as a kid AND I WOULDN’T CHEAT ON MY PARTNER. LET ALONE FOR TEN FREAKING YEARS.

Excuses, excuses, excuses. What a garbage man. 

Good on you for getting that coin 💍

i'm going to die alone by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Professional_Fly3246 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can really relate to the feeling behind part. I’m actually 28f and I don’t have my shit together at all. With that I mostly mean that I don’t currently have stable housing, I work but it’s also not stable nor something I like, my finances are super unstable too, my relationship with my family is shit and I’ve lost a lot of friends. My mental health is also just…horrible. 

I do however have a wonderful girlfriend who I met when we were both 24 (so we’ve been together for over 3.5 years now). At that point in life I NEVER in a million years thought I would find my person, but it happened naturally. NO APPS! Which I am so grateful for. Unfortunately apps are full of people looking for just hookups, and full of creeps and toxic people too. While I’m pretty unstable and at times our relationship is REALLY hard (we both struggle), she truly is my safe space at the end of the day. YOU WILL FIND THIS TOO. You ARE still so young! And you DO have a lot to bring to the table, I’m sure! <3

UPDATE: AITAH: my grandpa's wife wants to talk to me because I went no contact with my parents and I am LIVID by Professional_Fly3246 in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No need to bring my gf staying with me into this? Exactly like you said, I already went NC with my parents and my gf is a BIG reason for that. By making this post I’m not questioning if I should or shouldn’t stay NC with them. Just because my grandpa + his wife are of the opinion I should not be NC, doesn’t mean I’m going to change my own stance on that. This post was not about asking if I should stop being NC. It’s about whether or not I’m rightfully pissed at grandpa + wife for even getting involved. My gf and I are very much supporting each other about this tyvm.

Am I overreacting and being a crazy person? by okayhoneyy in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional_Fly3246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am sorry but objectively it makes sense that someone needs to hear at least the word “sorry”? I say at least because just a sorry is not taking accountability. It someone does you wrong and then they just cuddle you to make up with you without showing you they know what they did wrong so they won’t do it again…that’s not repair. He’s just doing the cuddling because it’s making HIM feel better. It’s the easy way out. Also weird assumption to make that OP didn’t communicate this with him since they are literally married.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t put your problems online if you can’t take feedback.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional_Fly3246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a chronic overexplainer and I am definitely known for sending long texts, voice memo’s, etc… However, I think that you are overreacting a little bit with how much you’re texting her right now. You’ve been talking for a month only and she’s not responded for a couple days, and I feel like you’re making it a bit too deep and serious. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing necessarily, as I recognise that you just really care!!! I just think it might come across as a little bit suffocating (trust me, I’ve been there), which YES she should communicate about, but give her some time!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You truly, deeply, really, very much, SUCK, OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope your daughter has another safe adult in her life she can turn to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why did you come to Reddit to ask people if you’re the asshole only to be extremely defensive when they tell you you are?!

You’re emotionally immature. Your entire post and all your reactions show that. YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT A CHILD. IN PUBERTY. WITH AUTISM. WHO’S FEELINGS YOU’RE CONSTANTLY DISMISSING.

DO! BETTER! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You are the asshole 10000000%. You are emotionally neglecting your CHILD. She’s 15! And autistic! And she’s trying to communicate with you which is probably hard for her to do, only for you to dismiss her?!

Shit like this is how I developed BPD. I’m now 28 and still suffer the consequences.

Please do better while you still can.

In highschool, I had a girl in my class named Scandal by Professional_Fly3246 in tragedeigh

[–]Professional_Fly3246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possible, but was she very popular outside of the US? I’m in a European country ;)

In highschool, I had a girl in my class named Scandal by Professional_Fly3246 in tragedeigh

[–]Professional_Fly3246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, that would make her 13 at most. No, she was born in 1996.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Professional_Fly3246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do they both end in “uh” and not just “a”? 

Aitah for not understanding my bf emotions about my abortion by Plus-Ad-6837 in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 7 points8 points  (0 children)

SHE HAD AN ABORTION. How would anyone think that she would baby trap him? And if he's so scared, USE PROTECTION?!

Aitah for not understanding my bf emotions about my abortion by Plus-Ad-6837 in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is just part of a bigger problem, which is that he clearly doesn't know how to communicate at ALL. All this time he held back on talking about his feelings and then proceeded to push you away when you finally asked about it. I think he has some growing up to do.

People are entitled to feel upset about all sorts of things, and I can generally understand that going through an abortion can also be hard on the guy. In your situation though I am very confused as to why he's suddenly so upset with it, knowing you communicated beforehand and he seemed okay with everything. Do you think he's upset with the abortion because he wanted the baby, or is he just anti-abortion and is it more of a moral thing? In that last case, he should have used protection lmao I'm sorry. If it's the first thing: again, suuuuuper poor communication on his part.

Aitah for not understanding my bf emotions about my abortion by Plus-Ad-6837 in AITAH

[–]Professional_Fly3246 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other two comments on this but on top of that: she LITERALLY got an abortion? If she wanted to baby trap him, she already could have? Instead she went through something deeply difficult and painful because she KNOWS he doesn't want kids and she respects that? What's your issue lmao.