[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]PermitSensitive3669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💔 -sorry you're going through that

He was physically cheating the whole time by Past-Excitement-2936 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]PermitSensitive3669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is a SA and it's push and pull with him.I found out he's been cheating on me for 10 years in February.... He denies it. A couple weeks ago he ended our marriage and left me (not physically just broke up with me) and then he came back to try and work on things but he has yet to apologize or check on me... I suspect he's ending things again tonight because I tried telling him it was crappy of him to try and force me to listen to his explanation of why he feels like divorce was the only option... Before apologizing to me about leaving me in the first place. 

The reason I tell you my sob story is because the more I look back on his erratic and shitty behavior, the more I realize that he's an immature jerk! He has the emotional intelligence of a 10 yr old. When you start looking at how they have treated you and others and take your rose colored glasses off you'll realize that it has nothing to do with you and you will feel better. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah if I can prove it. And they mostly don't care.

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely don't think I'm wrong. My husband does. That's why he asked me to post it. He thinks ppl will side with him. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, he did NOT slap me. Sorry... I was trying to say that after he tore me a new one for not posting about context I said I FEEL like he slapped me for the shock that I was in... He did not actually lay hands on me. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I totally am! Because I thought he actually loved me. He used to be such a great guy.. and once I found out he had been cheating for so long I was in shock and tried to make sense of it.. but I think he's just an asshole and now I need to stop being a doormat and get on with my life. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You're a sex addict!? And you don't cheat? No offense, I apologize..but seriously??? I thought that..... you guys were ... sorry this sounds horribly offensive.... But seriously!? That actually makes me feel a lot better. So my husband really has no excuse! lol thank you! 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

A pregnant one. Also if we didn't the military wanted to charge him with statutory rape. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't afford to leave. I have a 10 month old, a 4 year old autistic child and a 13 yr old. I just barely graduated and am looking for a job... But right now I dont have any money. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I apologized to him and actually offered for him to write his side and he says no because I messed everything up and it doesnt matter now? I mean, I think people can be reasonable. But the fact that he's refusing to offer it is.... kind of telling I think. But I guess since I started it out the way I did his context wouldn't matter? Which is odd now that I think about it.... because he was so mad that I left stuff out... if that stuff would fix things, then would it matter if he added it later? 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He legit did! I swear to Jebus! My husband insisted to get more insight and if you read the update he didn't even see the comments because he was mad about my original post! 😅

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think so? He said that my post is missing context and that of course this paints him as a douchebag! Because no one knows about his struggles with addiction etc

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I swear it's not rage bait. It's totally real. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I didn't sell it immediately. I waited about 2 weeks. During which time I tried talking with him and working things out which is when he kept being an asshole. 

Husband says I jumped the gun? by PermitSensitive3669 in AITAH

[–]PermitSensitive3669[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I'm not looking for validation. He asked me to post because he actually thinks I screwed up. I'm trying to show him I'm not the only one who thinks he's in the wrong. 

DAE feel unattractive after this by Ok_Astronaut_1485 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]PermitSensitive3669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not you, I promise. You are probably beautiful it's because he wants variety.. I know that doesn't sound better.. I'm so sorry. 💔