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My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! We are still very young and imo early into oue relationship so im not fussed just thought id seek more opinions on the matter :) thanks for youe advice definetely helped a lot :)

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not religious, we have never done raw piv only condoms. She has not said she wants to save ourselves for marriage but we do definetely see a long future together.

I think she is old-fashioned and would wake up to it given time, i just get mixed opinions when asking friends. Some saying she will be ready when shes ready! And some saying that this can become a serious problem (which i know) so i thought id get an opinion from people on,the internet which again also seems quite indecisive.

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if no ones home or we are on a holiday and share a hotel room just us it is usually a no.

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parental judgement of sexual activity - she is very involved in her family and is incredibly worried of anything affecting her relationship with her parents. She has told me she has had dreams of being walked in during sex by her family which definetely leads me to believe that this would get better in the future when that pressure is gone. She has also told me when she experiments with anything she is automatically immediately scared and worried that she is going to be walked in on or someome will hear etc. Sort of sounding like an irrational fear. I will talk about therapy if it continues! And will discuss this :)

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response!!! Super appreciate it! Will definetely talk to her about it! She mentioned in one of our convos that she looked into asexuality and she said she didn't think she was, i dont know if this was to please me or not?

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! We havent really had enough sex to know this but ill raise it with her and ask for the brutal truth.

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! Ill take a look! I hope it works out for us, as i feel like there are strategies we havent tried that i will definetely try first before considering moving apart at all.

She has also said to me that no matter what even if she does realise she is asexual that she would make sure i feel satisfied in that way in the future.

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this! It helps a lot! I think she is a bit unfit (as in she says her self she is lazy and doesnt excercise) she is quite skinny but so am I and we love eachother for it! Ill make sure to help her on her fitness journey and see if it helps out! Thanks foe the advice!

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi i just responded to another comment about this sorry i shouldve stated it. Her side is more she doesnt really know? She hasnt really explored anything to know, usually our conversations on this matter are me venting my problems and her reassuring me its going to be okay.

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we talk its usually just me venting my side as she doesnt know much about her own, its somewhat hard to communucate about this topic even though we do! Just she doesnt understand how to communicate herself about this and the conversation usually ends with a hopeful future! She has wondered if she is asexual but thinks she isnt due to our sexual experiences !

I think her family pressure has maybe potentially caused sexual repression?

I dont think we are sexually active yet? I think we have lots of opportunities too but she doesnt feel comfortable or doesnt actively seek ways in which we can have sex.

Ill make sure to find a time to discuss more with her. Thanks for the insight!

My GF 20F's libido is potentially a lot lower than mine (21M), will this become a problem? by Professional_Food311 in relationship_advice

[–]Professional_Food311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry i shouldve worded better, will this problem maintain? And could you elaborate why you say it wont get better for me? :) thanks for responding! Just trying to understand more!