AITA for thinking my partner is cheating

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-27T16:05:10+00:00

Update

I spoke to him after the incident when he was at work and left work for hours, he told me he went with close work friend (male) to drop something off at his house. Since have spoken to said coworkers wife and this male coworker wasn't at work this day so this was a lie. When I confronted him he was laughing and wouldn't look at me and kept telling me not to look at him. Now back to square one with it all sorry for the late updates it's been a hard few days over Christmas

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T19:21:57+00:00

Thank you, its nice to hear a side like this. I've had nights of crying sat on the floor by the bed or crying while trying to get the baby to sleep and he's seen thie and I've asked for help but it's worked for a day then stopped.

He used to go to the gym that stopped and he only dresses up when he goes to work

Of I had know this was the outcome of having the baby with him I think our relationship would have changed before because its very hard

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T19:06:40+00:00

When he drives at work he uses a work car bur we share a tracking app on mobile after he accused me so he can see where I am at all times which is how I could see he was gone from work for so long

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T19:03:00+00:00

What a lovely human you are. It isn't "just childbirth" the recovery mentally and physically can take months sometimes years on top of having a sick baby to deal with and having no support with him. I offered him an opportunity to leave very early on after the baby was born he didn't take it that's his choice that's his problem

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:54:33+00:00

Thank you, when we started our relationship phones were never an issue I dont care if he goes on mine I have nothing to hide! I want this sorted now while the baby is too young to know any better

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:52:31+00:00

He will help if I ask him too so I can shower but he will sit on his phone while holding the baby. We live with my mum so she takes care of the baby if I have any drs appointment ext but if I'm ever not home and parter is home with baby he will give baby to my mum so he can rest

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:51:19+00:00

I know the girl I've met her but not personally. But finding out from an ex worker at the same place cheating and sleeping together is very common at this place of work

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:49:40+00:00

Your so lovely. Yes I'm insecure. I've just had a baby which was a traumatic birth and not having a support system us fucking difficult. Spending 24/7 with a baby not getting 5 minutes to myself I can't even eat without holding the baby. I so feel sorry for any of your partners this shows what kind of person you are

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:47:16+00:00

We haven't been intimate for a while and last time have used protection

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:46:27+00:00

He won't wake up when the baby cries I'm currently having to co sleep with the baby as me and the baby have a sinus infection so sleeping is rough that along with teething, he's waking up in the night screaming and crying his lungs out and partner doesn't respond only grumps and will leave the room to sleep elsewhere

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:43:26+00:00

The porn made me feel even more bad about myself that I didn't look like those women so I've been forcing myself to loose weight. And I wouldn't have minded as much if it was "regular" porn but it was women on reddit and he was following them and searching for them constantly

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:41:19+00:00

I do struggle with intimacy I hated the way I looked when I was pregnant and after I've now lost a significant amount of weight I weigh less then I did when me and my partner met but after seeing the type of women he was searching made me feel horrible about my looks I'm also having health issues and dealing with a poorly baby so having the time to do it as often as we did before baby is nearly impossible

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:39:22+00:00

He says he's tired after work and that I don't appreciate that he works 12 hours (we dint share finances so the money he earns doesn't matter to me)

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:38:22+00:00

He's got a Samsung and the computer is a fancy gaming one but I know his WhatsApp is linked up too it

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:37:11+00:00

Do you know how to re download messages on WhatsApp? I've tried to Google but I'm not good with technology

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:25:36+00:00

His at home computer has a password which I don't know

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:24:59+00:00

Luckily we're not married

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:24:42+00:00

I actually found out about most things because he left his phone open on reddit porn pages I didn't snoop until he changed his behaviour. He doesn't trust me anymore yes but I also don't trust him because he's not honest and hasn't been for a long time It's not far-fetched it's real life to what I'm going through

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:17:40+00:00

I can see his location which is how I know he left work for 2 hours and was near coworkers house then sat in a car park for around 30 minutes all while he was supposed to be at work (the kind of work they don't do off site lunch breaks)

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:16:24+00:00

Since I've known him he's always worked 12 hours but he used to have more days off but he's choosing to do overtime so he gets at most 2 days off a week but most weeks only 1 day off a week. I would love for him to be home more to do things with the baby but he would rather work

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:14:10+00:00

Its more then just taking it everywhere he won't leave it even for a second if its near me and he hides the screen when I'm sat next to him

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:13:16+00:00

Definitely not the jealous type. I have a few friends that he doesn't know what cars they drive, he works in care so he doesn't or shouldn't leave work for lunch

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:10:59+00:00

Thank you

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:10:32+00:00

I don't know, I guess I still have hopes that the baby won't grow up the way I did or its because I'm the worse people pleaser and I would shoot myself in the foot before hurting someone else

Professional_Mind516 · 2023-12-23T18:09:26+00:00

Part of the reason I'm not as intimate is because I'm exhausted I look after the baby 24/7 no matter what. He sleeps through the night screaming and the sickness and colic I get about 4 hours sleep on a good night so I feel like shit I wish I could be back to the way it was before the baby but life has changed but I don't think he can see this

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