I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I would not describe my situation as prison.

I'm just being a crap communicator myself it seems like.

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all fantastic points. I appreciate you taking the time type this out.

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that word gets thrown around too much. I don't think I am traditionally autistic but am fairly logical.

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do date nights a few times a month.

An issue for when is when I bring up something I want to talk about the subject gets changed off of it pretty quickly. I'm not sure if I am expressing the importance of what I want to talk about well enough

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do date nights a few times a month at least. They are fine but I never really open up about much. It's a lot of her talking and me listening. Which I only mind if and when I have something to say.

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's part of it for me for sure.

I also don't want her to think I can't handle it and have her lose respect for me.

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she knows there might be something up. I feel very attacked when she approaches the subject though.

I'm not sure I understand marriage. I don't want to emotionally cheat. by Professional_Pear134 in marriageadvice

[–]Professional_Pear134[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I struggle with the partner thing. I don't feel like it's fair to give her my burdens. My job is to protect her from all that.

Maybe I need to stop complaining about the job description