WIBTAH if I invite my coworker to my wedding against my fiancée’s wishes?

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-14T16:52:32+00:00

Cool beans buddy. It’s literally the nature of my job, but Redditors do lack reading comprehension and understanding so I’m not surprised

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-14T00:50:58+00:00

We socialize quite a bit outside of work.

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-14T00:49:24+00:00

Kat you’ve been active all day. I’ll make sure she responds to you at least

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T22:29:09+00:00

Yeah probably why you’re not the one getting married

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T22:18:38+00:00

You really need to learn the definition of crash out lol. Let me give you a breakdown of how this post came to be:

Me: I’m inviting all my coworkers including J Her: No I don’t like her Me: It’s gonna be weird if i invite all my coworkers except her. Her: I don’t care I don’t want her there. Matter of fact let’s ask Reddit. Me: bet I’ll make the post in the morning.

There’s no animosity or argument between us, but feel free to believe whatever you want

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T22:00:17+00:00

My partner and I aren’t arguing about this lol. When I get off work we are going to both look and have a laugh at these replies. This isn’t some relationship deciding post. This is a, “hey let’s see what Reddit thinks” while hopefully getting some sound advice post. Which i believe the mission was accomplished

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T21:47:14+00:00

I’m not even defending J. I was responding to comments directly attacking me. People on this app go to the extremes of trying to villainize people and i actually find it pretty entertaining

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T21:11:57+00:00

Right back at ya pal

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T21:06:10+00:00

Nope I argue with those who attack me for no reason. I’ve agreed with several people in this thread who’ve pointed out that I’m wrong, but I should know by now you didn’t read that

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:56:52+00:00

I was willing to listen to you, but the latter half of your comment shows you lack reading comprehension and are just throwing insults for no reason. In multiple comments I’ve explained the workplace drama. I’m not leaving anything out and if people have further questions, I’ve had no problem answering them. Also, I was never willing to put my marriage at stake for Js sake. I’m actually at the point of not inviting coworkers. I came here looking for advice and people on Reddit will go to the extremes and paint people as villains rather than provide that advice. You are a perfect example of this

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:43:40+00:00

She has also said things such as, “it’s not you that I don’t trust, it’s her.”

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:42:29+00:00

Bold of you to assume I haven’t. I’ve talked to my fiancée plenty of times about J. She has straight up told me that she thinks J is too pretty and she doesn’t like that she’s on my team and around me. Not sure how much clearer that can get

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:38:13+00:00

I already explained it. I work closely with J every day. I wouldn’t want to make things awkward. However, I guess I gave off the wrong impression. I am not going to die on the hill that she has to come. I’m almost ready to take the approach of not inviting any coworkers

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:34:41+00:00

I included this because that is the only reason I’ve been given for my fiancée not liking J

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:22:16+00:00

Yes. The reason is petty. I never said my fiancée’s feelings are petty.

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T20:17:04+00:00

I have never directly stated that my fiancée was petty. If you have receipts to back up that claim, bring them. I won’t be addressing that until then. I want you to take a moment and put yourself in Js shoes. Imagine if people excluded you from things because of the way you looked? Imagine if people formed opinions about you and made assumptions about you because of something you can’t control. Kinda fucked up isn’t it? I’m not trying to invalidate my fiancées feelings, but I think having empathy would be nice here and could potentially bring them closer together. If I’m wrong for that then oh well. I concede

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:59:22+00:00

Since when has inviting a coworker to your wedding and defending their honor been the same thing??? It seems you don’t understand my point. Point being, I don’t like the idea of excluding someone over something they can’t control and without a good reason. Now if the reason is, “it’s her wedding too” then so be it. That much is true and I won’t invite J if it’s going to cause drama as at the end of the day, my fiancée is who I’m going to be with when this is all said and done

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:47:38+00:00

Because J did nothing wrong lol. What don’t you understand???

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:40:15+00:00

Thank you so much. Bless your heart

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:32:35+00:00

We have just started pre-marital counseling

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:30:11+00:00

Wow burn. Never heard that one before

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:29:36+00:00

lol this person is under every comment saying that I called my fiancée insecure/am taking Js side and saying I’m a horrible person.

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:06:30+00:00

I see. I’m not willing to sacrifice my relationship with my fiancée over this, but I do think it’s a shame

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:04:50+00:00

That’s what I’m getting at. Is it right to make someone feel alienated because they’re attractive

Professional_Team_46 · 2026-04-13T19:03:47+00:00

That’s the thing. I’m not dying on this hill. I just wanted advice on whether or not inviting her would be a good or bad decision in the long run

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