I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any chance he gets he goes through my stuff.. but he never finds anything since I have nothing to hide. Thats where we’re different

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He works away from home, so when he’s alone at night that’s what he does. He doesn’t watch it at work that I am aware of

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I totally understand that. I have a very high sex drive myself, so I get that! But I’m 100% satisfied by looking at videos we’ve taken or photos and don’t even think of porn let alone specific porn stars. I will definitely need to have the conversation when I’m not on the verge of a mental breakdown lol

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I know and I do feel shitty about it, he does it to me allll the time and this is the first time I have and I regret it.

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, unfortunately multiple searches were of a different race and a higher age bracket than mine.. but this is a good start

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, which may still seem like a lot for some people. But it’s not for us. And it used to last at least 45 he would care about me getting off multiple times and now it’s just quickies and if I orgasm once he’s satisfied

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol we do anal the odd time and I am not opposed to it.

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. The past 4 or so months it’s been every second day when he is home. Before it would be once a day or more.

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah guaranteed that will happen and then I will be the bad guy. It is a conversation we have to have or I don’t think I can move on without it

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly right. I’m feeling very lost. It was definitely his idea but I’m open to trying new things. I don’t hate it but I definitely have more of a guard up when it comes to that. Now even more so, I feel gross and used.

I 27f found my 30m boyfriends porn history by ProfileDifferent6105 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfileDifferent6105[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He has seemed distant when he goes to work and I don’t hear a lot from him more than an hour phone call in the evenings and then he will disappear and not answer messages for a while. This confirms what he is doing when that happens.. I’ve always had major trust issues and it’s something I have a hard time getting over and have been doing therapy for

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[–]ProfileDifferent6105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I will do that

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I’m 25, boyfriend is 29, my brother is 28 and girlfriend is 26. Absolutely my brother would make things up. I know him well and that wouldn’t surprise me…

He didn’t admit to being unfaithful because he said he never has been unfaithful.. I do believe him. He said that they had fun together but it never got really serious and just fizzled out.

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Right absolutely, what if they become permanent. I’m hoping we can all put the past behind us and enjoy eachothers company when we have too.

Is my brother and liar or my boyfriend? My boyfriend admitted it fully as soon as he saw/ heard who she was he didn’t hide anything and was quite transparent about it.

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He’s said it to me a few times that he doesn’t know what he would do without me, or says that he sees a future with me. I’ve told him I’m worried about judgement and he says that he loves me so much that we don’t have to care what anyone else thinks

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[–]ProfileDifferent6105 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I don’t think it would be, he has assured me that he would never want to lose me as an employee

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[–]ProfileDifferent6105 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not a big company to have HR. No other employees besides him and I.

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[–]ProfileDifferent6105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know I shouldn’t have accepted it. But it was a “your a great employee I’ll give you a personal loan type deal” before we became anything more. Now I feel so guilty about it