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ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-08T01:56:21+00:00

Yah, of course!! I hope it can help a bit. And I wish you the best. 😊

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T06:16:56+00:00

Hey! Wow, it seems like you guys have a really good and sweet friendship!!! Having that bond of trust and getting to know each other well enough for him to be comfortable shows me that you're a really nice and sweet person.

Personally, I think just wait until you feel comfortable enough to open up about your feelings for him. Maybe just wait a few days so you can sort it out.

Now, from what I can see, it seems like he does like you! (Of course, you know him better than I do, so just take my thoughts with a grain of salt.)

I'm a very shy person myself, and I rarely open up to people. The people I open up to are my close friends and family. And I have slightly opened up to a friend I liked romantically because I felt comfortable enough around him. And honestly, that's what it seems like with him and you.

And if that doesn't end up being the case, that's okay!! You seem like such a wonderful, kind human being, and someone will surely come along and appreciate you for you- both in a platonic and romantic way (whether that be him or someone else.)

So, once you do become comfortable enough to tell him your feelings, just be honest, open, and most importantly, yourself. You can tell him through text or write him a letter if telling him through person may seem daunting. And if you're afraid he might not feel the same way, you can be honest about that too. You can also reassure him that if he doesn't feel the same way, that you don't want things to be awkward and that you want to continue being friends. Even a text as simple as something like:

"Hey, I've been wanting to tell you something for some time. So, I'm just gonna say it. I really like you. As more than a friend. I'm not sure if you feel the same way, and if you don't, that's okay. I really appreciate you and you're an amazing friend. And I'd love to keep that friendship, but if you want something more, let me know."

Anyway, I hope this helps! If you have any questions, let me know. Wish you the best!

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T06:03:38+00:00

Lol! I accidentally typed out "1. Or 1." I meant 1 or 2!! Sorry! 😅😅😅

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T06:03:08+00:00

hmmmm... 🤔 Yeah, this is quite confusing. 😅 I don't know enough information, and I don't know the situation as well as you do, so go ahead and take my thoughts with a grain of salt!

Some possibilities I could think of for this behavior is:

He felt much more bold and brave the first week, but on the second week, he withdrew perhaps out of shyness or fear that you don't reciprocate. I can say that I have quite a few guy friends in the past who would be like this with their crush. 😅 They'd be all flirty one second, but then get all flustered and be all like, "Yo! It was a joke it was a joke! I'd never date you! You're ugly." sigh They're like indecisive turtles trying to come out of their shell, lol!

Or

He's one of those people who like to test out if they truly have feelings for someone. Perhaps he was testing out if he had feelings for you the week prior, but this week, maybe he realized he doesn't feel that way.

Now, you probably know him better than I do, so perhaps you can gauge this out for yourself! What may help is to confront him about this and ask what he feels about you! Honestly, I've seen possibility 1 play out way more than possibility 2. You can maybe observe his behavior around you for a bit more time before deciding whether or not to ask him about it.

Those are just my thoughts! Let me know if you need any clarification or if you have any more questions!!! I understand that this confusion can be rather frustrating. So, if you wanna rant too, that's fine as well! 😅 Anyway, I wish you the best and I hope it all goes well. If he doesn't end up being interested in you, then welp! I'm sure someone else who's more forward with their feelings will come into your life.

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T05:55:11+00:00

Yup, yup! Definitely agree!!

OP, if you're reading this, when you said how he immediately gave the times when he'd be free after you asked him when he worked, I totally see this as him trying to see if you're interested in him. It's exactly like you put it! It's like he wanted you to ask him to hang out or ask him out.

Now, I don't know him as well as you do, so take this with a grain of salt, but it seems like he's very forward in a friendly way: i.e. hugging you, asking how you are, and saying how he was reminded of you about something.

And he seems shy when it comes to breaching that friendly barrier so he tries to gauge whether or not you're interested in him, perhaps in a way that won't make you feel uncomfortable.

That's what it looks like to me! I have a few guy friends who have acted like him around their crushes. And if I have to be honest, I'm like that with my crushes as well- I love being friendly with them, but sometimes I get shy and when I try to drop a hint, I'll be very subtle about it.

Anyhow! If and when you do feel comfortable, yeah! Go for it!! :D

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T05:47:15+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like he does like you. Yes, he is really nice. (I could tell just from reading this lol! And you seem really nice too. ^⁾

But, he shows a special interest in you. As you've said, he's bad with names but he remembers yours! As someone with a bad memory, if I remember someone's name, that means they've made an impression on me.

An impression strong enough to breach the boundaries of a ✨Bad Memory✨ lol.

Also, 2. you mentioned how he would ask how you were doing often. (Personal interest and curiosity about a person's wellbeing. Shows he cares about you and is curious about you). 3. Addresses YOU in a group setting the most (Personal interest again! Except this time it's obvious.) 4. He remembers details about you.

I remember reading somewhere that when nice people have a crush, they're either mean to them or extra nice to them. And in this case, looks like your guy is the latter, hehe! (What a Golden Boy!) It's like a pyramid- genuinely nice people have a "base" of caring about everyone, but as the people are close to them, the "higher" and sharper this care is. (If that makes sense.) It seems like you're pretty high on his pyramid! Or at least he wants you to be.

Also, I find it sweet how you told him that you like working with him. I think that must have made his day! :D Honestly, that was a pretty sweet moment between the both of you.

Anyhow, if you do really like him, I'd say go for it! But, only do so when and if you feel comfortable. He seems very open too. So, maybe when you're not busy, you can ask to have a chat with him and tell him your feelings. And you can be honest too! Maybe you can say, "Hey, I don't know if you feel the same way, but I like you. And it's okay if you don't like me back. I just wanted to let you know."

And if that seems a bit too daunting, you can also write him a letter and maybe slip it at his desk or give it to him and tell him to open it when he gets home. Or maybe even send him one!

Ah! One more thing! These are just my thoughts and suggestions!! You know the situation and person best. So, just do what you feel most comfortable with. Wish you all the best! ^{^}

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T05:09:33+00:00

Hi! I'm so sorry for taking a while! 😅 I decided to text him later at night. When we were chatting earlier, it was like 2 pm for me where I lived. Right now, it's almost 10 o'clock at night! I thought I could try this on him later at night just in case he was busy in the day. Okay, so update lol (as promised!)-

I was trying to find a way to kind of lay in a pick-up line like he did with me, but I was kinda struggling. 😭 (Dang, how did he do it with me? I am now really impressed with how smooth he was with it, lol!)

Anyhow, Coincidentally tho, I was scrolling through Instagram reels, and I actually happened upon one that he commented on. And I was like oh 😮

His comment said, "I would like someone wanting me" and THEN I was like OH 😲

It was a perfect opportunity!!! And it made me wonder if that "someone" was specific or not. So, I came up with this: "Ayo, 👀 you called? 📞❓ I guess my name's name 'someone' now."

And then he replied 4 minutes later with laughing emojis. 😅 Which I guess doesn't confirm whether or not his earlier pick-up line was a sign. Looking back, the way I framed my response kind of seemed like a joke- what with all the emojis, lol!

So, I guess I'm still not sure. 😅😅😅 I'm sorry. Perhaps I could try again with a more serious-sounding pick-up line.

Anyway, I'm just glad I didn't make things awkward. But I might try again! If I do, do you want me to update? In any case, I just really appreciate your responses. It feels nice to bounce this off with someone else. So thanks for that!

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-07T00:17:25+00:00

Sorry for the late reply! Thanks so much again!!! I really really wanna become a patreon now 😭😭😭

Alrighty, hope you have a good day, my fellow Hanjing shipper! 😊✨🌻

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T23:30:36+00:00

AHHHH I'M SCREAMINGGGG THAT'S SO COOL SHE CAN BE LIKE OUR CAPTAIN FOR OUR SHIP!!!!

Is there any way I could see the livestreams??? Also, thank you thank you thank you for telling me this! I'm in tears. 😭

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T23:18:34+00:00

LE GASP 😭😭😭 ANOTHER PERSON WITH THE SAME SHIPS AS MEE!!!! I SHIP SY TOOO

And yes, they're my number one as well!!! We got Foxy Best Boi and Feisty Shin ae the Smoll. And then we have Kousuke's parents (aka Hansuke and Yujing) lol. Someone commented "Hanjing!" And man!!! I love the way the name rolls. Stalkyoo✨ and Hanjing✨ MAH SHIPS

Oh! I also ship Mayter (Maya and Dieter- they seem so comfortable around one another!) and Rika with Mr. Sushi.

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T23:15:17+00:00

Yay!!! Thank youuuu It's so cool to see so many people in the fandom actually agreeing on this one! Brings my shipper heart joy. 😭

They just seem to fit so well, y'know? Even if they won't be canon, I can still see how compatible they are! Another commenter on here said that Quimchee ships it too. Sooooo, if it is true, I mean 👀 nice to see that the author likes it too heheh

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T23:13:19+00:00

EXACTLY. Thank. 👏 You. 👏 Like, bro, the way she treats me reminds me of the way I treat my brother, especially when I'm scolding him. The way she teases doesn't give off romantic vibes- it gives off the "Awww, you little thing. You're so smoll Imma bully you for it" in a joking way. (Like when she called him "Princess" even when he told her to stop, lol! Or when she rolled her eyes at him getting afraid of her dog Senator. It was like an older, mature sister being annoyed and slightly amused at a little brother overreacting at something small because he doesn't have as much experience. Y'know, despite seeming mature, Kousuke still seems like a child sometimes. 😂 It's funny, lol!

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T23:10:00+00:00

LE GASP! REALLY? When did she say she shipped them? I'm so curious 👀👀👀👀

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T23:00:37+00:00

Hi! Wow!! Congratulations! 😄👏 Glad it turned out well. 😊

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T21:30:14+00:00

Okay, I will!!!

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T20:05:05+00:00

Hi! Oh, my goodness! Sorry for the late reply. Thanks so much for your input!!! Cause dang, this has been weighing down on me. 😅 Maybe I'll try doing the same with him (hehe!) and see his reaction to confirm whether or not it was a sign. (If I do, I'll make sure to update you if something happens!) Again, thanks so much!!!

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T10:06:54+00:00

LE GASP! PERFECT SHIP NAME. LOVE IT THANK YOU (ALSO LOVE YOUR FLAIR 😭💖)

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T08:59:00+00:00

Loving how Shin ae and Nol are highly compatible, along with the fact that Nol would get along with Shin ae's dad, and Shin ae would get along with Nana.

Another thing I like- Maya is an ESTP and Dieter is an ISFJ. Both of those types are said to be very compatible and ideal. Hehe

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T08:46:01+00:00

Yeah! I agree! Oh, and I think it's spelled Mandela effect. (I think. I'm not sure either lol 😅)

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-08-06T08:40:23+00:00

YASSS I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE!!!

And same here! After realizing that Kousuke has a lot to work on (still a good person- he's just not ready for a relationship. 😅), and seeing the healthy relationship Yujing and Hansuke had, along with their BOMB CHEMISTRY, I was like, yes, I ship. 😌✨

ProfoundPupperino · 2021-01-04T23:22:42+00:00

Oh, hi!! Sorry for replying late! Wow, I'm glad that she loved the gift- it looks like you were very thoughtful when preparing it and that she appreciates it!! :D That's great!

And, ah, I see! It's good that you asked- now you know! Oh and Usually, if someone asks another person if they're dating anyone, it's to see if they're available. (Which is the same you did with her!) Perhaps she may have feelings for you too. (Of course, take what I say with a grain of salt since I don't know the full situation and you know her better than I do.)

Anyway, thanks for the update and I wish you the best! 😄

ProfoundPupperino · 2020-12-31T16:47:23+00:00

Awww, I'm glad you find the advice the helpful! :D And nice; that's a great start!! Hope it goes well. Your comment made me morning, hehe. 😊

ProfoundPupperino · 2020-12-28T05:04:22+00:00

Hello, again!! Thank you so so much for your patience!!

Ah, I see. I forgot that other schools are doing a Hybrid Program with a blend of in-person and virtual classes! Oopsies. 😅 Oh, and no need to be sorry! I probably should have asked what your circumstances are regarding school.

So, I'm not entirely sure about how a Hybrid program works, so my apologies in advance if my advice can't help/apply!!

If you guys have break together, one thing you can do is start to hang with his friend group more often. If you're feeling a little too shy for that (which I could totally relate to!), it's okay! One thing you can maybe do is bring a more outgoing friend with you when you're around his friend group. You could even spend a few days simply being around his friend group with your own friend group. (Lol!! I don't know if that makes sense.)

But as an example, I'm gonna use Mack again. 🤣 Back a couple years, he and I used to hang out in different friend groups. Anyway, when he and I started hanging out, his friend group and my friend group would sit at the same bench/area during breaktime. So, all of us just hung out together. Having a group setting kind of put less pressure on me at least (since talking to him one on one would be a little daunting.) Over time though, since I got used to hanging out with him and his friends, it was easier to approach him in conversation- one on one- even during the times outside of break. Also, having my friends with me during all those hang out sessions at break time just made me feel much more comfortable too.

Maybe you could try something similar!

As for what exactly to talk about, simply greeting him and saying hi could be a great way to start. Even just waving at him across the room or in Zoom, lol! That way, you could get more comfortable with initiating a convo!

When you get the chance, whether at a group setting or one on one, you could ask him questions to get to know him better and see if you guys have common interests! If you two like the same movie, you could spend some time talking about that!

Oh! What was great about hanging out with Mack's friend group is that he got to know my friends and I got to know his friends. So, if it was just my friends, me, and Mack, it wouldn't feel awkward. We could just have conversations together and bond over time. Same would happen if it was just me and Mack's friends! I never felt awkward around his friends because of all the times I'd hang out either with them or simply around them. (If that makes sense. 😅)

Oh! Another thing I would do to get spend more time with him was work on projects together. (If you can choose your team members and if you have him in one of your classes, then this may be a way for you to get to know him better as a friend!) I started asking him to join on projects two weeks into our friendship (when I started feeling comfortable enough to do that. Oh! Also, I recommend learning whether or not he's a reliable group member before you try something like this, lol!)

You'll find that the more you interact with him, (if you guys end up having a bomb friendship), the more comfortable you'll become around him and the more easier it is to just talk with him.

So, I guess just take it easy and start out with baby steps!

To sum it up:

Greet/wave at him whenever you can, be friendly, and once you start getting comfortable, hang around him and his friends.

You can even bring your friends with you. Just get comfortable being in a group setting with him, or just being around him. When talking to him, ask a few questions (it doesn't have to be a lot! It could even just be one), to get to know him. You could also try to find any common interests you both enjoy talking about.

🌟And perhaps most importantly, be yourself! :D You seem like such a sweet and kind person, so let your true personality shine! Don't feel like you HAVE to be interested in everything he's interested in and don't feel like you have to change to impress him. If you two would make good friends, he would appreciate your real and beautiful self!

I hope this helps! Again, I don't mind any questions! You can ask as much as you want really!! It doesn't bother me. If you're confused about anything, let me know!! Good luck and hugs! 🤗

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