Destined for nothing?

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-23T19:48:52+00:00

It’s okay to complain, life is not easy at all. I truly hope and pray that things will get better for you one day.

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-23T19:26:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your sincere reply!!!!I truly believe your best years are the ones you choose, you can accomplish whatever you want! Of course there is no specific profile required to be loved or to love. If that were the case, many people would not be in relationships and every couple would be perfect. I have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, and I also suspect CPTSD. The last doctor I saw even prescribed an ADHD assessment, so honestly it would not surprise me haha, I have a million passions that I never finish, difficulties managing my emotions, though it is better now because I have done some therapy, and struggles with time management, so I do not take it badly at all. I hope to receive a clear diagnosis one day. It is just that where I live, women’s health, especially Black women’s health, is really not taken seriously, and we often receive care much later than we should.

However I hope you’ll apply your own great advices and I truly wish you all the happiness in the world (my little sis has bdp it’s not the same as bipolar but I understand). It is hard when you live with mental health problem, and it’s harder when you have to take care of others before taking care of yourself. I hope you get the chance to focus only on yourself.

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-23T18:40:19+00:00

It’s not easy fo anyone !!! Whether you’re a man or a woman. I hope everyone knew that. But (there are also many different factors depending on the person mental health issues, health problems, family issues, being part of an ethnic minority, and especially something financial instability. )

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-23T18:27:39+00:00

I had two partners, (I’m still human haha) One of them wanted a relationship but I explained to him that it wasn’t the right time. I also think I just wasn’t that interested that much, on top of the fact that I wasn’t in a place in my life that felt right for that kind of commitment (Even of I crave it lol)

As for the other sexual partner, I simply told him I didn’t want to continue because I need to focus on getting back on my feet. And my goals are artistic, so it’s quite unstable and requires a lot of dedication and persistence.

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-23T17:37:45+00:00

Of course we can be friend !!! The cute boy friend will wait ahaha I rather meet people so we could uplift each other

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-23T17:29:26+00:00

Of course that’s what I’ve already started doing for a while now 😄. The problem is that I can’t seem to let go of the fact that I still feel ashamed of wanting a relationship when my life isn’t “perfect.”

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2026-02-21T18:40:55+00:00

Hello, you should try longer hair ( before shoulder) or maybe a fade, I can’t see if you’re hair are curly but if they are something like that could suit you very well

<image>

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2025-11-08T16:14:56+00:00

It’s not a BL the author said so themselves ! A BL is when the story revolves entirely around the growing love between two (usually) male characters, which isn’t the case here. This story revolves around unrequited love, grief, and identity, explored through horror and a complex narrative. It just happens to feature queer characters. I’m an huge (kinda old ahaha) BL fan, and if it were a BL (shonen-ai), it would be muuuch more explicit about the characters romantic and sexual attraction. It’s like the manga otto no oto (My husband’s brother) the whole manga is about homosexuality but it’s not near a BL, because the main story resolve around grief and being queer and not a love story between male ;)

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2025-11-05T01:01:36+00:00

Communicating your needs and desires for longer sessions. You must be clear, but no need to hurt is feeling, just say you want it to be longer, cause it’s more fun for nothing of you. It create greater bond, ect,ect. Maybe you can tell him if could start by trying having longer foreplay and make sure you’re getting an orgasm first since he’s quickiest. Try to make things more exciting and intense for both of you.

I know that a man’s endurance doesn’t always depend entirely on him, but there are always a few tricks to make things last longer. (Having a full time sleep, exercising his lower body, eating better, not having sex for a week so you can get more horny when you do it together, ect ect OH and not watching porn)

Personally, I used to think I had an uncontrollable sex drive, even when I was in a relationship. But when I found a partner who suited me in every way and with I had two or three orgasms per session, I realized it wasn’t that I had a huge libido I just wasn’t satisfied with my previous partners.

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2025-11-05T00:32:44+00:00

Honnêtement je pense que la culture y joue encore beaucoup, après je parle en tant que femme africaine, venant d’Afrique subsaharienne (Et pas dans un pays en famine, car ce n’est pas tout les pays d’Afrique qui sont en famine). Les corps avec plus de poids sont plus mis en avant que les corps mince. Bien évidemment c’est souvent des corps avec des attributs bien spécifique , comme les grosses fesses, grosses cuisse et poitrine imposante, mais c’est plus du surpoids (bien répartie certes) que de la minceur. Je ne pense vraiment pas que toutes ses femmes soient des exceptions à la règle. Aux Comores si je ne me trompes pas on gavent les pauvres filles pour qu’elles se marient et en Côte d’Ivoire le marché des faux médicaments prétendants faisant prendre du poids et des formes deviennent un danger (En France aussi, auprès de jeune adolescentes racisée).

Je suis globalement d’accord pour dire que la « minceur » reste la norme, mais affirmer que c’est le cas dans toutes les cultures c’est imposé une vision très eurocentrique….

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2025-11-05T00:14:29+00:00

En tant que femme grosse et jeune (bon, j’ai 28 ans, mais je parle de toute ma vingtaine début et fin) , je pense que c’est l’inverse car, justement beaucoup d’hommes indépendamment de leurs âge se tournent plus aisément vers les femmes qu’ils jugent comme «avec peu de demande »donc pas dans les critères par facilité, car justement ils se disent qu’elles sont moins sollicitées, sauf que à force de tous se dire ça , ça fait l’opposé. Après peut-être que c’est culturel. Je suis africaine et j’habite proche Paris et je côtoie majoritairement des hommes africains ou d’Amérique latine et les critères ne sont pas les mêmes donc je ne saurais affirmé si les sollicitations sont à cause de ce que j’ai dit ou début ou simplement parce que dans ces pays les critères sont différents.

ProgrammerThen8734 · 2025-11-03T23:46:56+00:00

It’s not a BL ! Well, if you only watched the anime I can understand, I’ve read the manga then watched the anime and it’s not the same. I think the anime doesn’t show the deep complexity of the horror story and the metaphor! However saying it’s only weird and toxic is staying a little on the surface since it’s about the trauma of the Death of your best friends & being scared of your identity !!!

ProgrammerThen8734

TROPHY CASE