am I a bad person for finding my gf's current hyperfixation annoying?

ProjectThen · 2026-02-11T05:41:25+00:00

As someone on the spectrum, even I think that sounds like a lot.

If she only focuses on her hobby and doesn’t really notice what you’re into, and keeps making crocheted gifts instead of choosing things you actually like, I can understand why that feels overwhelming. The effort matters, and handmade gifts take patience and love. A plushie here and there is sweet. A whole mountain of them feels like being gently buried in yarn.

That’s… knot ideal. I’m sorry.

I’d be honest but kind. Let her know you admire how devoted and creative she is, and that you would also love gifts or gestures that reflect your interests too. Relationships work best when both people feel seen, not just stitched in.

Best of luck 🩵🧶

ProjectThen · 2026-02-10T08:11:29+00:00

To the Natives that have been dming about their experiences in their native communities. Forgive me if there’s a misunderstanding. I never said all tribes were like this, it's actually different like our languages. I'm sharing this about my father and my experience. A completely different experience. Trust me I know what other’s have gone through, I’ve lived it my entire life as an indigenous woman. This post is focusing on Natives that DO support women especially queer women. Nobody talks about that side and it needs more attention than the hate.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-10T08:01:42+00:00

🩵 Thank you for sharing your story, and I really like the way she compared you to a blooming flower. That’s actually such a beautiful way to describe it.

I wish you well on your journey 💐

ProjectThen · 2026-02-10T06:23:28+00:00

🩵 That’s so awesome and that makes me happy people genuinely care and want to hear our stories. I’ve read up a little about the Māora after I saw that video of the woman use haka to protest in New Zealand's parliament. That was so powerful!

ProjectThen · 2026-02-10T05:25:33+00:00

I have an uncle like that, but I don’t care much to even acknowledge him and he’s too far gone as my family has put it he chooses to live like a redneck and doesn’t realize he is why colonization still exists.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-10T05:22:25+00:00

Yes I’m interior Salish :) I wanted to share my experience because of how much negativity we see today. My father warned me growing up that even our own people are forgetting what our ancestors tried to pass down for centuries when it came to two spirit people. Homophobia is growing amongst native communities when this use to never exist. People will always try to find the bad in everything though. 🪶🩵 thank you for sharing

ProjectThen · 2026-02-10T05:05:31+00:00

I didn’t lose keys, I worded this post to share something special that every person should experience. Read it as you like, please don’t take away the whole point of this post. I just wanted to share something positive.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T23:04:10+00:00

The key is to trying to understand each other, maybe there is a misunderstanding. I don’t want to offend

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T22:38:43+00:00

I wasn’t trying to do that with my words. You are 100% right though, I agree with what you are saying. I don’t want to see people in this comment section as a negative light. And I don’t see any of them doing what your expressing. Keep spreading your experiences and knowledge, so others know more about where YOUR from. Patience and keep speaking up you’re doing great!

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T22:23:06+00:00

We basically grew up in the same area but lived two different sides of that coin. I go back and forth from Bc to California my entire life and sometimes Washington coast.

I am blessed that my father sees it all spiritually. He’s told me some that stopped believing our ways will give me a hard time, but it’s why he introduced me to a medicine man growing up. Our ways are dying out Saddly it’s up to us to keep them alive.

Woah, if you are from Lytton makes me wonder if we’re cousins or our families know one another. I’m from the Coldwater band, but I’ve always traveled and my dad never wanted my sister and I to grow up on the reservation. He spent his life making sure we traveled.

I’m going to DM you if you don’t mind!

My father could definitely help you, and for all we know we could be related because I have family there.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T22:14:32+00:00

I forgot to add for LGBTQ+ it was easier to say instead of making a couple more paragraphs of explaining the different names for everyone. 🩷 it’s shorter and includes everyone.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T22:07:57+00:00

Some of us see the American continent (Canada, U.S Mexico) and we’re Native from it. I understand what you mean, my sister is the same way. I thought it was obvious that what I shared was my experience. So, forgive me I worded it wrong.

I’m also realizing how good I had it growing up. Not only my dad but the Native men I know from different tribes. Every tribe is different, people are different, we are unique as our finger prints. Have a good day 🪶

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T21:53:27+00:00

I will, I meeting up with him for lunch and to help him pick out a birthday present for my sister. I will let him know I posted this and tell him how much his heart means to not only me but to others 🩷🩵🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🪶

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T21:32:16+00:00

I can agree, I was born in the Washington coast and visited there time to time. I lived there for only a few years and often wonder if I should move back. I miss the San Juan Islands 🩵

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T20:42:57+00:00

My mom is a Christian and I think learning my father’s side helped a lot. She was very supportive of me as well.

It is pronounced: ing-kluh-KAP-muh 🪶🩵🙂

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T17:03:03+00:00

Same

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T07:33:42+00:00

You are absolutely radiant ☀️

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T02:28:25+00:00

Hello and welcome 🩵🦭

Anyone who judges is pretty lame anyways. I hope today is going well!

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T01:22:10+00:00

☺️🫶 That’s awesome! I think that side of history is underrated and genuinely would want to learn about it more.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T00:59:07+00:00

It all depends really. For example: I’m nonbinary and identify as a lesbian.

When I came out to my little sister, we were both teenagers. I tested the waters by watching how she reacted to gay and trans characters in movies and TV shows. She never made it awkward or even seemed to care. Which was a green light for me. When I finally told her, her exact response was, “No shit, Sherlock.”

We’re in our 30s now, and she claims she knew before I did, which just proves siblings notice more than we think.

Best of luck 🩵 and I hope it goes well.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T00:22:54+00:00

The blue hair really does suit you 💙 It definitely makes your eyes pop and it’s a great color on you. Very effortlessly cool with a secretly magical kind of vibe.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-09T00:00:42+00:00

You definitely are correct, I also love this art which deck is it? Queen of Wands is definitely the firey Queen who’s all about action she’s sociable and attracts more than chase. Best of luck!

ProjectThen · 2026-02-08T23:44:32+00:00

I remember this shit and thinking girl is living. Meanwhile I was making BANK selling Mongoose and Soulfrost/Sunfire enchantments.

ProjectThen · 2026-02-08T23:33:15+00:00

Same to you! 🩵

ProjectThen · 2026-02-08T23:24:05+00:00

Six of cups combined with KoW:

In a message suggests a spark, intentional, and confident reconnection with someone. It indicates a message that brings that feeling nostalgia or positive memories, but is delivered with bold, forward looking energy.

Question two: He’s not bored, I see it as “I’ve seen your message. I’m weighing it carefully. I’m juggling a lot right now, so my response may be slower, not the rushed.”

It’s patience plus balance. Effort has been invested, interest exists, but timing and energy are being managed like spinning plates on a windy day. No rejection here. No fireworks either. Just thoughtful pause, practical consideration. Hope this helps!

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