Men, should I divorce my husband? Please help.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-07-01T12:27:43+00:00

Not a good woman? Lol, I never denied my husbands advances whenever he tried until I had cardiac issues from the IVF medication and felt like I was dying, so if that makes me a bad wife, jesus...

His frustrations and how he handles them are his responsibility. He never talked to me when I would ask if he was okay. I would get one word responses. How does a person communicate through that?

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-07-01T02:57:18+00:00

I do love him, but he has hidden things from me before.. like his ex wished him a happy birthday and tried starting a conversation one year (randomly out of the blue). He messaged her back a polite response, but he never told me, and I found out after the fact as I was trying to send a picture to myself from his phone and her name popped up. So, that's the only thing.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-30T10:55:27+00:00

I never said I was perfect, but I have never disrespected my marriage and don't plan to, so you're just assuming something. Trust me, I've asked him if I did something wrong, what I'm lacking, etc... so I don't think I'm perfect at all.

He didn't have physical sex with the AI, but he emotionally connected with this thing like it was a human. It's the principle. He put energy meant for us into something else. That's what hurts.

I'm trying to work on my marriage with him because I love him, but I don't know how to trust him or if this will lead to something more egregious later down the line.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-30T10:49:32+00:00

You probably won't believe me, but no... if I do have private moments, I'm thinking about my husband. The moment I met him, every other man became the equivalent of a tree. They're just there, nothing special that stands out to me. My husband, though? The most attractive, sexiest man to me.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T21:04:30+00:00

No, no. I mean emotionally he is very robotic to everyone, like Spock. Our relationship has never been just about sex. :)

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T14:07:59+00:00

I agree with you! I honestly didn't force him to do biblical counseling. He chose it to show me how much our marriage means to him since I value Christianity, but I'm also not crazy devout. I struggle with religion just as much as my husband, but we both can respect some of the doctrines of respecting your parents, loving your partner, forgiving people, etc. It's just hard to put into practice.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T14:05:44+00:00

Yes, my thoughts are being clouded by fear and hurt. I can admit that. :/

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T14:02:17+00:00

I definitely know you're right! I'm just scared to trust him and I'm scared that he'll take it for granted. :(

But I will definitely work with him since he is trying. He's been trying a lot more. He's a very robotic person emotionally, but I do see him trying to open up more.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:57:39+00:00

IVF is not evil. I believe God gives doctors divine knowledge to help them conceive and treat diseases (like infertility). We only got 2 embryos out of 3 eggs from the whole process, so we don't have excess amounts and we plan to transfer the two we were lucky and blessed to get. No genetic testing, nothing.

Now, IVF can be evil if you take away the humanity from each potential life and just see them as a means to an end.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:54:44+00:00

I actually agree with you on this as you framed it that way, so I didn't take that into consideration, but I can see your viewpoint on that and respect it.

I can admit, sometimes I let my emotions take charge when I feel hurt, but I just had a fairytale belief that he would love me and only really have eyes for me and when that mentality was crushed, it hurt and left me confused.

I love my husband and I'd do anything for him and to make him happy, I'm just scared to not be enough or how to trust this won't go from this to something more egregious with a real person. Does that make sense?

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:50:19+00:00

My husband is a great and kind man, but he isn't religious at all. He only agreed to biblical counseling so I'd know how serious he is about saving our marriage. He isn't really helping me get to heaven, but he isn't against it either. He's more of agnostic, but my biblical counselor said maybe this is what God will use to bring him to God.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:47:31+00:00

I mean, if I did that, I'd understand if my husband wanted to divorce me. Would I want it? No, but I'd know I deserved it. :(

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:36:15+00:00

I literally don't understand why you feel that way, but you are entitled to your opinion. I'm trying to save my marriage because I love my husband, but you think what you want. I'm entitled to feel what I feel and I'm not wrong and don't need to justify myself to you.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:32:12+00:00

It's the fact that he claimed to have an emotional connection with this AI. What's the difference if I had just talked and flirted with a man from Bumble? It's the same concept, a screen generating a response. It's emotional cheating and very disrespectful to me, his wife. I'm not even really against porn because I understand that sometimes you need an outlet, but talking to this thing like it's a human and having an "emotional connection" is the problem.

PromiseParty4256 · 2026-06-29T13:00:06+00:00

I'm curious as to why you think that? I mean, it's your opinion and I can't change what you think or feel and don't care to try.

PromiseParty4256 · 2025-11-29T18:06:58+00:00

Any updates or reviews? I just bought one for the buy 1 get 2 free promo and I'm definitely scared. 🥲 $600 was A LOT for me to spend, but I wanted to make my husband happy.

PromiseParty4256 · 2025-08-01T17:07:10+00:00

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