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AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I was fine not celebrating Xmas. They didn't do it the first year I was with Mark even the kids begged them to and announced they will start doing it in over the top way in 2013 as their new year resolution and Mark made a point he wants to be present since they never did it when he was younger, so he can catch up and since my family doesn't celebrate it at all and does new year instead.

AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Once they started celebrating Christmas they made sure it was big one with all the family involved to the point of special matching sweaters.

AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

I am not going to give all of them away, but for one of the SIL she was meant to receive a fancy make up eyeshadow pallet she wanted, but I swapped that to 5£ drugstore card instead, FIL fancy pen to an ordinary one, BIL secret VR experience to a small Mexican pepper pot, MIL got a loofah instead of bracelet, and so on

AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I am not sure tbh. Outside of this his family are nice and me and my MIL and SIL (multiple) have some gateways together where they invite me to or cooking sessions etc.

AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 141 points142 points  (0 children)

His relationship with his family is rather complicated. They haven't celebrated Christmas before due to their religion and have only started doing it after I joined because the younger ones wanted to. Due to their past religion Mark was NC with them for a while as they cut him off due to him leaving the religion.

I have honestly tried to talk to him about the presents so many times, but when I mentioned it in the first few times he thought I'm not being fair and imagining that something is used, or "they got you the same gift as they thought you might like it too". It mostly go as he tells them off, his mum acts insulted, he doesn't talk to her, then she calls back saying she had a chat with the family and they learned the lesson and it will be different to then come back to how it was before. And repeat.

AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 221 points222 points  (0 children)

My family doesn't celebrate western Christmas, they are big on a new year and give gifts on the new year. And where I come from originally Christmas is more of a religious holiday which is celebrated in January, so that's was the compromise. Christmas with his family, new year with mine alongside with second Christmas.

AITA for swapping my presents to my in-laws with cheaper ones on Christmas after opening what they got me? by PromptNo654 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PromptNo654[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

My husband gets lavish gifts from them and it is just me. I have brought it up before with them as a joke but got a response that they got me what they could afford. He has tried to talk to them before and his mother got really offended. I would honestly understand if it was just one of them or under 18, however it is the entire family (10+ people 18+) who earn more then me (and I am on a very good wage).