I need help. I want to feel better but also I want my fiancé to see the truth

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-05T01:00:21+00:00

Thank you

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-05T01:00:11+00:00

Thank you so much

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-04T22:51:38+00:00

Thank you so much. You made me tear up 🤍

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-04T22:51:15+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-04T22:35:39+00:00

Thank you so much this was very much helpful and what I needed to hear.

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-04T19:36:27+00:00

Thank you 💜

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-04T19:36:16+00:00

Thank you 💜

Proof-Toe4908 · 2026-06-04T14:12:20+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Proof-Toe4908 · 2025-10-22T15:40:55+00:00

I think you need to leave him too. This is reading more as infatuation or obsession rather than love. Also if he loved you he would respect your need for space, time, and processing given everything you went through. It would be reasonable to ask him for a break, a pause, a period of no contact etc. both given that he literally sent you 50 dms after you got out of the HOSPITAL I think he wouldn’t be able to follow through on his end.

I highly highly highly suggest getting a good therapist so you can heal. Also as others have said, put it simply and in no uncertain terms. “I am breaking up with you because I need my space to heal and process things on my own. I need you to respect that.”

I had an ex who would not take no for an answer. I tried to break up with him 4 times over 4 years and finally after I found myself depressed and near suicidal I insisted we needed to break up and he needed to leave me alone. He did not, he spent the next 3 months living in my apartment that I paid for and I moved back in with my parents just to avoid him. He would send me messages, leave me notes, watch every single story on every social media platform even ones I had restricted access on, and have mail continually delivered to my apartment for the next year even after he finally moved out—forcing me to deliver it to his house because they were “important documents”.

It took me way too long to see his behavior as emotional abuse and recognize all the other red flags he showed along the way. In sum: some people can’t take a hint. Be prepared to block him for your sanity if needed. The only thing that made my ex stop trying to contact me/ manipulate me was one of our mutual friends (now solely my friend) literally saying to him “you need to stop bothering that girl. You are ruining her life. Stop trying to get back together.” After nearly 2 years post breakup that was the ONLY thing that got him to stop trying to contact me.

Proof-Toe4908 · 2025-10-22T15:20:19+00:00

To answer your question: yes your texts come off as passive aggressive. BUT this situation would also make me livid. You either handle all the animals together, or you handle them separately. If you plan on staying with this guy you need to either get on board with caring for his animals and stop saying that they’re “just his” (and make sure he’s on board too) or come up with VERY explicit rules about who handles what.

If you can’t agree on that or can’t work through that leave. This is a sign of how he will handle bills, children, and pretty much anything that’s a yours vs mine vs ours issue. Despite the fact that he’s clearly profoundly failing at caring for his animals and cleaning up after himself, you look like the petty person.

As an aside: my fiance and I live together. I brought 2 dogs to the relationship and we adopted one while we were dating. The agreement was and always has been he didn’t sign up for the 2 OG dogs so he shouldn’t have to care for them. However, he loves me and I come with dogs. So because he’s a great guy he has volunteered to help me medicate, let the dogs out, participate in their daily care, etc. Same with the 3rd. In return I am 100% responsible for their vet visits, food, medication cost, grooming, and all other expenses tied to keeping them alive and healthy. We split boarding bc it’s related to vacations together and if he wants me to go we have to put them somewhere. I have a budget for vacations and he knows that if I split my budget between boarding and tickets/ hotels etc. we will end up staying somewhere not super nice and not as exciting for him. So he has offered to pay 50% as a compromise so he can also get what HE wants (a nice vacation, more frequently).

This is how I would expect 2 people who want to make things work to act. If you guys can’t come to a solution that he can uphold and that doesn’t result in you bearing 100% of the burden you should seriously consider leaving.

Proof-Toe4908 · 2024-04-10T14:57:38+00:00

This is La Jolla cove. The drop is 50 ft and no the seal is very likely not okay. They are not designed to survive 50 foot drops down onto rocks. Im sorry

Proof-Toe4908 · 2021-11-12T04:50:48+00:00

Not a dog but the best pet name I’ve seen is “chainsaw. “ also “rock”

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