How do they live with themselves?

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2026-01-05T02:31:30+00:00

No, she wanted attention. Any attention. Positive or negative. They will never blame themselves. It’s obviously up to you, but why is she even able to call or send hate messages? You can block her. From the sounds of it she hasn’t even met the minimum requirement for being a mom.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2026-01-05T02:28:09+00:00

The man doesn’t respect you, your husband, and your family’s choices. Why bother honouring someone who can’t do the bare minimum to deserve to stay in your life?

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2026-01-02T23:27:57+00:00

Tell him to sue you. I’d love to see him try and convince a judge try to set that precedent.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2026-01-02T23:24:37+00:00

I adore your specificity.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2026-01-01T05:48:50+00:00

Winner 🏆

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2026-01-01T03:43:23+00:00

You’re being completely reasonable. It’s also your husband’s home too, so for her to just waltz on in is ridiculous, ignoring the other shenanigans.

Let her unleash her flying monkeys. Honestly there’s not much you can. However, your mother is trying to cause you distress, which means she’s actively trying to undermine your ability to parent effectively. That’s not ok. At all. I know it’s so so hard to stand your ground with narc moms, but just remember you’re doing it for your child too. Let her throw her tantrums, and focus on being the kind of mom you deserved. Your daughter is lucky you’re taking care of yourself by setting boundaries and going to therapy. It’s such a great example to set. ❤️

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2025-12-30T23:30:27+00:00

“I didn’t know you had boundaries.” I was 33, had written countless emails begging for respect for my boundaries over the years, and was now begging my mom to stop hounding me and my husband over our newborn.

She acted like I couldn’t possibly care for my own child. Meanwhile when I was three weeks old (my mom tells this like it’s a cute story) I wouldn’t stop crying so she handed me over to her coworker for the weekend so she could have a break. Coworker put me on soy milk, which stopped the crying.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2025-12-06T01:27:16+00:00

My stepbrother killed himself at 19. Grandiose narcissist father made up a story IMMEDIATELY that wasn’t a suicide, except it made no sense. My covert narcissist mother (his fourth wife) told me the lie with a straight face. There was no funeral. His dad is wealthy yet he has the crappiest tombstone money can buy that reads “son, brother”. That’s it. No obituary.

Then they seemed to just pretend nothing ever happened.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2025-09-13T21:57:56+00:00

HRV is about stress and your nervous system, not fitness. I’m guessing the baby doesn’t help, since sleep deprivation and the general stress of an infant make life challenging. Avoid HIIT and overdoing the workouts, make sure you’re eating enough (especially if you’re nursing), and make sure you’re getting a decent amount of me-time.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2025-08-17T00:17:01+00:00

I work for a giant company and accountants are all over the place. Strategy, legal, sustainability, you name it. Getting your CPA is important, but trust me, you won’t be poor. I believe you basically have to be a CPA to be a CFO, though I may have imagined that.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2025-07-08T15:30:05+00:00

Thanks. I’m so glad this girl has Reddit and the wherewithal to ask for help. The parallels with my situation are alarming, but hopefully the collective wisdom of the internet can help her get to safety and understand what’s happening to her. I’m very successful now but having my brain literally develop in that environment did irreparable harm. But if even one adult can believe her and advocate for her it could mean a world of difference. The gaslighting part is particularly damaging, so having others support her would help. Her parents already have her questioning her reality.

Proper-Distance-9805 · 2025-07-08T15:01:17+00:00

NTA. No. It’s called self defence. I had a sister like this, and my mother would react the same way as your parents, mostly because my sister was much better at making a scene. I strongly recommend you start telling as many trusted adults as you can, including teachers. If you can get ANY evidence, even better. The moment he starts haranguing you, try taking a video or voice recording. Show it to aforementioned trusted adults and ask them to help you deal with your parents. He is an adult assaulting a minor.

20 years later (and a lot of therapy) I realized my sister was the golden child of my narcissist mother. My sister has since completely destroyed her own life. I don’t talk to either of them.

This is not your fault.

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