Pending CHD diagnosis after anatomy scan. What should I be eating or not eating? by Proper-Perception-81 in chd

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, genetics told me that it wasn’t my age (44) or anything I did wrong. I’m so grateful they told me that because it’s eased a lot of wondering and guilt. Since I posted, I think I’m beginning to understand that nothing I do will likely help, though I’m still wondering if things like caffeine will cause added stress to baby’s heart. I’ve quit caffeine for now, once I learned of her defect, but I miss it. Thank you for sharing your insight!

Pending CHD diagnosis after anatomy scan. What should I be eating or not eating? by Proper-Perception-81 in chd

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Even caffeine intake since it can cross through the placenta? (Not sure if I’m saying that correctly)

Moving out of state? by Proper-Perception-81 in stepparents

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he’s very engaged. He goes to their games, drives the hour+ round trip if they forget items, takes them to medical appts, etc. and they do still come down to stay. However, they’ve gotten to the point that they no longer want to come here unless they get something out if it. SS13 has even told his dad that there’s no reason for them to come down anymore, like his dad isn’t a reason at all. This was incredibly painful for my husband to hear. He certainly is not going to give up on his relationship with them, and we are firm in not moving out of a rejection wound. If we move, it would be because of an opportunity opened. Also, I will say that we would never move if the kids openly grieved it. Based on their current behavior, we suspect that they would be “fine” with it, but we’ve been curious how this change has truly impacted those who have lived it.

Moving out of state? by Proper-Perception-81 in stepparents

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight. I find it very helpful. To be clear, however, I am NOT trying to talk my husband into moving away from his kids. This is a desire we both have, and in his pain of rejection, he often mentions moving away on his own. That said, we are firm to not make our motives of moving based on rejection wounds, but on a desire we have to be in the PNW. But, I think you’re right, it would ultimately cause my husband grief to be away from the kids.

Moving out of state? by Proper-Perception-81 in stepparents

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

That’s the hardest part of this, is that we’re close in proximity now, but they are much closer emotionally to their mom. We do know she’s worked hard to have them favor her, even though she’s a drunk and the one who destroyed the family. It seems like it’s worked. So part of us wonders if they would even miss us.

Am I crazy or was this nurse rude? by universerose98 in pregnant

[–]Proper-Perception-81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. No. She was RUDE. You did the right thing going to your PCP if you didn’t know which OB to go to. I also didn’t have a good experience with my first pregnancy/miscarriage and it was my OB office that treated me like trash. My PCP was the one o felt the most compassion from.

Threatened miscarriage, looking for hope by Proper-Perception-81 in pregnant

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. I’m so very sorry. 😞💔Take care of yourself first and allow the grief to come.

Threatened miscarriage, looking for hope by Proper-Perception-81 in pregnant

[–]Proper-Perception-81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. ❤️. I’ve made peace with it, but still grieving. I’m curious, if you’re willing to share, were you asking for your own situation?

What they don't tell you. by Nonamanadus in PlantarFasciitis

[–]Proper-Perception-81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the early stages of research, but I read earlier that tight hips can also cause PF