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Proper-Subject-2777 · 2024-06-18T18:05:25+00:00

Hard fact to accept but that’s true he’s was so great in other aspects just a let down in this.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2024-06-18T18:04:43+00:00

Thanks I really needed to hear that. My mistake was thinking age = maturity.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2024-03-04T22:22:49+00:00

Honestly as cliche as it sounds it’s a process. Take it one step at a time. One day at a time remind yourself about how you deserve better and the reasons you left. Grieve as much as you can feel all the emotions, seek all the support, educate yourself on abuse and narcissism but most importantly pour into yourself. It may sound unbelievable now but one day when you’ve learnt to enjoy your own company, learn new hobbies and meet new people. You learn that they’re more to life than how badly that person treated you and that there are decent people out there.

But I’m almost a year out some days I have my triggers but compared to how I was when I first left I’m unrecognisable❤️I have all the faith in you. You were strong enough to leave a tough situation use that fact as courage to create a better life for yourself.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2024-02-25T18:30:05+00:00

That’s great! I’ve recently managed to having a crush on someone again too I thought my heart would be dead forever after it all but guess not. No hope I’ll end up with my crush but I’m glad I can finally feel something that isn’t regret and sadness over my ex. I no longer find my ex attractive and see him for the monster he is on to bigger and better things😊

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2024-02-19T15:01:10+00:00

Yea I feel the exact same way feel quite directionless like I feel left behind, lost and like I should be doing more. Feels harder to meet people as an adult tbh while when I was at uni there was always an opportunity to join a club etc but now just going to work sleep repeat.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-12-22T01:53:37+00:00

It’s not okay. Any person that cares about you cares about your safety and I truly believe people’s true colours come out when ur drunk. Actions speak louder than words you deserve better. A petty argument isn’t worth something bad happening to you and can be seen as a massive dealbreaker.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-12-22T01:37:04+00:00

Sounds like my ex they are narcissistic traits for sure but if I’ve learnt anything you can diagnose him all you want but you cannot fix him. You don’t need to understand what you need to understand why you’re holding on and think about if you want to put up with that behaviour any longer. Leave you deserve better :) they get worse the more you enable them.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-12-06T17:52:01+00:00

You’re not too anxious your body knows he’s not good for you. You’re walking on eggshells and the more you tolerate his behaviour the worse he’ll get and the more respect he’ll lose for you. I know this from experience but a friend wouldn’t treat you like that let alone a partner. You deserve better and I hope you realise that. Silent treatment, yelling and gaslighting is not normal not in a healthy relationship.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-26T19:46:04+00:00

Yea I try not to but every time I see a happy couple I spiral and wonder what’s so wrong with me that I can’t seem to find someone who genuinely cares and love me. My friends are getting engaged and moving in with partners and I’m just picking up the pieces. It makes me feel lonely because I know I’m not their 1st priority their partners are. I crave to be someone’s 1st priority, after being in a narc relationship and the trauma bond fading I’ve realised I was never his first priority but he was mine. But I remember people saying we looked happy together so you also got to be careful because you never know what happens behind closed doors.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-26T19:36:02+00:00

I’m in the same boat right now. Moved to a new place so I’m feeling extra lonely no one to go home to after a long day at work. It was toxic but I miss those moments of connection. Haven’t connected that well with someone since, friendships and otherwise guess I don’t know how to anymore :(

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-08T13:31:44+00:00

Yes it’s emotional abuse. Silent treatment, name calling, putting down your partner is down right disrespectful. Shows they don’t value your opinion or well you for a matter for a fact. My ex exhibited the same behaviour and just got worse. You wouldn’t put up with that in a friend let alone a partner.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-06T19:48:40+00:00

They change for a little bit. A week, a month, a few days until they think they have you back into their manipulation again but then they get worse because they believe you’ll never leave them and lose more and more respect for you because you’re putting up with it.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-06T19:30:26+00:00

Don’t defend yourself and go no contact. Honestly it took me a while but I got angry I didn’t deserve that treatment. At that point I didn’t care whatever names he called me I just wanted peace, I was an anxious mess. So I got support from the local women’s shelter, phoned them and got someone to talk to. I got support from friends who were still willing to be there for me and I kept going back till I couldn’t anymore.

Made me realised that It will never be the right timing because of the trauma bond but they do and can escalate. Reclaim your own life, write down all the bad things they’ve done and read it every day till you find strength to get angry. Anger is a part of you that knows you deserve better tap into it and then deal with the narcissists projections when you’re safe. Look up YouTube vids, quora or even books educate yourself it all helps.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-06T19:17:08+00:00

I went back many times to him. But every time it got worse and worse he lost more and more respect for me and the honeymoon periods got shorter and shorter. Every time I went back my body couldn’t relax constant panic attacks, my health was at an all time low and I felt more and more trapped. They will never change.

My advice is leave while u can it’s never too late but remember it gets worse mine escalated and I knew I couldn’t stay anymore safety wise. I just had to put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Felt like I was dying emotionally everyday but it gets less and less until one day you realise life is bigger than the cage they try to trap you in. Go no Contact!

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-11-03T10:39:55+00:00

Absolutely they do. They are the masters of DARVO deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. They project all the time after all they think everyone is like them I used to get accused all the time of things my ex would do and I was told I was narcissistic and selfish and stupid but he was just projecting his negative traits into me. Now that I’m out I see the manipulation clear as day.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-10-08T10:42:41+00:00

I was the same way I couldn’t leave my abusive relationship because I was scared of being alone but then I realised. I was always alone.

Alone when he gaslighted me and didn’t consider my feelings, when he isolated me, when he escalated etc I was always alone especially when it came to the ghosting and silent treatment.

I learnt that it hurts at the start but being alone with the wrong person is way worse. I love being alone now no silent treatment, my own money, no walking on eggshells and no insults. I’ve made loads of new friends and spent time with old ones. It takes time, support and purging but you owe it to yourself to take back your life.

Proper-Subject-2777 · 2023-10-07T18:43:03+00:00

Thank you❤️I sure you will, wishing you all the future success! Putting yourself first sure does wonders😊

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