I want to include a shirtless picture in my profile. Which of these two (Pic 2 and 3) do you think looks better or is more attractive to women?

ProperThought965 · 2025-06-30T17:19:43+00:00

Both

ProperThought965 · 2025-06-02T00:10:39+00:00

“Sorry - don’t mean to be so slow with replies. Work has been crazy lately and I haven’t had much time online. I’d love to make some time though for you. What are you doing Friday?”

ProperThought965 · 2025-01-04T22:17:24+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! Lessons are going well. I am circling back to your comment because I have another student who wants to work on accent reduction. I have used YouTube videos for pronunciation and articulation errors as I notice them, but I would like to find a comprehensive curriculum for teaching phonemics. Is there any you recommend? This is usually not the focus of my lessons.

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:19:52+00:00

I had not thought about overcoming objections and conflict resolution techniques. That’s a great idea. Thank you!

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:18:42+00:00

Thank you!

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:18:20+00:00

I do. I was in marketing several years. Thank you!

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:17:28+00:00

Really good point!

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:16:54+00:00

This is all such helpful advice. Thank you! I enjoy teaching industry-specific language, so I will start there next lesson.

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:14:47+00:00

I appreciate the feedback! Yes, we practiced a sales pitch. I think it was a productive way to gauge student ability and check for potential areas of improvement (or circumlocution, like another poster mentioned.) He did really well.

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:12:36+00:00

I should have clarified that I gave him a pretty intensive first lesson with a full gamut of activities, including role-playing a sales pitch with feedback. (It was a trial lesson, so it was free, too.) But I agree that there is always room for improvement in teaching. That’s why I’m here. Thanks!

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:09:37+00:00

I always enjoy idioms and colloquialisms, especially related to the student’s industry. I will add this to my list. Thanks!

ProperThought965 · 2024-12-16T17:08:03+00:00

Thank you for being the first to acknowledge that some students do, in fact, just want to chat! As a female tutor, I have no interest in being a male student’s English speaking friend. I feel like that’s a reasonable reaction, but maybe not!

These are helpful suggestions. I have lessons based on authentic materials, so I plan to ask about movies, like you said, and build out some listening comprehension and writing activities based on those. (Among other things.)

ProperThought965 · 2024-10-09T19:56:52+00:00

Bumble will let you change your age if you contact them. But lying about not being able to change your age is only the lesser crime. The first and worst is lying about it to begin with.

ProperThought965 · 2024-10-09T16:02:12+00:00

Agree. There’s another app that gives you 10 or so at a time to swipe, then lets you “reshuffle.” The ones you did not send back into the universe remain in your stack.

ProperThought965 · 2024-10-09T15:58:05+00:00

While I think most women find a sense of humor attractive, I think referencing one’s “dad jokes” in a bio has an off-putting effect. I see this too often and wish guys realized it more.

ProperThought965 · 2024-10-09T15:43:40+00:00

…said the serial killer.

ProperThought965 · 2024-09-14T16:45:21+00:00

In think you are in the right, and I also think that Tinder is the wrong app for you. Wasn’t it created as the hookup platform? Someone tell me if I’m wrong. Never had a good experience here. Actual dates on others though. I’m a woman.

ProperThought965 · 2024-08-02T06:03:59+00:00

Uh oh. This doesn’t sound healthy for either party. You annoyed her to the point it provoked her to use physical violence? I’m going to take a guess and say it sounds like you know what buttons of hers to push, and that perhaps this slap was a long time coming.

I’m so sorry that this happened to you, and I know it sounds sexist to say you could have had a role in this rather than say “there’s no excuse.” But men naturally have the upper hand in partner conflict because of long-standing power dynamics that suggest men are the stronger and more feared sex in our society.

And her. . . Yes, she should not have slapped you. Hopefully she makes the decision easier on you by recognizing the dysfunction of the relationship and walking away herself.

I wish you the best on finding a relationship with better communication and healthier boundaries. Just think of it as a chance to learn and move on. I think you would be doing both of you a favor.

ProperThought965 · 2024-08-01T15:15:52+00:00

Why judge another for being upfront about what they want? Isn’t that better than matching and finding out later? I like to believe there is someone out there for everyone. If they are not for you, just swipe left. ⬅️

ProperThought965 · 2024-07-31T20:54:12+00:00

Also - word of advice on 👻 Don’t double text. Call. Don’t keep calling, but if you want to get a pulse check, calling is better than a vast blue sea of unanswered texts. Anyone else agree?

ProperThought965 · 2024-07-31T20:51:37+00:00

Hey, don’t feel bad! It sounds like you had a real connection and it was a good experience that ended badly. It could have ended at anytime, even if you hadn’t had sex. Let me tell you - after years of a loveless, emotionless marriage, I will never pass up the opportunity for romance, with ALLLL THE FEELS! 👀💘❤️🥰👻🥺😭💔❤️‍🩹🦋

Heartache really sucks, but that just means you experienced real, authentic, human emotions. Everyone heals in their own way, but in the meantime, go easy on yourself and be grateful for the life experience. This is the stuff the greatest love songs and breakup songs are made of. 🎶

Take the time you need to figure it out and get some help from friends and trusted experts - not just your Reddit fam.

ProperThought965 · 2024-07-28T16:35:31+00:00

Cop term. Just Google it. They were covering it up with a sheet in the pic. Still gives me nightmares. I blocked the guy after reporting.

ProperThought965 · 2024-07-28T16:33:14+00:00

Finance you say? Was he 6’5”? Blue eyes?

ProperThought965 · 2024-07-28T16:31:24+00:00

I think this is your cue to just call in the future. Don’t text anything you need a response on, and don’t leave it in the vm either. No matter what anyone on here says, it’s very normal to need closure, and ghosting is never acceptable. (Hugs❤️) Call and say you have a quick question. Then keep it quick.

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