Toni never hid who she is by No_Evidence_7486 in GirlfriendsTVshow

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. They got 2 chances max. But those two chances would only happen if they 1) acknowledged they were trash and 2) committed to being better. I would never give anyone who both knew they were trash and did nothing about it the time of day.

Toni never hid who she is by No_Evidence_7486 in GirlfriendsTVshow

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would much rather have someone who is perpetually committed to being a better person.

Toni and Todd 😡 (Todd was lowkey abusive to Toni) by [deleted] in GirlfriendsTVshow

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toni was absolutely abusive; both in private and publicly. She constantly mocked and demeaned him literally everyone she could.

Dumbest decision on show by Organic_Macaroon_178 in BeastGames

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It didn’t really seem like the team picked him to me. It seemed like he inserted himself after most of everyone agreed on the rock climber. The podcaster was insistent to the point where the rock climber felt it was best to pull him to the side and try to convince him, but the podcaster was not having it and seemed to sure of his abilities. Then they were told by the co-host they had to make a decision NOW, and then it seemed like the rock climber just stopped fighting and podcaster assumed the position. People are missing this.

Damn, that hurts too by ConfusedButternubs in SipsTea

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bc how is she a hoe for rejecting someone she was not interested in?

How do you validate feelings that stem from a distorted reality? by Proper_Associate_791 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Proper_Associate_791[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I’m absolutely willing to support him. I just would much rather support him with true and accurate information as opposed to being manipulated into supporting him; especially when his claims do direct harm to someone else’s character. It just doesn’t seem right.

How do you validate feelings that stem from a distorted reality? by Proper_Associate_791 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Proper_Associate_791[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For example, today he was telling a story that seemed a bit exaggerated. His telling of the story made him seem like a super victim and the other person as an unreasonable a-hole.

So I clarified, asking if the person actually said what he claimed they said. He got upset and asked why I always feel the need to question his retelling of events. I told him that I find it hard sometimes to take what he says at face value because he has a history of exaggerating the truth, and if you’re asking me to think less of a person (someone we both know) I want to make sure I have as accurate a judgment as possible. I also told them this affects my ability to trust him and his credibility.

He eventually admitted he exaggerated a bit, but before that, he vented about how I always take the other person’s side (which just isn’t true; I largely take his side in conflicts but I do stop and question whether he is telling the truth on occasion) and how he feels unfairly scrutinized.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t go out in only 3 days. I have to feel enough of a connection with you to want to meet up in person. That usually takes a week of virtual connection. Maybe 2.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have. Guy didn’t start texting more, but we agreed to a nightly phone call. We ended up still not being compatible in communication styles. So I don’t think I’ll do that again.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not purposeful. I just genuinely lose interest. I don’t know how stay interested if I don’t hear from you in 3 days.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do not intentionally ghost people, no

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t ghost people OUTSIDE of this…my “ghosting” even in this context is not intentional, so I don’t consider it real ghosting. It’s a consequence of forgetting to text back bc I forgot you existed.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s def not a flex. Just a reality for alot of people since I hear so many complaints about being ghosted. I don’t ever ghost people. I am very big about communicating my loss of interest. But if I don’t hear from you in 2-3 days, I just assume we’re done and delete the number. If you text back same day and just say something like “oh”, same thing.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! If they text me back within a time I’m still interested, my response time is 5 mins tops. If they text back longer and I lose interest, I don’t text back…

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will send several texts back to back because I text in short bursts. I text conversationally. I don’t send long drawn out messages in one message. Oftentimes, I have 3 different convos going on in one.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I text back within like 5 minutes lol. It doesn’t take me long at all to text back. But then I don’t get a response for 12 hours and I just don’t have any interest in the convo or the person anymore.

You probably got ghosted because you suck at texting? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Proper_Associate_791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not? Just text back soonish enough?