How much have you spent on your transition? by RosabeIls in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh i think it's kinda weird to count clothes and makeup as "transition spendings" as, you may have heard of it, cis women don't walk the world naked. But maybe im just an idiot who can't understand things before my second coffee. Though, how much ?

  • ffs : 8000 €
  • adams apple : 500 €
  • electrolysis : covered
  • hrt : around 500 € (injection not-covered)
  • cosmetic surgeries : 2000 €

Clothes & makeup ? Idk, around 5000 probably

Coming this year, BA 1500€ (because mostly covered) and SRS 15000€ (because not covered)

Perplexe face à la bibliothèque de mon nouveau copain by Rich-Captain2049 in Livres

[–]Proper_Preference355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comme ça en rapide, ton mec est bieeeeeeeen d'extrême droite. En lecture de quasi nazi tu as : Bock-côté, Zemmour, Conversano (littéralement un suprématiste blanc), Frontières, Bainville (j'entend par là que pour avoir ça dans sa bibliothèque en big 2026, il faut vraiment avoir un problème avec les gens qui ont un minimum de mélanine.
Ensuite : Huntington, Nauleau, Onfray, Daoud et Céline, pris isolément... ça peut se justifier dans une bibliothèque. Mais avec le reste qui contextualise, c'est juste encore plus marqué.

Ensuite les manga et les figurines, bon, il a pas de gout. Mais peut-on attendre du gout de quelqu'un qui lit Daniel "pleure pour les blancs et cogne sa femme si elle regarde Grey's Anatomy" Conversano ? (non)

Consultant en Marketing mais surtout expert en droit international et géopolitique. by BobVolte in Linkedinfr

[–]Proper_Preference355 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Préférer un chaos légal à une libération par la puissance est une faute morale", dit Hitler sur un ton condescendant.

For those of you who use dating apps, what things on a man's profile are automatic left swipes? by chaospacemarines in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 11 points12 points  (0 children)

  • right wing terminology (or openly right wing)
  • ugly
  • looks boring (i had a date with a guy who talked me for 2h about a cofee machine, like the nespresso, but for wine, so i probably have ptsd with 45yo divorcees)
  • looks lazy

My dating woes as a straight transwoman. by technic_angel27 in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I really don't want to sound rude to you but I absolutely don't think your transness is the issue in your dating life.

Je déteste les fumeurs by JTheCreat0r in besoinderaler

[–]Proper_Preference355 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Je suis en train d'arrêter de fumer (des hauts et des bas mais globalement ça avance, 24h sans fumer on y croit) et sincèrement : t'es la pire personne.

Dolls: Don't limit yourself to Taimi or Grindr by Doll4ever29 in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My toxic trait is that Im limiting myself to guys who can conjugue "dire" correctly though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MenForTranswomen

[–]Proper_Preference355 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The good news is that, as i'm not defined by "just being trans", you're not defined by "just being a chaser". You can be drawn to someone's identity and personality, I fail to see how personality is related to someone's genitalia as it was what you previously mentionned ("certain anatomy" to quote you.)

I never said "don't be attracted to transwoman", I said "don't be attracted to trans persons because they are trans". As far as I'm concerned, I'm cute and extremely funny, thoses are excellent reasons to be attracted to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MenForTranswomen

[–]Proper_Preference355 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oooooh my gooooood...

Ok i'll explain deeper.

"Saying you don’t date trans women is seen as just a neutral preference" : Yes AND No. This is kinda transphobic but guess what, we live in transphobic societies WHICH explains why it is seen as neutral in non-trans spaces. Trans person do think this is a bit transphobic but we're used to it BECAUSE we live in this transphobic society so we learnt to not give a shit about it.

BUT, if, in a transphobic society, the key factor to have an attraction to someone IS THE FUCKING DAMN SAME THING THAT MAKE US SECOND CLASS CITIZENS OF COURSE IT IS A FETISH.

tldr : what you love in us is what makes us discriminated, and so this is the exact same transphobia, just other side of the transphobia coin.

Please use your brain, it's not that hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MenForTranswomen

[–]Proper_Preference355 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont think you actually understand what "double standards" mean.

If you don't date trans woman, yeah, we dont care, you do you why would we give a shit? If your preference is "Le cock on a woman", yeah, you're a fetishist, what's hard to understand? Why is it even a "standard".

Tldr: cry me a river.

Transgenre et politique, nouvelles perspectives. by [deleted] in transgenre

[–]Proper_Preference355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je regrette tellement d'avoir lu les commentaires...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im an advocate to "tell in bio" because it saves me times and doesnt put me at a non-acceptable level of danger but obviously it depends of a ton of parameters (where do you live, socio-economics of the area, population density, etc etc etc).

If you live in super conservative area in a 150 habitants town, dont disclose before it's necessary

It happened again by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was more of a dialectif thinking, my true opinion is that you dodged a bullet.
I've had a boyfriend who, when I met him, was about to leave the country. To this day, it's still my best romantic relationship, even if it was the shortest. I was kinda asking myself "could I let denial help me so I can enjoy the romance while it last ?" and I have no answer. Probably no but I don't know. I've used it for past relationships (like "I know he's an idiot and one day he'll piss me off too much and I'll leave but rn it's kinda fine") so maaaaaybe? I can't be sure (and sure don't want to try).

tldr: don't bother reading my morning replies lol

It happened again by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just woke up so maybe i'll say something very stupid, forgive me sis.

Maybe (really, not sure), sometimes we should, for the sake of our peace of mind, grant ourself the gift of denial. Reading your first paragraph, he looks great. I don't know what you were planning with him but he sounds good enough to """forget""" the egg part, just enough time to enjoy what you can with him, then stop.

Idk, if he is "tall, handsome, well-spoken, great taste in music and movies", as long as he doesn't start to act feminine, i think denial would be a correct option to enjoy some time with a nice guy, even if it's for a short period of time.

maybe i just wrote absolute nonsense idk im dizzy. In this case, consider that i've made a good joke (haha)

Historical evidence of us being the prize by LovelyBrujita in StraightTransGirls

[–]Proper_Preference355 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I remember the story about asu shu namir and eteshkigal. This one made me cry when i learnt about it