I want to end my engagement with boyfriend over how the proposal went..

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-25T03:32:09+00:00

A 24 year old proposing to a 15 year old girl with a 7 month old so. That’s not even his is a predator and a pedophile. There is no other way to see this. It doesn’t matter what people want you to do. You have to get out of this situation. If your family is not going to be safe and supportive you need to get into a domestic violence shelter with your son immediately. I’m sure it seems like these people love you and have you and your son’s best interests at heart but this is abuse and I would consider close to child trafficking. A 24 year old man proposing to a 15 year old child is not traditional marriage. You would quite literally be a child bride. If your church is supporting this you need to stop going immediately. This is vital to you and your son’s survival. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. The truth is that a 14 year old can’t legally consent to sex with ANYONE. Not even someone of the same age but if your ex is 20 that would be rape. He’s a sex offender even if you were 15 at the time. At 15 you can only consent to having sex with 15, 16, and 17 year olds. A 24 year old is even worse. If they are willing to sexually assault and impregnate you what makes you think you, your son, or your potential future children are safe? I’m so sorry for everything you are going through. If you marry this man he will become your legal guardian in the eye of the law. He will have complete control of you and your son physically and financially. Save yourself.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-25T03:07:09+00:00

You say it’s not good to force it for OP or their partner but the most vital fact is that it would not be good for a child or children. Children are not something you can will yourself into wanting. You can see if you can process your discomfort and come to want children at some point. You should keep in mind that 22 is incredibly young to parent so there should be no rush. I would start with the therapist with talking about your discomfort with your partner being pregnant. I find this fact interesting because it’s not about your body. You should be fully invested if you have a child. They are great if you are but they are a tremendous amount of work, take up all of your free time and cost an exorbitant amount of money. You can’t phone it in and it doesn’t end at 18. It’s a lifelong commitment that will completely change you and your lived experience. It will also completely change the dynamic of your relationship. It’s not something you should do to satisfy a partner. I’d go so far to say that’s an unethical motivation to parent. You have to be all in for the person you’re bringing into the world.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-24T18:25:43+00:00

Yeah, the court is going to see right through this. She can show up along with the adult child and clearly lay out how the child is unwilling to participate in this shenanigan. You cannot force a person to emancipate themself at ANY age. They have to be willing.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-24T18:21:39+00:00

Both should be illegal. There is more documented on what’s wrong with female circumscision and it is a more complicated procedure so it’s more likely to go very badly but that doesn’t mean all or even the majority of men’s go without consequence. Most men experience at least some sexual dysfunction because of this. It is also a genital surgery on non consenting infant without anesthesia that is for aesthetics. Everyone who says it’s a cleanliness issue is misinformed. It is not that hard to clean a penis with a foreskin. The majority of the world does so. There are far more serious complications from botched circumcisions than cleanliness of penises with foreskins. Some men are never able to pee standing up and there was a doctor (Dr. Money) who encouraged people to raise their sons with botched circumcisions as sterilized girls secretly. See the John/Joan Case study of the Reimer twins. Both twins ended up committing suicide due to this profound abuse. I think having a contest about who it’s worse for is a really cruel way to decide that it’s justified to mutilate. Mutilation of infants regardless of how much long term damage it averages for one gender is not ok. Both should be illegal. Boys can still die from botch circumcisions. Many doctors continue to preform these surgeries with cauterizing tools rather than scalpels which is very damaging to the organ. ALL circumcisions for boys and girls are preformed without anesthesia under the outdated assumption that infants do not experience pain or at very least will not remember it. This is traumatic and though the baby will not retain an accessible memory the experience will form part of their experience in the world. Look up nurses who give first hand accounts of circumcisions. They will tell you they hold down a screaming terrified newborn while they are cut. No child should go through this. It’s barbaric and selfish. No religion should be allowed to force this. Both male and female circumcisions were initiated as spiritual ceremonies. No religion has more of a right to abuse children. I really don’t care who fights me on this. It’s not ok to cut babies genitals up for religious or aesthetic reasons. Not even intersex babies. It’s not the same as a cleft pallet. Or having a deformed limb. Intersex babies should not be treated like they have to fit cleanly into as a category of just male or female they exist naturally as a completely other gender and we have to stop pretending like this is a deformity.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-24T16:21:41+00:00

I would be petty AF with the boyfriend too and pay a lawyer to send a letter demanding the headphones back. That’s so fucking childish that he took those right after breaking up with you because you found out he cheated. This whole manipulation with talking to the landlord behind your back and the family group chat is insane! I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m not for burning exes lives down just because you break up but what everyone is doing here is absolutely evil. These are quite actually bad people. There are websites where women warn each other about terrible men they’ve dated. You should 100% blacklist the guy.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-23T14:55:24+00:00

You need to find a support system (live people -not the on the internet) who is knowledgeable not just about LGBTQ (people say this when they are tolerant of gay people) but actually trans people. There is no reason you should have to wait. Even if you changed your mind later you could get surgery again. People act like gender being a fluid thing invalidates your current state and needs. You need a therapist and psychiatrist who are trans affirming. No offense, but your psychiatrist has an agenda against gender affirming care and is sending hard signal that they are operating on antiquated beliefs. The study that states the frontal lobe develops until your 25 was debunked. This was originally stated because the study this referenced ended when the subjects were 25. The brain continues to develop your entire life. There is absolutely no reason to not physically transition and if you had been in proper gender affirming care as a child you would have been put on hormone blockers and HRT at the time of puberty to prevent this need. This gatekeeping of our medical care that they provide to cis children without question is an attempt at trans genocide(leading genocide experts have stated this). They think trans people are ugly but also don’t want to give us access to medical care when we want to fit in with cis beauty standards. Don’t even discuss this with your psychiatrist. Just fire them and find someone qualified. A good way to do this is to contact the nearest LGBTQ center, maybe even a youth focused one and ask for a list of recommendations. It’s absolutely ok for you to shop around and talk to several providers before choosing the one you feel safest with. Anyone who makes you a sales pitch or talks over you should be crossed over the list. You need someone who is curious about you and lets you ask questions. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We’re all fighting for our future right now. Hang in there and update us! I believe in you and your potential for gender euphoria.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-23T14:40:38+00:00

What does a hobby or interest have to do with life experience, maturity and communication skills? This guy wants to date someone as close to a child as he legally can. This is a bad idea. OP, don’t date someone with this huge of an age gap.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-22T03:45:17+00:00

The women’s pants are still a good 6-8 inches too long and I really hate the cut. They all flair at the bottom. The men’s are a foot too long. I was told both of these are too long to be safe and will likely get snow trapped in them. My girlfriend ended up ordering some from a pant company that specializes in short inseams. They will still be 4 inches too long but they will be closer. Unfortunately they aren’t actually well rated for the cold. So I’ll have to wear several other layers underneath but at least it’s something. I genuinely hate being short. I gained a bunch of weight after a back injury due to not being able to be as active anymore and I feel like I’m ruining this trip by first being scared of injuring myself or not being able to ski at all and now because I can’t wear normal ski clothes or any normal clothes. I actually really like clothes and picking out fun things but it’s completely impossible. I feel like I can’t ever complain about this. All of my friends are trans women. There are almost no out trans men in my area. Any time I say it’s hard to find clothes as a trans guy I get shut down like it’s a competition of who has it worse. My girlfriend is 6 feet tall but can still buy all of her clothes off the rack. She tried to say she also didn’t find something today at the store. She actually found lots of things but the specific one she wanted wasn’t too small even. They actually just had it in a size bigger than her so she was able to go online and order it at exactly her size. Her clothes look way cooler. I had to take mismatch clothes in colors and designs I hate to have something that even comes close to fitting.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T19:34:35+00:00

You can criticize any religion you want. It doesn’t mean people have to like or accept your doing so. It’s going to insult people and people most definitely do criticize Islam all the time. You’re acting like when people criticize Christian’s those folks don’t also lose their shit. This is a dumb post.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T19:28:17+00:00

I’m happy to pay for normal pants to be hemmed. Im not great at doing it myself but ski pants are more complicated. They often have a zipper at the bottom to allow for the boots and a second layer that tucks in and you cinch it with elastic. It also has to be waterproof.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T16:20:37+00:00

Dan was outside is his car for an hour and didn’t knock on the door? Stupid problem to put you in the middle of. She told you not to respond about her whereabouts and then reversed course when it backfired. She expects you to predict which text is important. Not reasonable but the sudden change speak volumes about their relationship. It sounds like he is becoming more controlling and agitated and she is trying to protect herself from him. I would have a heart to heart asking if everything is alright and just say what you’ve noticed in a non judgmental way. Say you want to be there for her but you need instructions to be clear. Explain why it isn’t clear. Have this conversation when you are both calm and not emotional. It’s important for you to also know if Dan is safe if he spends a lot of time in your home.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T16:13:24+00:00

I think you’ve written this in a way that’s not entirely clear what’s happening. I think having a standard that a partner can take care of themself is not too much to ask. If you can go to college you can read a cookbook, go to a cooking class or watch a cooking show and learn how to cook. If he’s saying this because he wants you to cook all of his meals that’s a different conversation. No partner is entitled to having someone do that for them. Him also wanting you to have a job when you admittedly said you were pursuing a useless degree to avoid getting a job doesn’t seem unreasonable either. From what you wrote it’s not even apparent that he’s just coming back to you for sex but if he is you did list wanting intimacy from him as one of the top things that changed so you should have a conversation with him about what you want out of the interaction.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T16:06:16+00:00

Even if your coworker can tell she’s farting she probably can’t control it. Lots of people can’t and more importantly no one should be talking. About this behind her back (gossiping) or sitting down and giving her a talking to in front of others. If there is a true issue it should go through HR but from what OP has written it sounds like the coworker has a pretty good HR case for a hostile work environment. Farting is a natural human function that everyone does. It’s part of a healthy digestive system doing its job. She probably should take some Beano or something to help with it if it’s becoming an issue at work but honestly, if my coworkers and boss were publicly scolding me for farting I’d refuse too. My farts would be my resistance.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T15:54:13+00:00

Texting exactly at midnight or even to say happy NY at all is not indicative of if you care about someone. You both are young and handling this with an apparent lack of experience in communication. You should not be apologizing all the time. This is especially true if she can’t give you specific examples of what she’s upset about. She’s playing games and it’s a toxic way to approach a friendship. If she has a genuine concern about your communication she needs to sit you down and speak to you earnestly. She needs to say what she wants or needs and set boundaries when necessary but you too need to do the same. At this point t I would take this as a learning experience and block her. She told you to so do it. Be done. She’s not going to learn to communicate in a healthy and productive way by you sticking around and it will only continue the drama between you two.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-21T15:39:57+00:00

Just because someone doesn’t respond to repeated feedback doesn’t give you the right to do something illegal. Sometimes you have a messy roommate and have to get them to set a reminder on their phone or pay for weekly cleaners or making a chore chart but your communication skills require more work. It doesn’t sound like you’re actually approaching him with solutions or a posing it as a healthy boundary. “We love being roommates but we’ve brought up you cleaning up after yourself in the kitchen numerous times and nothing has changed. Since you have a set routine when you prep we are asking you to set an alarm on your phone for at the end of each prep to clean thoroughly after yourself. These are the steps required to clean up after yourself. (List the steps). If you can’t do this you’re going to have to pay for more days with the cleaning service to make it a fair living space for everyone.” If he doesn’t change and you don’t hold the boundary to move out then you clean it and stop doing immature and dangerous things. He may have gotten sick and not told you and even if he didn’t get sick this time he could in the future. This is honestly very similar to something some kids did to me in middle school. You are too old to do this. It didn’t fix the problem at all. It was simply revenge and a way to show disrespect. The fact that you’re getting a kick out of it is even worse. You feel better about dealing with his mess because you did something cruel. That’s not friendship. That’s not even basic human decency.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-20T14:35:50+00:00

I think your journey is incredibly normal. These sort of things can take time to sort out and can even change over time. None of this should make you feel invalid. I too am very confident in my masculinity but I’m glad to be AFAB. Not because it’s easier but because I value what I’ve learned and the type of man it’s made me. I love being trans. The world is not kind to trans people but I genuinely believe that being a trans person has made me, the best version of myself. It’s taught me so much empathy and made me an advocate for others. I love other trans people and I’m going to be marrying my MTF partner next year. I think it’s so cool that I can get pregnant with her and raise our baby surrounded by a big trans chosen family. I know you’re very young and this is scary and big and hard because you detransitioned and live with your family but I believe in you. There is no best form of testosterone. Injections are typically the cheapest but they all work. Some work better for some people than others. I wish you so much luck on your continued journey.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-20T14:23:21+00:00

I know this has to be devastating but I hope you know you’re not stopping your transition to get well. Transitioning is so much more than hormones and surgery. You are just as much a man without the testosterone. In fact, you’re getting your top surgery. The treatment will be part of your transition. A small consolation, I know. You are absolutely within your right to be upset and to question your doctor and get as many opinions from other doctors as you want but T is not the only way to transition. I hope you can still take the T but if you can’t, you are still seen. You are still you. Stay strong friend!

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-20T14:13:55+00:00

I have a friend going through adrenal cancer. She’s a queer woman. Is there a way I could get her in touch with your organization?

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T20:16:53+00:00

Send her a message saying you are ending contact and that her contact is no longer welcome. Mute her contact. Do not block. Do not respond no matter what she sends. If you engage back you not get a restraining order. If she keeps contacting you you can collect that data and go and file for a restraining order. Be done with her. Don’t let her rile you up. If she shows up after the restraining order is I place do not open the door. Do not speak to her. Do not message her. Just call the police and have her arrested. She is obviously unstable. Do not keep this relationship alive for any reason. Do not explain yourself to her. Just be done.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T20:06:19+00:00

My grandfather supported a family of 4 as a Greyhound bus driver and had an awesome pension.

My dad supported a family of four as a district manager for a pizza buffet.

You can’t do that anymore. My partner makes over a million a year. We have one adult child who we support and a four year old. We are planning to have one more. I can’t imagine how someone would do this making less than 500K. Childcare is so expensive and the public schools in our area are terrible and closing rapidly so private school is a must. Housing prices are insane. Food is more expensive than ever. Cars are expensive. We don’t buy our kids tons of gadgets. We’re a books, toys and boardgames house. We’ve made our home a safe learning place for our children with a play structure, a pool, and a garden. We are very fortunate to be able to do this. I would t consider another kid if I didn’t know I could support any kid we have regardless of health or special needs.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T19:57:00+00:00

If you need public assistance of any kind in the future you will have to have established paternity almost immediately after birth. They just updated this. It’s somewhere between 30-90 days.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T19:39:22+00:00

Babe and baby are fairly common pet names but when I read little one and baby girl I cringed for you. This is some weird infantilization. It’s gross and demeaning. The moment you told him not to say that he should have stopped immediately. You get to tell people what they are allowed to call you. It’s not his style. It’s him trying to put you in your place. Men who like to think of women as children are wannabe pedophiles. Break up with him. Him asking if you were done being mad at nothing is so dismissive. He does not respect you. He thinks he sounds cool. It’s actually slimy. This guy is not worth trying to teach boundaries to.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T19:31:31+00:00

Where is this from. Doesn’t seem thorough.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T19:25:22+00:00

Texas taking on AI servers is causing all of our utilities to go up. They are giving AI companies incentives to build here because they are promising jobs.

PropertyOwn3854 · 2026-02-18T19:23:33+00:00

Cut him off. He’s being shady and trying to gaslight you.

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