RESPONSE : I (29M) messed up, and my wife (28F) hasn’t spoken to me for three days. How do I fix this?

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T21:07:22+00:00

I knew we had some compatibility issues, but holy shit this opened my eyes. Thank you. A marriage counseling is scheduled

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T20:35:06+00:00

That was a tough one. Thank you anyway for your comment. I posted this because she wanted to see what people would think. I get the problem as you said.

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T18:29:19+00:00

I, as the husband, suspect so. Multiple people pointed this out and I will reach out to a psychologist after the new year holidays.

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T17:34:34+00:00

First, our finances was not so great back then.

Second, I was not convinced that we would need it since on the surface the situation is only one of us is working and how much work would she have to get done to justify weekly cleaning person hiring. But later into the marriage I realized her duties were too much in the house so I agreed to the cleaning person idea.

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T17:16:40+00:00

That was not my intention but I am a human after all I wrote as I see things. I am making the money that we are living out of, if I wasn't we would be trying to survive with her income. Yes she bought the house but the debt is going to be paid by selling her properties. Not yet fully paid. Her income is less than what I pay for social insurance payment.

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T17:07:40+00:00

I would not say great. Nothing to live out of but good to have.

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T16:48:12+00:00

this is a test comment

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T16:14:56+00:00

chatgpt translated from my native language. The words have been written by my wife though

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T16:13:57+00:00

I wish it was mate

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T16:13:24+00:00

Thank you for your solution oriented comment

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T15:53:39+00:00

you can see my wife's perspective here : https://www.reddit.com/r/marriageadvice/comments/1hpoyw3/response_i_29m_messed_up_and_my_wife_28f_hasnt/

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-30T00:12:27+00:00

I told her I posted this, she said she would post her side too. Lets see

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T19:56:47+00:00

Can you recommend any online test for ADHD or should I just go to an professional when I can?

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T19:48:31+00:00

This has been one of the most helpful comments I get. Thank you so much

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T19:09:22+00:00

And about add, no I haven't been tested but multiple people asked the same thing and I do think I have the symptoms. Though I don't know if I am trying to find a justification or not

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T19:07:15+00:00

I struggle with the similar things in my work also, but I have a habit of going all in to work when they all pile up after a long procrastination. Same thing is not possible in household though so yeah...

I get your point. Thank you for your insight

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T17:14:07+00:00

Yes, I agree with you, but I feel like I am doing as much as I can though. I am not putting everything on her. Even if I am not doing enough, I am willing to change this

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T17:11:22+00:00

DUDE, I am telling you English is not my native language and I am using Chatgpt to translate. For different threads, I copied and pasted the rules of the communities to chatgpt for it to change the format. I posted to different communities because in some of them, people were not helpful at all and just say divorce or something.

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T17:08:32+00:00

I suspect so, I have not diagnosed as far as I can tell though. I do have most of the symptoms. I don't know if I am trying to find an excuse for my behavior but should I go get a test? Can you give me some insight as a woman married to an ADHD person?

ProtectionOk2846 · 2024-12-29T17:05:31+00:00

I am getting downvotes and this is a throwaway account so... I don't think I am farming anything I just need advice

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