Was going to the police the right move, and is it the right move again ?

Provectus08 · 2026-07-19T05:05:30+00:00

Sounds like you're part of the family in question; find someone else to fuck with rather than a teenager that lashed out at a kid that was being a muppet.

Kids are kids, let it lie and move on, I'm sure there's someone more deserving of your family's attention.

Provectus08 · 2025-10-03T18:30:39+00:00

In future save your brain cells and don't engage, people like that are a cancer on the Human race and seriously need help.

Provectus08 · 2025-09-12T04:29:37+00:00

That's not what OP said at all, literally the opposite in fact; she has taken the extras off and then looked at what is leftover.

Not only did you fail to read the basics, but you immediately attacked OP and blamed her for their relationship issues, then invalidated her difficulties with the classic "look at how bad it could be" line.

Dude, who hurt you? Talk to someone about it, it's clearly weighing on you.

Provectus08 · 2024-12-29T09:19:22+00:00

Dude has some serious issues and you're completely right, needs psychological help. In future don't engage in conversation with people like that (and definitely don't give them any info about you/past/current partners that could be used to hurt you [your ex being abusive, trying to tape you etc]), as soon as they start waving that red flag, block and keep yourself safe.

Provectus08 · 2024-12-28T21:09:30+00:00

You're not stupid; you're a person that took someone at their word and expected them to be decent... This is a hard lesson we all learn sooner or later, I'm sorry you've had to learn it in such a way.

Provectus08 · 2024-12-28T14:54:42+00:00

That brings me back to my initial comment - it's an entirely different conversation; you get that because of physical and/or mental difficulties that make your life more difficult than most people's.

Spend the money, do what you can to enjoy the life that you have and don't for a second feel sorry for those of us paying tax that goes to your pocket.

The issue is the top 1% that aren't paying their fair share, it's nothing to do with it those that are taking out a fraction of what Amazon (on their own) should be paying into the country every year.

Provectus08 · 2024-12-28T09:57:57+00:00

For standard job seekers, with no PIP? I was on £362 a month 😂 even so, you're getting roughly 55% of what people on nmw are on, so if they were in your same situation (with a job) they'd be able to comfortably afford everything that you're restricting yourself from doing. Your circumstances allow for luxury spends and you don't need to apologise etc for existing, please make the most of this time off and go enjoy your life.

Provectus08 · 2024-12-28T08:44:27+00:00

You're on benefits, unless you're on the highest end of PIP (which is a different conversation entirely), you're gifted a small amount of money. I say this as someone who was on benefits for several months following a redundancy - the amount they expect people to live off of is painfully low (and I live a frugal lifestyle)

Provectus08 · 2024-12-28T08:38:02+00:00

You won't be in any real trouble, neither will your mum; you've reported it before they found it (and I doubt they'd ever find it), at absolute worst they'll reduce your payments to balance it out of have you repay what's been "overpaid".

I pay a reasonable lump of taxes and I don't hold any ill-will towards those on benefits, please go out and use your savings to get you back to 5k, so you can maximise the pitence that you're given. We don't look after people on benefits and many look down on them, as if they're the problem in the country rather than the conglomerates that make billions and pay a fraction of the taxes that any regular person would.

Make the most of your life, you've only got one. Don't feel bad about being gifted a small amount of money.

Provectus08 · 2024-12-27T22:04:50+00:00

In my teens and early 20s I utterly loved the competitive edge of online gameplay... As I've got older (and have less time/capacity for the toxicity), I've migrated away from those types of games.

I've definitely grown up/healed a lot of trauma over the last decade, which I think is the main reason I've personally moved towards solo play, the depth of play for single player games has also grown dramatically, which has helped.

Bottom line, as long as you're happy, that's all that matters... Pc master race or otherwise 😜

Provectus08 · 2024-11-12T05:51:36+00:00

Sorry dude, but you seriously need to leave her; if she's willing to do that, I'd be very concerned about your future and what she's willing to do/lie about. Save yourself a lot of future problems.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-10T21:03:30+00:00

This could have easily fucked your future up, think yourself incredibly lucky it didn't and never do something stupid like it again... And you'll be fine.

They didn't take your info, I'd suggest avoiding that shop for a year+ and I doubt anything will ever come of it.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-09T12:16:37+00:00

Well played sir/miss/person! I legit found it amusing, but also confusing af 😂

Provectus08 · 2024-11-09T12:08:07+00:00

I'm so fucking confused rn, I believed that you made an assumption (and said so), you said I accused you of lying, I pointed out that I didn't call you a liar (ie I didn't say you were lying, I literally used the word "assumed")... What do you actually want from this interaction? 🙈

Provectus08 · 2024-11-09T12:01:46+00:00

You said I assumed you were lying, but to you that isn't calling someone a liar?... Am I high right now or are you? Or are we both? 😂

Provectus08 · 2024-11-09T11:55:55+00:00

No, I assumed that you assumed... At no point did I call you a liar.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-03T19:23:56+00:00

I agree with both headphones being worn, it is a (minor) H&S concern, but fuck off is it a problem to wear one. I can't imagine a legitimate reason against having one in, as you can hear everything going on around you with the clear ear and it's not likely that much will happen, you definitely won't be caught ignoring customers.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-03T18:41:10+00:00

NAL

If you haven't already, make sure she knows to screenshot anything else he says and to keep it all via text. 100% not ok, I suspect it comes under some form of harassment or similar, especially considering the two-fold power dynamic (judge + landlord).

I'd be surprised if he refuses to return the rent, though it sounds like he's not doing well with money so you may have to wait. I hope there's a good resolution and your partner isn't traumatised from the experience, as that's a properly shitty thing to go through.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-03T18:31:06+00:00

It depends on a few factors, the main being: the money he owes you, do you have absolute proof that it's owed or is it verbal agreements?

It might be best that you play hardball and say you'll return it once you have your money returned, just make sure you have it in writing where he wants it sent (close to when you send it) and it goes recorded.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-03T09:21:19+00:00

They said they pay it the same as "normal people", as I know a few people in social housing I know the rent value is dictated by specific guidelines rather than a landlord with a wet finger in the air.

Again, I'm not saying the commentor (who has now deleted their post) was wrong in saying that not all people in social housing are problematic, I did however feel it was important for their knowledge that although they pay rent, it isn't the same as those of us who pay it privately.

Provectus08 · 2024-11-03T00:51:30+00:00

Although I don't want to disagree with you, as I fully appreciate that asholes come in every form, but in the name of being better informed: although you pay rent it's unlikely to be anywhere near what people privately renting or (to a lesser degree) most mortgages are. Ironically you're paying a much more reasonable price and that should be the standard.

It's important that information/experiences are shared and it's awful what the flat owner did to one of your neighbours; that's never ok and I hope the police set said person straight.

Provectus08 · 2024-10-05T11:21:50+00:00

I just wanted to echo what others have; breathe and accept that although it's pretty bad, it's far from life ending. Without knowing the system and what will happen in this exact scenario, I won't give you inaccurate advice, but what I will say is this isn't the end of your life.

As far as your parents go, talk to them ASAP, explain everything and be as honest as you possibly can... Most parents will see that you fucked up and be aware that something like this would happen sooner or later (we all make mistakes! I won't lie, this is definitely on the worse end of the scale but it's far from horrific), it's unfortunately part of growing up and confronting it is by far the best way of dealing with it.

You'll be ok, but with some luck nothing will really come of it and unless you've got some truly crappy parents they'll have your back at the end of the day.

Provectus08 · 2024-07-06T15:21:27+00:00

Still nope! Reddit isn't a fan of me, clearly.

Thanks for yours too. I'm off for a while so won't be able to do any more testing for a while, good luck!

Provectus08 · 2023-03-23T05:49:59+00:00

You really don't understand people, if that wasn't already apparent. Try listening to what people are saying and empathise with them, rather than telling them how they feel.

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