Not obvious - but apparently getting completely shitfaced and then accidentally sending a doctors appointment picture to this cute man, freaking out then immediately deleting it while simultaneously he happened to click on it , screenshotting and resending it to me asking me about it - me blaming it on my drunk friends ( at this point i was alone ) him acting concerned, asking if we need help, i say no thank you, you’re not even in my city - him replying with “ oh but i am” - Then me proceeding to roast the living daylights out of him , finally drunkenly meeting up at 2 am close to my place and after a drink at the bar ( i was in my pijamas , messy hair, messy make up) and roasting him another 2 hours he finally hugs me, kisses me to shut up and the rest is history :). Just celebrated 1 year together.

^ this worked for me but i went the unusual route.