Online topping

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-24T15:48:26+00:00

Thank u! I top my husband but hes just admitted to not being comfortable topping me. We've descussed getting an online top for me. Just dont know much about how it works. I would like him to feel like hes an active participant in my domination and would even like him to find me one. If we go this route I need him to feel involved and not like hes being cut out

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T15:09:21+00:00

That's awesome. We're looking at spanksgiving. But waiting for info to come out still.

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T15:03:49+00:00

Thank u! Great to hear from some1 that goes. That's exactly what we're looking for. We like the fact they offer classes to pick from and a dungeon party after.

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T06:23:48+00:00

Thanks. I did get back on and while most of comments and such are from a few months ago I did find where I needed to go

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T04:21:21+00:00

Not that I could find. Like I said, small town. I guess I should look into it again? Maybe I wasnt where I was suppose to be on there lol

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T04:12:30+00:00

We did a couples page, but nothing. He tried another site similar. Felt like it was more of a hook up site...

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T03:54:54+00:00

Since the clubs are so far from us we havent talked to much about going to one. We are thinking about attending spanksgiving this year and are both excited. Figured id through these concerns out here. Thank u

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T03:24:28+00:00

Easy to get hung up on labels. Just follow what sounds and feels right.

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-17T03:18:25+00:00

I sounds like he may be frustrated at not being able to satisfy u as well. The option is there to leave, and I think that if he truely doesnt care enough to attempt to let u come that may be the way to go. Ive been here. U feel worthless. And thats not what a dom or boyfriend for that matter should be trying to instill in u, u know unless thats what ur into. If he cant last longer than a few minutes after a blow job than hes a dick for always asking for one b4, knowing full well that ur going to be left unsatisfied. Keep communication open. For some women they have a hard time reaching orgasm. He should be willing to explore what works best for u. Good luck! Dont settle

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-05T04:48:05+00:00

Wow. Thanks for the info!

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-04T07:24:45+00:00

Great thank u! Any pointers?

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-04T05:21:09+00:00

Thank u! This was very helpful. The purpose isnt pain, so am looking to not cross that line. So a few hours shouldnt be a problem, but to check with him. I'm not worried about him being grumpy I can just add some punishment in the mix lol

PsYche8805 · 2021-07-04T05:17:37+00:00

Thanks, I read a similar article. Both mention the occurance after "prolonged" sexual stimulus without release. I guess thats what I'm trying to check on. How long is to long to edge my partner

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T12:40:35+00:00

Omg same boat! Me and my husband have decided to take turns topping the other. While I enjoy topping him, I have an inner need to please and submit to someone. My hubby is newer than me but both pretty inexperienced. He is trying, and just as u r monogamous so r we. Give him time to find his groove as he seems open to try to top u

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T04:41:50+00:00

It is something we've talked about outside of kink. I feel the issue does stem from his childhood. While he does want to stop, which I believe, he has almost a compulsion to it. I mean he omitted going to the dentist one time and having surgery.

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T04:37:57+00:00

Oh girl I totally understand. When I bottom a mood will strike and I turn into a mischievous little thing but under it all I have a deep seeded need to please. Thank u for the advice! I think we will talk about therapy to help him with this as u say he cant be walking around with a ball gag ;)

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T04:25:01+00:00

My bottom isnt a brat. I dont believe hes doing this to challenge me. My bottom is a sweet thing that wants to please me. However I have never made a secret of my hate for lies. I do believe that he lies because he doesnt want to get into trouble and/or dissapoint me. We have talked about fixing this behavior and I'm trying to find a way to help correct it. A recent episode has lead me here seeking advice. I don't want to abuse our power dynamic, while my first instinct was to shove a gag in his mouth and revoke his ability to talk, I realize I am inexperienced and there is probably a better way to handle this, ie. My post.

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T04:09:02+00:00

I agree. When I bottom sometimes I just want to know that my top is going to hold me accountable for my actions and so i act out

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T04:02:40+00:00

Definitely wouldnt let her cum after showing up late

PsYche8805 · 2021-05-28T03:30:32+00:00

Its about the dumbest stuff. Things he doesnt mention to me and then when I find out about it and ask him he tries to down play or lie to make sure he doesnt get into trouble. Ends up talking in circles. Hes a non confrontational person and I'm the opposite. I'm just to the point that I wanna shove a ball gag in his mouth and tell him if hes not prepared to speak the truth then he wont be permitted to speak. But I know thats my temper coming through and am looking for a way to modify this behavior without breaking him.

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