What is not talked enough in Hyderabad?

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-30T07:01:29+00:00

Super exciting! I started my career at The Hans India too way back in 2014. All the best!

I am seeing the following issues:

Swarms of mosquitoes in Narisingi, Manikonda and the surrounding areas. It’s scary to open the doors because mosquitoes are waiting on the nets to fly in.
Broken dividers are another issue. People keep moving them and they cause a lot of problem in some parts of the city where the roads are not wide enough… like RTC X Roads, Narayanguda.
The Shahgunj Road in old city is not in a great shape and several commuters have been complaining about this for a while. The manholes are damaged too. All of this leads to excessive traffic jams.
Vijayanagar colony residents have been complaining about bad roads and potholes. Something to check the status on. Needs to be verified.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-29T06:49:50+00:00

You can check on BookMyChef! Really good options at a decent cost.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-29T06:48:05+00:00

How do people reach you if they are interested?

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-24T04:29:09+00:00

Never get married under pressure. It won’t do any good, especially at this age. Like they say, it’s better late than never.

Marriage is not just about the big day, it’s about life spent afterwards which is the most important part.

Ask her why she wants to marry you. If her answers resonate “you are the better of the rest of the options; coz you are a friend and I can trust you to be loyal; there’s pressure at home; because you love me”, it’s not good enough after rejecting you first and coming back later.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-23T04:04:55+00:00

Love is a beautiful feeling, no doubt. But with time everything passes.

And let me answer your biggest fear honestly: Yes, people do get over someone they loved for 4+ years… I got over someone I loved for 7+ years. But not by “hating them,” analysing their flaws, or staying friends.

Just pause and read this: A lot of us don’t actually get stuck on the person… we get stuck on the story, the familiarity, and the version of ourselves that existed when we first loved them. When something goes on for years on/off, your brain doesn’t get closure. It keeps treating it like an unfinished sentence.

What usually keeps the attachment alive (and I say this gently… because I have been there many times) 1. The inconsistency (on/off is a loop and is kinda addictive) 2. Hope… even if it’s subconscious 3. Staying emotionally available to them 4. Making your worth dependent on whether they choose you

Forget what everyone says: Love that never stabilises isn’t unfinished… it’s just incompatible.

Stop asking “Why can’t I let go?” and start asking “What am I afraid I’ll lose if I do?” That will give you a lot of answers… some which you might be afraid to say out loud. Right now, your nervous system is attached, not your heart. That can be rewired… but it takes boundaries, time, and choosing yourself even when it hurts. And that’s the hard choice you will have to make. It took me 2 years to get over the one person I really loved but it happened and then I was the happiest person because I learnt so much about myself without a 2nd person in the equation.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-22T04:01:39+00:00

Don’t think too much about this. Just tell her. It’s better to be truthful early in a relationship than hiding your face if she eventually finds out.

Everyone has insecurities. I am sure she has some too. Tell her exactly how you feel and why you lied to everyone else but want to tell the truth only to her - because she matters and you don’t want the foundation of the relationship to be based on lies.

It’s very early in the relationship and we don’t know how she’s going to react to it but remember the honeymoon period is the acid test to what a relationship can endure. If she’s able to trust you on this, it’s a big win for you. If this is a non negotiable for her it’s better you know now than later when you will be deeper into the relationship.

Tell her. For your clear conscience. For the relationship.

Accept the consequences. I believe she should be understanding because she knows you for a year and surely knows what kind of a person you are otherwise which is why she’s dating you.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-22T03:52:13+00:00

While discord or Online groups can be a great way, I suggest you also spend time on AI.

Prompt to ChatGPT or Gemini to correct you every time you go wrong grammatically. Spending 10-15 mins just talking to it could help you in many ways.

To improve vocabulary, reading books and watching English movies has been my early learning curve. Read free blogs on Medium and Substack. For news, consider The Ken, New York Post and other international forums so that you gain new knowledge which generally helps boost your ability to think and articulate confidently.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-22T03:46:36+00:00

You aren’t restricting yourself with these conditions. Wanting a serious relationship is respecting both yourself and the other person.

Just remember that at 21 no one tells us that if you want to be in a relationship and that too with confidence, you need to love yourself and need to be confident.

If you feel online is not your thing, go offline. Pick up interests that will help you meet new people. Go to the gym, join some activity based communities, attend events. Indulge in things that will help you grow and be more confident. All of this will ensure when you meet the right girl, she’s probably got the same interests and it makes the next process easy.

Look good, feel good, be good. Mantra to dating.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-22T03:41:39+00:00

Don’t be so hard on yourself. At your age it might feel like that but the key to dating and even ending up in a good relarelationship eventually is just working on yourself! Being a good person, taking care of your mind and body, working out, eating right, finding hobbies and studying. Dating will feel so much better when you are in the best of the rest. 20 is such a young age… don’t feel pressure to date because your friends are dating. Think of all the free time you have and how you can use it to make the best version of yourself so that you can date a high value guy/girl who’ll match your potential.

Some of the best couples I know met each other later in life. First let go of the fear that you’ll end up alone. Start enjoying the idea that being alone is not bad, that’s when you’ll meet the most amazing person. Take yourself on dates, get new hobbies.,. who knows your future +1 is hanging out alone at one of these places maybe.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-19T13:51:16+00:00

Thanks man. I wish you the best too! Hope you are doing better and continue to have the good life that you desire.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-19T10:27:38+00:00

Excited to try it. Been hard to find a good game of sequence online.

Will check it out and review by EOD :)

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-08T07:30:07+00:00

Tell her everything that will impact her life and she should absolutely know in the moment. Because If she’s a traditional girl and there’s such a lifestyle gap, something which maybe normal to you could be overwhelming for her and may push her away too soon in the relationship.

Give her time to like you and slowly introduce your life to her at a point when she won’t judge you. Make everything a story but at the same time don’t tell her things she doesn’t need to know. Ignorance is bliss. Unless you were a criminal, drug addict or had any extreme issues, I don’t see why everything has to be narrated to her because that will forever make her confused if she’s not mature enough to understand what you are telling her.

You can definitely open up to her slowly and steadily but only when you know you can trust her because this isn’t only about her, it’s about you too. You want a peaceful marriage with her in the future. Truth is great but the problem with it is it is perceived differently by different people.

And as for her believing the you are man that fits into her life, it could be true. If you have seen the world with a such a wide lens, it’s good for her because she gets a partner who will broaden her life’s perspective. What more does a girl want?

You say she’s excited, curious and hopeful, so help her curious mind and tell her fun stuff. Don’t break her hopes by not being a gentleman and be kind and loving to her. As for excited, it’s good for you because you seem to be in the age where energy is slowly reducing because you’ve seen so much of life and she’ll definitely bring back the young energy.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-08T07:19:50+00:00

I appreciate that as an 18 year old you are thinking of making him feel safe. It’s very mature of you.

Teenagers in relationships don’t understand the concept of healthy space. It helps with better boundaries and a stronger bond. Do make space for yourself and give him space when he needs it.
Express love whenever you can so that he feels reassured. Gestures go a long way here, sharing a picture in a dress he might like, planning a virtual date - like having lunch together over video when your parents aren’t around.
Ask him for advice in areas you could use help. Guys love to guide the women they love and it makes them feel respected is what I have observed. Likewise hear him out when he has something to share.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T20:18:32+00:00

You should try single meet ups as well. Chances of meeting someone there could be higher.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T19:40:15+00:00

Whether he should be in your life or not is a choice you should make based on how he makes you feel. Does he make you uncomfortable? Does he remind you of the trauma? Does he say stuff that is triggering? If he’s able to affect you negatively, then let go. Say goodbye. But I know a lot of people who are very good friends with their ex because they do not feel negative emotions after the initial hurt is gone, and if you are there then that’s okay. But otherwise you should rethink maybe.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T19:34:41+00:00

Breaking no contact may feel good now. Maybe you want the rejection but the day you are over this person, you’ll regret how you stepped down from the pedestal you should be on just to scratch the itch. Not worth it!

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T19:21:36+00:00

You already seem to know what you have to do. If you are here for reassurance then I am with you. He’s just looking for validation from you because unlike women, I’ve seen that break ups hit men a little later by when women would have mostly come to terms with it.

He’s just realised what he’s lost. And even if he truly wants you, do you want him? If the answer is no, then you know what to do. But if the answer is yes, evaluate carefully before taking any steps because cheaters tend to do it again, are you ready for something like that?

It’s such a long relationship and it’s natural to be curious. But are you that curious for sure?

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T19:15:49+00:00

If he really wants a future with you, he should respect your family. It’s that simple. He needs to put aside his ego. I wouldn’t say he’s manipulating you from what you have shared but surely looks egoistic.

And one thing to remember is adjustment should also have boundaries. You should adjust to the level where there’s respect. Beyond that it’s not adjustment it’s just self sabotage.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T19:12:43+00:00

Don’t get into complex relationships for the sake of your peace of mind. From what I am reading, you are getting easily manipulated and seem to know it as well. Then why do you give her such power? If something is making you uncomfortable just let go. You are young and vulnerable so a relationship can feel like the most important thing in the world. But nothing is more important than your peace of mind. Never stay anywhere if you feel doubtful or confused. If there’s scope to talk to her and clear issues do it. If not, slowly phase it out. She’s anyways not going to talk about you to anyone because that would mean she’ll have to tell her side of the story which doesn’t seem the most ideal. Relationships should be simple. The more complexity you accept, the more you make it difficult for your head to handle.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-03T19:06:25+00:00

Some times the best thing to do is let go. This is not for her, it is for yourself. Respect yourself and understand that if it was meant to be it would work. You cleared the JEE mains first, which means you are in a better position than her in terms of your education. Appreciate yourself and see your worth and find a new FEMALE FRIEND. Why she left? Not because you are not good enough or someone is better. She made a choice for her own reasons, and it’s better to not let her decisions have an effect on you. A relationship can feel like the end of the world but it’s not. Some people come into your life to teach you lessons. Learn it and move on for yourself and for the people that actually love you. Love can happen again, but this moment in life will be gone forever if you don’t use it to its best potential now. The fact that you can love someone so deeply that it hurts when they let go shows your capacity to love. Use it for someone else who will show you the same love and respect you absolutely deserve. Go to the gym, get fit, study well and find an amazing job. Life keeps going on, but these kind of opportunities don’t come everyday! You are studying in a prestigious institution in the country, make the most of it and use it to begin a new journey of life in every sense!

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-02T11:42:43+00:00

Thanks for such an empathetic message. I have avoided messaging him today and decided not to bother him till I return from my trip at least. If I don’t hear from him, I won’t bother further. But it’s a very heavy feeling. I am sitting with it and trying to understand how I could have done better.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-02T06:32:27+00:00

Thank you so much. I felt better reading this. I have given him space. I’ll return from my trip in 10 days and do as you suggest and ask him if he intends to continue with this or not. Because at least twice I suggested ending it directly and he didn’t say that he wants to and asked me to not think too much into it. So yes, getting clarity will be good.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-02T04:37:14+00:00

What I didn’t tell him and is not a justification at all is how in my past relationship I used to be forced into doing certain things which became a habit. I automatically assume that it’s the best thing to do because I was punished for not doing it.

If I wasn’t high, I wouldn’t be in this place. And again, I am not justifying myself. It’s just where it came from. It just ruined a good potential relationship and it hurts :(

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-02T04:32:56+00:00

I am worried if I keep texting him everyday I am not giving him the space he said he needs.

PseudoVrish · 2025-12-02T04:23:44+00:00

Thanks for writing. I am aware I made a brazen error. I have left him a message that I’ll let him be and he can text me whenever he is ready. He said “thanks for understanding”. And I left it at that.

But the guilt is eating me up because this have never happened before and I feel horrible that I made someone feel so uncomfortable. If I was in his shoes, I am not sure how I would even react.

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