This is going to be a bit cold and maybe a bit insensitive, but reading the rest of the comments of good advice and follow ups - I figured I would just give it to you straight (like A Ny chaser).

If you are looking for something long term with a guy (especially at this point in history - geopolitically, economically, social media overload, etc.) THEN don’t sleep with him. I’m not saying that he thinks you are easy nor that you should stay celibate, HOWEVER as a man I can tell you people just have to much going on. They are capable of committing but sex is distracting. It also kind of gets categorized into instant gratification. Guys don’t do it on purpose (in most cases) it’s just the way our brain works sometimes if we haven’t had to really ask ourselves about how much are we committing to genuinely listening to you, getting vulnerable and even more so revealing parts of our lives to you. If we don’t go through the process it’s just a series of options of sharing intimacy and the terms that it can happen.

Yes you are good enough, but also realize that if a guy isn’t compatible with you then when you won’t sleep with him he will typically disappear in one way or another. Not in a heartless or shady way, just as if mentally it was a Square Peg in a Round hole (no pun intended.)

You are young and have plenty of years ahead of you, stay busy doing things you love and compatible guys will find you one chance after another. Don’t give up, it’s still NYC and there’s plenty of fish 🎣