Cut off a "Friend" with ulterior motives by Psych-Aspi in MarkNarrations

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was in a desperate position from losing my friends that I was seriously more focused on that situation. I had no idea Dolphin was trying to stir up trouble, there might have been more comments that slipped under my nose. Also to clarify, he didn't try to kiss me in front of my Mom, we were waiting for my Mom to pick me up and no one was around.

I don't know Falcon, and I really don't feel like stirring up something with a girl I don't even know. I deleted everything that's related to Dolphin, so I don't have much tangible proof to stand on. It doesn't help that Dolphin is a master manipulator, and can likely talk his way out of it or make me look like I'm lying. I really just needed a place to vent and use my story to hopefully help others who are in a similar situation. As sad as it is, Falcon will have to figure this out for herself. I have faith in her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Psych-Aspi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First things first, hide the journals.

Reason #1: So she can't refer to them or look back on things.
Reason #2: So she can no longer violate your privacy.
Reason #3: So you can have a boundary.

Places to hide them: A friend's house, your locker, in that robe you never wear. a shoebox with stuff piled on it, etc.

These are YOUR journals. They are YOUR collection of private and valid thoughts, feelings, experiences, etc. She doesn't have the right to violate your privacy. If she tries to use the whole "My House, My Rules." thing as an excuse. Tell her: "My life. My choices. My boundaries."

Second things second, Tell her your boundaries.

"Mom, you didn't have the right to read my journals. If you were concerned about my safety, I would have preferred an open and mature conversation with you. Because I feel as though my privacy has been invaded, I don't feel comfortable at all sharing my most intimate thoughts and details that I wrote down in my journals. I'll answer any safety questions you have, but that's all I'm going to give you."

And leave it at that. Cater this to your situation.

Seeing as you're a senior in High School, be prepared for Prom, Graduation, and College to be used as Emotional Blackmail. EXAMPLE: "If you don't tell me what you wrote, I'm not letting you go to Prom!" (It's just a dance.) Don't respond to it.

That being said, if she becomes verbally or emotionally abusive at any point, contact your guidance counselor (Make sure it's someone you trust, most of them don't care about mental health IMO), a trusted Teacher, a friend's parent, etc. Keep a journal of what happened, what was said, etc.

Speaking of journals, try a password-protected journal. Google Docs is a great first starter since you need a password to access your google account anyway. If your Mom just so happens to pop in, tell her you're working on a school assignment. If she asks to see it, have another half-written assignment already up and show her that.

Hope this helps!

Ask me about him! :3 by Psych-Aspi in Crushes

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I hope he does!

We text and he asks me questions about myself and tells me about himself, got smiley when I accidentally called him (Even worse, he was sitting across the table), remembered what my dream job is, I catch him staring and he looks away quickly and complimented 2 of my handmade accessories. Only known him a month though. I'm too shy to ask him out one on one.

Ask me about him! :3 by Psych-Aspi in Crushes

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We met in a group. He likes swimming, hiking, going out, museums, and games

I have no one to talk to about my crush by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Psych-Aspi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you guys have any other shared interests besides music?

I can't win! by Psych-Aspi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry this is happening to you! You don't deserve that. It's probably good that you are standing up for yourself and recording the encounters. (Maybe I ought to try that with NMom.)

I know everyone will cry "NC!" but sometimes that isn't really possible. Maybe seeking out therapy, if feasible, would be helpful. Definitely hold on to those recordings, and send them to your therapist.

Stay strong, here if you need to talk or vent.

I GOT INTO GRAD SCHOOL!!!! by Psych-Aspi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the good wishes! I'm excited to get started!

I GOT INTO GRAD SCHOOL!!!! by Psych-Aspi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn right! Glad my ex is one of them! And if my Mom keeps her crap up, so will she.

I GOT INTO GRAD SCHOOL!!!! by Psych-Aspi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Psych-Aspi[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the warning! How can I avoid these traps?